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Bum surgery- is it really worth it?

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oberst · 11/06/2024 11:22

I'm not sure what else to call it, it could be a haemorroidectomy but not sure as doctor has said it's more like a skin tag now.

I have had this pile (dw I won't upload a photo 🫠) for 12 years. It inflates and flares up then deflates like a balloon.

When it flares up, it can be itchy and sore; especially with a bowel movement but it's not AGONISING. It's just 'there' and annoying and uncomfortable. This happens every couple of months. I've done creams and suppositories.

My main reason for removal though is because it doesn't look very nice. I don't like my partner going down there, and I get all on edge when we are intimate. I don't want to feel like this every time, I love sex and intimacy but this just puts me off. I hate it.

I went to see my consultant yesterday, he said it was more like a skin tag than anything. He has seen the photos of when it is flared up. It's probably the size of a blueberry but deflated. Then it gets swollen when flared up.

I have heard and read that the recovery for this is excruciating. Because they just slice it off and that's it. No sutures etc.

The consultant said they'd give me laxatives and pain relief. But the horror stories out there are making me so anxious.

Because it's not internal and it's just one, will it still be just as bad?

The position of it is basically the nearest to my vagina, if that makes sense.

Do I go ahead and just put up with the pain?

It's set for the 17th July. I go on holiday for two weeks on the 9th August and get married in October. Will it be worth it? It is bloody annoying when it flares up and it is unsightly.

Anyone out there who's had the procedure? Any advice?

Thank you!

OP posts:
TheTwitcher11 · 04/01/2025 18:21

Mynewnameis · 13/06/2024 06:49

Had it done in April and no pain at all. Glad it's gone. Mine was nhs as it was causing issues

Do you mind me asking which procedure did you have (and was it for piles?) and did you have it done via NHS? Thanks :)

TheTwitcher11 · 04/01/2025 18:29

Miiaaoow · 20/06/2024 14:08

I had two externals removed and the post surgical pain was absolutely fine as long as I took enough laxido to keep everything semi liquid for quite a few weeks. And I had to use a handheld bidet. I let the internet horror stories put me off having the surgery for nearly 4 years and I really regret that.

Definitely wouldn't to go on a pool/beach holiday a few weeks after though.

Was it a haemorrhoidectomy that you had?

Mynewnameis · 04/01/2025 20:19

TheTwitcher11 · 04/01/2025 18:21

Do you mind me asking which procedure did you have (and was it for piles?) and did you have it done via NHS? Thanks :)

No. Skin tags and botox

Anon5260 · 14/12/2025 19:03

Frazzledcat · 11/06/2024 22:17

There is a post from years back on this that you may find helpful. I too had it done and my experience is on that post.

Anal skin tag surgery. Frightened. Any experience? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/general_health/2458570-Anal-skin-tag-surgery-Frightened-Any-experience

@Frazzledcat There are a lot of pages on that thread. Would you mind sharing your experience here please?

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