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How to go about a private GP appointment.

384 replies

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 01/06/2024 15:53

Would be grateful for any advice as I think my brain has glitched.

How do I go about booking a private GP face to face appointment ? It is for suspected stomach cancer. Is bupa better than Nuffield, do I need to find one that specialises in Gastric or pain relief? Or are they generalists? Google is giving me the impression that I need to book a face to face at a private hospital as opposed to a clinic based GP.

Dh has seen his Nhs GP and has been referred on the two week pathway, but is in pain and needs to know what he is facing. Nhs GP has refused pain relief other than paracetamol and has refused a sick note for his work. Apparently they are two separate issues and need two more appointments - the next available appointment is a month away. He only managed to get an emergency appointment after 2 weeks of daily phoning. Dh was prescribed antacids. He had been referred for blood tests, (2 weeks for results) stool tests (2 weeks for results) and endoscopy. Our local A and E has some of the worst wait times (18+ hours) and understandably Dh would rather be in pain at home rather than on the floor of an and e. The hospital wait for scans which are around 26 weeks.

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MustTryHarderAndHarder · 07/06/2024 09:26

So so sorry to hear your update @Alphabet1spaghetti2

Life is so unfair.

Sending you love ❤❤❤

Mezzaninemel · 07/06/2024 11:09

I’m so sorry to read your update. I will be keeping you both in my thoughts, sending you much love xx

1AnotherOne · 07/06/2024 13:32

So sorry to hear your update. You did amazing as his advocate and pushing for him to be seen. Take your time. We are all here for you if you need us.

elastamum · 07/06/2024 15:54

So sorry to hear your update. Am thinking of you both and sending good wishes x

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 07/06/2024 17:30

Palliative care only. He’s home. I’ve rung the dr surgery. They were aghast at the hospital treatment and have added more drugs to his pain relief and are urgently getting district nurse and hospice Macmillan etc etc onboard. The hospital said I can do it all.

m wedding licence came through in two hours after I applied. Wedding at home tomorrow at 11:30. Registrar is brilliant. So two of his wishes fulfilled. And I think marriage will fulfill his wish to make the house mine with no worries.

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TraitorsGate · 07/06/2024 17:37

I've been thinking about you both and am so glad he's home where he wants to be, all the very best tomorrow on your special day.

BlossomToLeaves · 07/06/2024 17:53

I hope you can both make some special memories tomorrow. You are doing an amazing job in really unfair circumstances.

LizzieBennett73 · 07/06/2024 18:13

I wish you both a kind journey OP. Come and talk whenever you need to. When my Dad was in his last stages I don't think I've ever felt so many emotions and so quickly swinging from one to another. There's nothing that isn't normal or OK.
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Theraffarian · 07/06/2024 18:34

I can’t quite believe how fast all of this has happened to you both . I hope you have a peaceful gentle wedding tomorrow. I so admire how you are getting through this , sending wishes to your partner that the pain relief works for him .

Barleycat · 07/06/2024 20:24

So sorry for what you are both going through. I hope that the wedding goes well tomorrow, your love for your DP is clear from your posts ❤

MrsH497 · 07/06/2024 21:32

❤️

DPotter · 08/06/2024 00:11

I am so sorry for you both - so sad.

I hope you can gather those you love and who love you around you both.

I'm in Oxfordshire if I can be of any help

MissHavershamReturns · 08/06/2024 07:42

I’m so so sorry to read this op and will be thinking of you both when you are getting married today.

misscockerspaniel · 08/06/2024 10:17

Thinking of you both today. (Big unmumsnetty hug).

RosieChardonnay · 08/06/2024 11:26

Thinking of you both today 💐

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 08/06/2024 13:04

married at home. Dh very tired so a quite walk around our garden (30 secs!) and a quick sit down watching the birds. A perfect honeymoon.

our time is now our own.

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LIZS · 08/06/2024 13:33

So sorry that the prognosis is not good. Enjoy your honeymoon Flowers

Bathoclock · 08/06/2024 13:39

I’ll be thinking about you and your husband, wishing you enjoy some peaceful moments together x

Theraffarian · 08/06/2024 14:02

Congratulations Mr & Mrs @Alphabet1spaghetti2 , I know it’s not what you would have envisioned, but still lovely for you both to have had today .

DPotter · 08/06/2024 18:22

Congratulations Flowers

1AnotherOne · 08/06/2024 19:49

Congratulations - wishing you a peaceful and comfortable marriage x

Timeforachocolate · 08/06/2024 21:02

Congratulations. Good to hear you were able to do this today.

LizzieBennett73 · 08/06/2024 21:04

Congratulations to you both Flowers

NowYouSee · 09/06/2024 21:54

Congratulations on your marriage Op. Wishing you both the best it can be from here.

Newbutoldfather · 10/06/2024 08:43

Congratulations on your marriage!

I didn’t want to post yesterday but this might be the point where seeing a private oncologist is worthwhile.

I do struggle to see how they have gone from not sure to terminal/palliative only on the basis of a couple of days and an endoscopy. There are various treatments depending on tumour type and stage available.

Sometimes even palliative chemo can buy a few pain free months.

Please ignore this post if I have in some way misunderstood, and I wish you both the best.