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Help me, i have just had one of those phone calls you dread.

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largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:28

DD has seen a consultant for tests recently, she is behind at school and seems emotionally immature. We had lots of academic tests done, took about 2 hours. She seemed to do ok.

We were then sent to the hospital for blood tests. I have no idea what for. The hospital just phoned me and said can the consultant come to the house one evening this week and speak to me about the results. They said they need my husband to be home too.

I am terrified. Has anyone else had a consultant come to the house? Am shaking and cant get hold of my husband or my mother.

She is coming tonight.

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MaryAnnSingleton · 02/04/2008 13:36

Wanted to add that my friend was at same school as me from primary through secondary and seemed perfectly able to keep up physically (in netball team for example) and mentally - not brilliant at spelling but she is one of the sharpest minds I know -so please be comforted in that. I know the fertility thing is a big blow and a huge thing to deal with but I'm sure you will get through it and think of all the new breakthroughs that happen medically every day

Buda · 02/04/2008 13:45

Just read GrapefruitMoon's post and would agree. I come from a very fertile family and yet had to have IVF as DH is infertile. We only have the one although I would have loved more. It's not the way I planned it. But it is the way it is.

And in 20 years time the advances in fertility treatment will be enormous I am sure.

SKYTVADDICT · 02/04/2008 13:50

LG&T - I have emailed you as I can't keep up with the thread!! Just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you x

ImflightbutIcantlogintoday · 02/04/2008 13:54

Wow, you are all so beautiful! I just looked at your profile

MaryAnnSingleton · 02/04/2008 14:00

absolutely agree - beautiful family

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largeginandtonic · 02/04/2008 14:07

Iam slowly begining to get my head round it i think. I have had to tell my ex p and his fiancee this morning.

My head has just about stopped hurting and i have not been sick for an hour or so. I am pretty sure my body has wobbled and recovered.

I am not by nature a wobbler, this has really knocked me for six. I keep picturing her being told this news, isee her little face crumple. Oh feck.

I KNOW she will be ok, i will do everything in my power to make sure she is and ensure she has the best help available. I will become a Turners Syndrome bore

Lenny what a nightmare for you too, i just googled Noonans and read the Wikepedia bit on it. It does sound very similar to this. How did you find out?

I cant believe that if i had not had that underlying feeling for so long that something was amiss it could have been missed. I mean her Grandmother is 4'11, my sis is 5'1 and i am only 5'4 if i stand on tip toes! Having read all the markers for it i can see she has most of them now.

I am so relieved all the scary things whizzing round my head yesterday afternoon where just thoughts and not a reality. I am pretty sure i have never been so scared in my life. The twins were born at 29 weeks and very poorly (ventilated) and had so many complications. I was terrified then too, but was so caught up in it all i dont really think i ever reflected on it all, i just got on with it. The fear that gripped me yesterday was something i never want to feel again.

I am so pleased to hear of the fantastic stories about sisters\friends with this Syndrome, is it reassuring. I thank everyone so much, this is why i LOVE MN. It is like having an entire team of specialists and friends all ready to help and research for you all at once. If only you could send tea\G&T's down the cables too.

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Mrsjaffabiffa · 02/04/2008 14:15

Tea and gin and cake would be a great idea but so would huge big warm arms that wrapped round so tight it took it all away for a few moments.

How did nobby exP take the news? That must have been hard having to talk to him about it too.

P will take this in her stride sweetie, she may even shrug it off to start with and then ask questions as she has time to think about it.

nailpolish · 02/04/2008 14:16

i'll ahve that G&T with you. any day . we could toast MN

stealthsquiggle · 02/04/2008 14:24

LG&T - you and your gorgeous family will pull through this. Strangely enough there was a woman on R2 talking about Turner's this morning and I thought of you (v. different situation as it was diagnosed early in pregnancy).

As for things getting missed - the signs are almost always obvious in retrospect, and good for you to sticking to your guns and getting the tests.

bundle · 02/04/2008 14:25

hi largeg&t, I've only just caught up with your news and wanted you to know I'm thinking about you all.

I used to work in an office with a girl who had TS - she was in her early 20's and I don't remember her having any health problems. She came from a big family too!

lennygrrr · 02/04/2008 14:43

Have catted you, LGT x

VanillaPumpkin · 02/04/2008 14:44

You have had an awful shock . There is a lot of sense being written on this thread though. You are being very brave and you will all get through this horrid traumatic bit . Nothing to add really, but add me to the list of people thinking about you and wishing you and your beautiful family well.

I also think the egg freezing is a lovely idea!!!

hifi · 02/04/2008 14:54

hi g and t dont know if this will help but i knew i was probably going to be infertile at 17, although not a nice thing to hear but it did prepare me for the future, that was over 20 years ago and im sure when your daughter is ready there will be even more available to her.

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largeginandtonic · 02/04/2008 15:46

I have added some pics of her to my profile. Am all teary eyed again.

Lenny will check my email now

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FAWKEOFF · 02/04/2008 16:05

She is absolutely beautiful....I am so sorry for you, but at least her illness isn't life threatening thats a HOOOOGE bonus for you x you will get her through it x

Saggarmakersbottomknocker · 02/04/2008 16:08

She's a cracker LG&T. You have a beautiful family

Twiglett · 02/04/2008 16:09

I am sorry for the shock you have had. I am sure you will be the best expert in the world and your DD will continue to grow in happiness, health and beauty

NorthernLurker · 02/04/2008 16:13

lovely pictures of your beautiful girl! I've read down a bit and seen your idea about egg freezing - just wanted to say I think that is a wonderful idea.

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largeginandtonic · 02/04/2008 16:20

Has anyone ever donated eggs or done a similar thing? I know nothing about that either, must do some research.

She is a cutee, such a stage lovey Always bouncing round and she has the biggest bossiest voice among us (and i am pretty bossy )

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NorthernLurker · 02/04/2008 16:29

The only girl amongst her brothers - she'd need to be pretty bossy

bundle · 02/04/2008 16:34

i interviewed someone once who'd donated eggs (altruistically, she'd had fertility treatment herself which had failed and then wanted to help other women) - i think it can be quite challenging!

MaryAnnSingleton · 02/04/2008 16:41

keep your chin up largeg&t - all will be ok..she's a lovely girl and will still be a lovely girl whatever the diagnosis xxxx

cocolepew · 02/04/2008 16:56

You have beautiful children, sorry you had such a shock. My dd1 has a genetic condition that may effect her fertility and she won't grow past 5 foot(if she gets that tall!). Take any help that is offered and go back to living your life. Best wishes and love to you all.