(Flying) Bear hugs for Steve, onlyjoking and their children

[WanderingTrolley]

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For oj

For Elliot

Quick! What do the girls like?

Is this ok? I think you said one of them liked to watch it.

Is that everyone sorted?

Not forgetting the carers!

oj your self critcism is in the circumstances humbling........like others I check mn morning noon and night and you and your gorg children are constantly in my prayers.

You are an inspiration to you and us all .

xxxx MP

Oj is one of the most unselfish people I have ever had the privilege to meet, and always thinks of her family before herself.

This is why we all love sending her the little goodies we do because we know she enjoys them but would NEVER ask for them for herself & she bloody deserves them.

I can understand about the olives OJ, I remember not long after Matthew died going shopping in Sainsbury`s, I found myself standing staring at Munch bunch yogurts, his favourite, crying my eyes out because I would never be able to buy them for him again. It was 14yrs yesterday that he died and I still cannot think of Munch bunch without feelng sad. xxx

onlyjoking-. at your mil.

OJ, I'm so glad the parcel got to you ok, I can't believe I forgot to put chocolate in!!! Crack the glowsticks - safer than candles .

You cry all you want, I'm sure there are going to be so many seemingly little things that will set you off over the next weeks/years.

Thinking of you all as always xx

oj, triplets, I know that feeling well, it is the little things the real mundane stuff that we miss so much when loved nes leave us.

OJ , i too am a first thing in the morning and last thing at night checker on this thread.
thoughts of love and wishes for a peaceful night x

BossyBritches

I am sure you would agree that there is a time and a place for everything, and this is not it. [hard stare]

Thinking of you, OJ. XX

thankyou all you really are all lovely.
the very lovely consultant from the hospice who came yeasterday is just so fab the DNs were blown away that she was here for an hour and a half she told them to phone her anytime and she will come out, i love that consultant, she said she would ring me today and of course she did, she checked how steve had been and checked how the kids were and how i was too, she asked how the vist with MIL went and i told her about the comments she made about the purple marks the consultant is going to write up in steves notes about the marks being due to steves cancer and drugs, this is the same consultant that MIL and BIL have made a complaint about.
our Mac nurse is still off poorly, i hope she will be ok soon cos she is lovely too.

thanks for teh update. it's impressive that you can still sort all the practical stuff out amidst what must be a pretty surreal situation for you & your family, x

OJ

You are a wonderful person, you are part of a wonderful family. [immediate family you understand]

By your very being, you guys evoke the best response in people, which is why everyone is behind you 100%.

The consultant sounds wonderful.....but then it comes back to.............as you sow, so shall you reap.

Here if you need me.

LGJ

XXX

Goodnight OJ, hope tonight goes OK and you have a good awake carer tonight (too many nights in there but I'm too tired to retype!)

xxx

Darling, I am so sorry about the olives. You have done so well to hold it together - I think it is inevitable that the sadness will come out in unexpected ways.

That consultant sounds like a star. What a true professional.

I will be thinking of you this evening and hoping you get a peaceful night. Love to you, Steve and the children XXXX

Good grief OJ, you're MIL is some piece of work. I'm pleased that the consultant is so lovely and seems to understand your needs. She sounds fab.

Wishing you all a peaceful evening and a restful calm night.

Hi Oj, so good to hear from you, how old will the girls be?

look after yourself OJ
xx

goodnight oj ,hoping the night is uneventful and you manage to get some rest for a while,also hope that steve is peaceful x

OJ as everyone said it's ok to cry, allow yourself to grieve and be upset but also to be grateful to have had a wonderful husband.

I'm so sorry you're going through this!

Big hugs and goodnight xxxxxxxx

OJ, it's always those little things that get to you. I lost my father very suddenly and the thing that got me blubbling was his unfinished novel left face down next to his bed that morning. Just that he'd never finish it.

I so so so hope you have a good night tonight.

Ohhh, if, I remember that, with my mother - Margaret Powell's books (Below Stairs, Climbing the Stairs) were very popular when she was ill; I went out from work one lunchtime to buy her the next one and took it to her on my way back in. When she died it came home, with her other little possessions, with a corner turned down about 2/3 of the way through, so she never knew how it turned out.

oj, sweetheart, keep the olive jar in the cupboard - I know Steve won't eat them now, but every time you open the door and see it he'll be there with you - as so many people have said on this thread, what you are going through makes us all realise how much we take for granted (DH loves olives too).

oj your wobbles are more than justified

thinking of you and wishing i could be of any use to you ...x

I know the olives made me cry today [ hmm] but at some point they will make me smile and I will be thankful for those olives and the memories they hold.
the things that now make me cry ( with the exception of Mil) will be the very things that one day will make me remember this difficult time and will keep me close to Steve and the love we have and even thou Steve won't be here it will give me comfort, I have been lucky to have Steve and I will always know his love.