We eat fruit. It is nice. 10 / 10 thread

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For anyone who wants a boost to their general health. The suggested goals are:

EAT 10 PORTIONS OF FRUIT AND VEGETABLES EVERY DAY - if you don't usually eat much fruit and veg I would build up gradually or you could upset your digestion.

DO (AT LEAST) 10 MINUTES OF EXERCISE EVERY DAY - can be yoga, stretching or something more energetic. The plan is that the idea of doing 10 minutes is not too daunting, and having started you may well find you want to do more.

There are no restrictions on what you eat so long as you get your 10 fruit and veg as well. The focus is not on weight loss but on improving our energy levels and hopefully our general mood and well-being. Sign up below and post here to tell us how you're getting on and how you are feeling.

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hello chaps
how is everyone?
How are you Mrs C?

Been having a bit of a large wobble..back home now & having an all time low slump.

hello Lully you were missed
was it a wobble re: your health? have you been in hospital?

Boco he is putting you in a very difficult position. I am very sorry as I know you were really looking forward to the holiday.

Oh everyone is having a hard time

Boco & Avi & Bero

Hi Franny...no not been in hospital
just everything mounting up really
health,relationship,living circumstances
I fled for a week with ds to think & then we had a week all together.
I need changes & soon
Because I cant live like this anymore

oh gosh Lully
I couldn't tell from your post what you meant at first, I understand now
did you get some good time to think? have you planned anything that you would like to do?

Boco - then he is being selfish and you are being entirely unselfish doing this thing with his family under the circumstances. You are concerned, you will have to deal with him, I might be inclined to be unpacking if it were me.

I know you have to go and so on but really, it's slack and thoughtless of him. This doesn't help you. I hope he is ok and that it goes smoothly.

Lully - that sounds stressful, hope it is settling down and you can come to some decisions.

Agree with Avi, Boco, important you tell them I think.

Lully! We wondered about you.

I am sorry to hear things have been hard. Did you sort things out on the week together or not? Sounds sad. Hope you are okay.

Oh Toot too
Oh lovely one,so wish I was nearer
Can I do anything at all?

Thanks everyone
I'm one of these people that plods on & on endlessly until I arrive at a point when I just cant cope anymore.
It's hard when there isn't one direction in your life that seems hopeful
Ds is so small,my health so uncertain & my relationship with dh has deteriorated into nothing.
He works too hard,too long,too much for his age.He is never here & when he is is too tense & tired & critical to be around.
Ds finds his lack of interest & time very hard to deal with & is becoming a very angry little boy.
I cannot drive,have no income of my own or joint account,no family network & have just lost my confidence & sense of purpose.
Down in Devon with ds my heart lifted again,amongst old friends we were wanted,we laughed,I felt inspired.
We have been lonely & lost here for too long
With or without dh,I need to make a life for us & provide Charlie with the childhood he so badly needs.

sorry to ramble

Oh dear yes, TooT too. [skims down thread] How was the hospital TooT? I hope you got back again, if you're staying in and you need me to come and bring things then please say so. I am not far from the hospital.

Oh Lully. I am sorry. It all sounds very hard for you. Do you feel like you are closer to making decisions? Do you feel you have some in front of you to make or not?

Sorry to hear that Lully, sounds hard. But also sounds positive that you know where you want to be and what you need to do, friends really help don't they, I hope you can make a plan and make things better.

Will talk to inlaws early on. Maybe it will be a good thing for someone else to see what it can be like.

I think that's a good idea, boco.

lully - sounds like a decision that's been brewing for a while and when you've got away, completely away with people you trust, then you can see the situation clearly.

It is always a good idea to make yourself as independant as possible even if you do not make any immediate changes. You muct be feeling very confused and unsettled right now. Will your friends and family be supportive?

Hmmm...he wants his life of old
No responsibility,stacks of holidays,fun & frolicks

Being a father in his fifties has hit him hard,especially with no parental role models.
The happy go lucky party animal loved by one & all that I first met got lost along the way.
He is resentful that his friends are winding down their lives & he is having to work harder than ever with a small child to support.
He does have a gym membership,a motorbike.He gets to travel...but I guess it's hard to accept such a drastic change in life when you are his age.
He has never accepted sharing me or the fact that I am ill & cannot do or be what I was before.
I am always tired & probably not much fun..but he has yet to accept the inevitable & is in total denial.
We had our first night out together in almost four years on Friday.It was very odd.

Oh dear Lully, good to see you, I was worried. Sorry things are bad though >>

Boco, that does sound hard. I hope that the trip is good in spite of everything and thatdh calms down and ILs are helpful.

Right, have been to hospital (didn't get lost there or back - hooray!!!!)
Waited about a bit, saw people, have to go back later today to see eye doc.
They nearly sent us to Bristol

Seriously 100x, and very humbly, if crunch came to squeak, how would I get hold of you?
We should be fine, my only concern is that they may want to examine him under GA today, which would be long-winded because of starvation time.
I may put a pre-emptive pair of clean knickers in my pocket just in case.

blimey what a bad day you are all having - I hope it improves.

Toot - what a stress, knickers and a hip flask I think.

Lully - that is lame, very lame indeed but you know that. I hope you have some resolution.

We are going to splash in puddles, well, ds2 will splash in one puddle for a very long time and I will chat to several passing people who will say, isn't it funny they have all these toys and they just like puddles, or some such.

Does he sit in them MrsC? Ds1 used to.

dp and ds also out puddle splashing
we have cleared loads of stuff, you can get in the spare room again
for those who remember the slash den you will know this is quite an achievement

Lully I think you know we would all be right behind you wanting to make chamges. I am sorry things have had to get so low for you to need urgently to do something about it. I agree with Avi about finding out what income you can have being very important.

TooT good luck with it when you go in again. Did they have any ideas what's up?

he does, Toot, so we got one of those all in one suits!

It's sunny here..no sign of the horrendous rain they promised

Typical having frozen our socks of in Devon all week

It feels v odd being back here
I havn't unpacked & cant get myself together

My father arrives in London tomorrow so have a whole week of travelling up & down & have to brace myself for meeting the new woman in his life
i feel like a squirmy fifteen yr old at the thought

(((((((Lully))))))) , hello chick!

TooT I expect you are otherwise engaged but I have found some summer shoes (canvas type) that don't fit ds any more. Could you use them?

size 9 and 10 - several pairs of size 9s so if anyone else could use them please let me know - some are worn looking but not worn out

Thinking of you and ds2 TooT.

Solidarity to lully and Boco Boco it does sound self-destructive and unreasonable. Do not want to fan any flames but you know Berlin is not toooo far from a lot of Poland (rather ignorantly I don't know how far from Krakow) if you need a day or two's breather. petrovafossil a t gmx d o t de

In fact, anyone who feels the need of a break (e.g. you lully), our flat is empty the last full week of June and the three weeks from approx 30 Jul-21 Aug, any 10/10er welcome to stay Lully I wish I could be wiser, am at that 'turning point' feeling myself, our issues are very different but I know this feeling an urgent need to 'make a life' that I feel is worthwhile.

Oh dear Lully

TooT hope you are getting on OK

Boco I hope DH sees sense before you go - is there time? Has he stopped taking the AD's suddenly before? Different types mean coming off quickly means different things.

Hope evryone else has had a good day

Have gymned and been round garages this afternoon looking at cars with DH (yawn)