I am to lazy ?

[Julia34]

For over week I am spending most days in my bed. I go out only if nessecary. I want to do many things but I lack the motivation like in one part of me I know I want and should get up from the bed and do stuff but the other part of me keep me in bed. I don't know what going on. Do I have health problems or is my laziness hit the highest level possible ? I don't want mention this before cause I am new there on this forum. My house needs good cleaning it was taking me 3 days to wash up the dirty dishes I clean bit by bits when I find enough motivation to get up from bed . The cold weather not help either. I don't know what going on with me. Does everyone had same problem? Thanx for any advice

Give yourself a break OP, you've had surgery. It takes a while to recover from them both mentally and physically.
You are allowed a week in bed, we are only human.

Is your kid being looked after?

No this not from surgery I sure I was hav while ago and feel good after it. The symptoms I got is something else. I was had check up after surgery to check everything is ok and it was. So I know something going on. I feel tired most day, have motivation to do stuff but lack energy, I keep getting bruises for no reason got 2 already on my legs. I feel dizzy often insteady I don't know maybe for sure got vitamins deficiency

Yes I look my daughter but well I made her quick meals for dinner, spend some time with her too, I do force myself to do stuff for her but on.the other hand she does many things on her own so this make easy for me and her dad take her sometimes to his house

My daughter is 11. She goes secondary school now by herself, come back by herself too, she bath long time alone. Do laundry is not hard with wash machine not take long to put clothes in wash machine

If you are not still suffering from the after effects of your surgery, why are you signed off work until January? Who decided that?

What surgery did you have?

My doctor

On my stomach I need follow up also special diet for some time but after this surgery I feel good for some while. The lack of motivation tiredness etc come just recently not long ago. I have no issue with my stomach any more

OK, but that doesn’t explain why you were signed off for a long period even after you had recovered from the surgery?

Perhaps being out of your usual routine while not feeling ill/in pain has led to you sinking into a lack of motivation and low mood?

It shouldn’t take you that long to do simple tasks. You may feel better out of bed and having an hours blitz around.

That not me decide about it but my doctor. I was feel ok for while after the surgery the feeling not motivation with some psyhical symptoms come not long ago(tiredness, getting bruises) I need first go doctor to check up what can it be. If is depression then sure the faster back to work can help but if is health issue going back work earlier won't help. I need to do doctor check up first

I clean a bit but simple tasks make me practically tired. I get tired often so fast. I do clean but what it take me long time. My friend come over with her daughter to mine this weekend. I clean the house a bit but it toke me ages. I want do stuff the tiredness stop me

I know you right. I don't like it either. That why I going doctor on Monday because I need to sort it out. I not enjoy being in bed I physically getting weak,I tired almost all day, I keep getting bruises for jo reason . I not like that at all. I want do stuff but psyhically can't do much

My friend coming with her child so sure I will well somehow get up and yeah Monday go doctor

Have they checked your thyroid? Blood levels, covered the basics? If you are getting bruises this is not just a case of depression…you need your gp to run some tests x

No I don't had yet any check up but on Monday I go doctor I will be know more by then about the check ups. I sure I will be had blood test done

Well I hope so too

They should also test your ferritin (iron stores). Make sure you get the result yourself as the NHS has a very low minimum, around 14, whereas it often needs to be at least 50 to be sure of avoiding fatigue.