How to go about a private GP appointment.

[Alphabet1spaghetti2]

Would be grateful for any advice as I think my brain has glitched.

How do I go about booking a private GP face to face appointment ? It is for suspected stomach cancer. Is bupa better than Nuffield, do I need to find one that specialises in Gastric or pain relief? Or are they generalists? Google is giving me the impression that I need to book a face to face at a private hospital as opposed to a clinic based GP.

Dh has seen his Nhs GP and has been referred on the two week pathway, but is in pain and needs to know what he is facing. Nhs GP has refused pain relief other than paracetamol and has refused a sick note for his work. Apparently they are two separate issues and need two more appointments - the next available appointment is a month away. He only managed to get an emergency appointment after 2 weeks of daily phoning. Dh was prescribed antacids. He had been referred for blood tests, (2 weeks for results) stool tests (2 weeks for results) and endoscopy. Our local A and E has some of the worst wait times (18+ hours) and understandably Dh would rather be in pain at home rather than on the floor of an and e. The hospital wait for scans which are around 26 weeks.

No-one should expect you to cope at this stage so do not ask too much of yourself. You need those around you to prop you up, as you will be drained.
At this point after my DH died I was in a sort of daze, interspersed with bouts of weeping and feeling as though I would never be able to get on top of my life ever again.
I know how hard this is.
Bizarrely the knowledge that bereavement and death are an everyday thing and that others are grappling with all this somehow helped me ... I know that sounds odd but I felt that many many people around me had been through the same and there they were pottering round the shops or whatever.
I will not give you advice ... we all deal with this in our own way .. but I will send fellow feeling. It is so hard.

I am sorry to hear how much you are struggling. I am sure no-one expects you to be coping at this point, and I hope you can go easy and not expect it of yourself either. Today will be incredibly hard, and I'll be thinking of you.
Are there any bereavement groups near you that could provide some support in the next months? I don't know if you know that there is a bereavement section on here as well.

Hug and a handhold 💐

It’s early days @Alphabet1spaghetti2 , thinking of you

Dear Alphabet
You have been through so much. We're here to lean on

You're still in the very very raw and painful stage of grief. It's perfectly OK not to be OK. I'm 18 months down the line from losing my Dad and I still have days when I'm really not OK - other days are more manageable. I can't imagine losing my partner/husband like you did where you had no time to get your head around any of it. The shock as well as grief is going to be a hard bedfellow.

It gets easier. I promise. But right now, you're deep in the trenches and just getting through each day and having something to eat/drink is a huge acheivement. Anything else is a bonus.

@Alphabet1spaghetti2 I wish there were words that would help , I am so sorry for the pain and anger and grief you are going through .

OP

I am not saying me making a scene was the right thing to do, but attitudes did a u turn immediately after I made my opinions extremely clear regarding the gp actions and her comments and now the hospitals attitude, and that we wanted something, anything done now - there may have been a mention about being inhuman to leave him in such pain and otc paracetamol being ridiculous if you even suspect that someone has cancer and is presenting in pain and now with restricted breathing due to that pain as otc paracetamol isn’t the fix everyone seems to think it is. There may have also been quite a lot of tears involved and I was painfully explicit in the terms used to explain Dhs deterioration. Dh said he thought they got the message that I wasn’t going anywhere until he had better pain relief and was taken seriously.
I have apologised and thanked all the staff involved with Dh for their help.

I know this was a month ago, but I'm reading the thread and want to tell you how proud I am of you for finally shocking them into action. It beggars belief that they were going to send your DH home with nothing. It's terrifying. Sadly we don't get anywhere, it seems, if we don't shout. Thank goodness you were able to do that for your DH

OP, I can't tell you how sorry I am for your loss. I'll be thinking of you 🕯️