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Just had another text saying "we are okay."

Mad has the right solution. Call the old bitch bag and smile sweetly down the phone, offering her this option. Of course, if she says she'll just wait longer, then you'll have to smile sweetly to her face for longer

I agree too.

Or (being your MIL) maybe you should tell her that whatever time she comes 12.30 would be really inconvenient for you. That way she will probably turn up 12.30 on the dot!

Although this would backfire if for once she was human reasonable, so probably what others have suggested is more sensible.

Best wishes, as always, to you and your family.

I agree that you make her feel important by saying that the HV's etc etc can't make it until 12.30 and that they would welcome her input. If she's as thick skinned as she appears, it will be a compliment to her and she'll work around you. Steve is her son and whilst you are always going to be the most important person for him 9 and the children) she needs to "feel" important. By her words, actions etc she has shown no sense/compassion etc etc but you are a really graceful person. If you look at the old meaning of graceful, it doesn't mean you're a great dancer, it means you are literally "full of grace". You are a better person and whilst you really want to lamp her one/scream until you're sick you are so much in control now. Every second is a blessing, every breath a miracle. Live each breath for yourself and Steve....xxx

Am so sorry OJ-habe only concentrated on what a complete bitch selfish person MIL is and not where she lives.
I think it is important she is there tomorrow to hear what she,(in her eyes) the professionals have to say.
Can she go and come back for then?
It's her son FGS so I hope so.

If not,it just compounds things and there will be another few wax voodoo dolls added overnight [wicked emoticon]

How was Steve's relationship with MIL when he was younger? Were they ever close?

Hi OJ - sending you all love and good wishes from Fife xx

ImaginaryFriend, I am sure OJ has said in the past, that her mil was a right cowbag to Steve and his Siblings when they were younger.

I am running on empty but have my phone if you need to text later.

hope you have a peaceful night

SO the old bag must have left by now? I hope you are airing the house straight away...

I promise i'll be up until well after Midnight tonight as I've messed up my MST and can't go to bed until I've taken the night dose, which will be just after 12. So... you know where I am, trust me poppet

Hope the visit went ok tonight

sending love
xx

well MIL and brother came, MIL rushed through said hello to the kids as she walked passed them and ignored me.
mike said hello to me.
the carer wanted to go to the loo so i stood at the breakfast bar so they couldn't see me but i could hear them.
MIL was saying that the carers just sit all day reading magazines
she also said that steve was how he is cos of all the meds i give him
on the way out MIl didn't speak and mike asked if he could have a talk to me about something personal, i said yes but he said not now, i told him he could ring me, so i don't know what that is about.

Far out OJ, I don't know how you hold it together, your MIL is such a cow. You don't know me, but I "know" you, and think you are amazing not to have shot her by know.

She is an insensitive expletive OJ. How dare she!! Don't believe a word she says.

How on earth do you do it OJ.
Really?
What? and Why? and EEERG?

Oh darling

She seems determined to either act stupid or blame you as much as she can, I assume this is because she can't handle what is happening to Steve.

You are such a wonderful lady, you are behaving with such dignity and love for your family at this time.

Much love to you and yours darling xx

and my Fecking phone is broken, it has gone silent on me when it is set to full volume, i need it to work in case the carer needs me in the night

sorry - i know nothing of phones. do you have a spare old one? or does anyone near you?

Oh darling...........

She is madder than a box of frogs.

It goes against the natural order of things to bury your child, even if you abandoned them

But she actually has no manners or breeding on her.

To quote my wonderful Nana, what can't be cured, must be endured, and there is no cure for ignorance.

I'm so sorry OJ. Bloody MIL.

Fingers crossed for a good night for Steve.

Can't help re phone...

But surely she could sprint upstairs to get you if needs be ?

Hope you get the phone issue sorted OJ.

Your MIL is.... I don't know .... words fail me really. And you do not know how unusual that is.

Am off to bed now - hope you get some sleep.

OJ call your provider and tell them why you need it! kick some ass (pretend it's MIL )

Fecking witch. yeah so this is the carer I saw on his feet constantly tending to Steves needs, & helping Jo then??

Steve is as good as he is BECAUSE of Jo's love & care, & he is where HE wants to be- but then this is all about what SHE (MIL) wants not Steve.

oooooh I'm beyond