WE ARE WITH YOU--------OJ-------COME AND SHOW YOUR SUPPORT AND LOVE FOR OJ AND FAMILY

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Just had another text saying "we are okay."

exactly LGT

fab advice bree

oj dont let the shits drag you down. Steve is your man - he chose you not them

you know what he wants but like bree says- not worth wasting your energy on them at this time

nod smile ignore x

oops LGJ

Just managed to catch up on some of the messages, OJ I am so for you.
Don't know what to say, but am thinking of you, as we all are.
xxxx

I have adopted a saying of my brother's for dealing with the sort of crap you are getting from MIL, OJ. He tells me: 'tune it out, it's only noise.'
You know what Steve wants, so you don't need to engage with any of this. It really is only noise. Only Steve and the children matter.

OJ, you are doing an amazing job of taking care of Steve. Who cares what his brother and mum think he wants.

They clearly just want to be in control and will stop at nothing it seems. You do what is right for you, Steve and your children. They will just have to like it or lump it.

am so sad for you all reading this. thinking of your family oj and wishing you all peace and strength.

Signing out for the night.

Girls you are all incredible, the love & support on here makes me weep.

Jo & Steve - big (gentle) teddy bear hugs xx

The MIL as no idea. Who wants to spend their last few days of life stuck in a hospice when you can be at home getting all the care that can be given and with the ones you love.

Grrrrr

Off to try and sleep now but our candle will be burning all night (safely)

Hazel xx

Nuts

Hospices can be great, but they are not what OJ and Steve require at this moment.

LGJ

I hate to say it OJ but I don't think your MIL is ever going to change. The sad thing is that it is her loss if she cannot see how wonderful you and the kids are and how Steve would want to BE WITH YOU when the time comes. I suspect she realizes that her tantrums are fruitless now but for the sake of trying to come across as the victim in all of this she will probably keep up her antics until the end. I know so many of us have said this (and its easy as we are not in your shoes) but you Steve and the kids are what is most important. You need to spend all the time you possibly can together and share those last precious moments (when they come) with each other as a family. Sorry to sound harsh but if all Steve's mum is going to kick off, abuse and disregard you and the kids then it is not worth having her there. xxx

OJ, nobody can know Steves wishes better than you. Your lives have been intertwined for so long that no amount of crap from THEM can break the bond. I am certain that Steve would want you making the decisions for him, not them. You have been so brave for so long.
Wishing you peace tonight.
love
xx

Oh love. No words. Nothing that hasn't been said before anyway.

Am totally heartbroken for you. Am thinking of you constantly.

Off to bed now but will check in as soon as I wake up as I will think of you both first thing.

xx

Only just seen your update from this afternoon (god I've been crap following your whole journey). Thinking of you all and praying for peaceful night for you.

LGJ Yeah I know hospices can be great but when you want to be at home and you can be at home why would you want to be in one. It just seems the the MIL does not want Steve to be happy as he can be at home with his family. She just has no idea what Steve wants yet trying to change want happens. Like someone else said, She wants to be in control and does not know when to stop.

HN xx

Perfect LittleLapin

Good thinking.....Great title.

Lovely title LL x

Your mil is a tit

OJ, I hope I'm not treading on toes but I wanted to suggest a song to you for this time and when Steve slips away... It may not be your kinda thing but I think it is so beautiful...

It's Israel Kamakawiwo'ole's version of Over the Rainbow. I can't see YouTube to check out the version that's there... I first heard it on OneTrueMedia when vainly trying to make a montage of dd. Computer said no.

Anyway I thought you might like it too

Thinking of you, hoping you get a few more precious cuddles yet.

TTM x x

I read and I weep for you.
Love and Blessings to you all.xxx

Dearest Oj...............I cannot sleep tonight, I am depressed tonight, I am upset, I am so sad for you, your children and for their wonderful father, I wish with all my heart I could take this pain away for you, dearesr Oj, love and prayers, and strength I send to you this night xxxxx