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Help me, i have just had one of those phone calls you dread.

494 replies

largeginandtonic · 01/04/2008 13:28

DD has seen a consultant for tests recently, she is behind at school and seems emotionally immature. We had lots of academic tests done, took about 2 hours. She seemed to do ok.

We were then sent to the hospital for blood tests. I have no idea what for. The hospital just phoned me and said can the consultant come to the house one evening this week and speak to me about the results. They said they need my husband to be home too.

I am terrified. Has anyone else had a consultant come to the house? Am shaking and cant get hold of my husband or my mother.

She is coming tonight.

OP posts:
piximon · 01/04/2008 20:53

Oh LG&T thinking of you and sending you my love and hugs.

ChopsTheDuck · 01/04/2008 20:54

Sending you lots of hugs. Hope you've managed to contact your mum. I'm sorry it wasn't good news.

Heated · 01/04/2008 20:55

So sorry to hear this. When you are feeling able there are some very good websites that lay out the treatment for girls and women with Tuners.

I wasn't sure whether to post this since it's still so new and overwhelming for you but I just wanted to say I came across Tuners whilst researching for a friend's dd who is having, amongst other things, treatment similar for those with Turners at Nottingham after she had childhood cancer which has meant growth hormone replacement and estrogen therapy, begun at 13-14 years, since her ovaries will not develop. She is doing very well and is a popular and happy girl, well supported at school.

mollymawk · 01/04/2008 20:57

Sorry to hear about this. I hope you find all the info people have posted useful when you feel able to take it all in.

pointydog · 01/04/2008 20:58

I'm really sorry you had this news.

yurt1 · 01/04/2008 21:00

Gosh what a shock.

From someone who had a child diagnosed with a condition aged 2 (not really unexpectedly - but even so 'tis still a shock) I would say try and find some other parents in the same situation. Online is a great place to start- you will make good friendships and you will be able to see how other families have integrated Turner's Syndrome into their lives.

Give yourself time. And although I'm not that keen on Holland (so feel free to say you hate it!) it might be a helpful read now. For TS you might want to change the word 'disability' to 'condition' as that will probably fit better, but the sentiment is still the same.

When you start to find out stuff about TS do bear in mind that like most of these things the way in which it affects individuals can vary enormously. So a) don't scare youself silly and b) don't start seeing your dd differently just because she now has a condition with a name. She's still the same little girl.

Do ask whether there's any knowlegable counselling available as well. It can really help (if it's given by someone with expertise in this sort of thing).

loopylou6 · 01/04/2008 21:01

big hugs to you and your lovely little girl

Zazette · 01/04/2008 21:04

My dd (6) has a wee friend at school who has TS. She is very titchy, very short-sighted, and found school very tiring at first (she is also very young in the year, which might have some bearing on the first and third of these). She's also a cheeky monkey, though I don't think that has any diagnostic significance!

Anyway, I happen to know that she has TS because I work with her gran and we chat about the girls; but the key thing I want to tell you is that my dd DOESN'T know this. The kids at school have no idea at all that 'Carly' has any kind of SN: they treat her - and she operates - entirely normally in the school environment.

MehgaLegs · 01/04/2008 21:05

Thinking of you lg&t. If you are ever over Chichester way we should get our crowds together and talk chickens.

What a difficult time this is for you - lots of support here on MN, it has got me through some hard times with DS4.

Fimbles5 · 01/04/2008 21:06

Sending you all the love in the world at this really sad and emotional time. Try to stay strong. My thoughts are with you and your wonderful, precious daughter. X

ScoobyDoo · 01/04/2008 21:06

Aw LG&T i am thinking of you all x x ((hugs))

castille · 01/04/2008 21:07

Oh my goodness LG&T, what an awful shock

Thinking of you.

princessmel · 01/04/2008 21:10

Thinking of you all.
Glad its not life threatening but such a shock.
xxx

AprilMeadow · 01/04/2008 21:11

LG&T I totally agree with what Cam said about P being no different to the gorgeous little girl that she was before you found out. I have had a quick look at some of the sites out there and when you and N are ready to have a read then i hope it is useful for you.

Sending you all much love and big hugs xxx

Eliza2 · 01/04/2008 21:12

So many positive comments here about the life experiences of girls with TS. Your daughter is lucky to have you, LG&T, and from what's been said here, it sounds like you are going to have--indeed, already have, a very lively,loveable little girl to enjoy.

I am thinking of you and your family.

shabster · 01/04/2008 21:14

G&T - hiya love - hope you are getting tipsy! I have been holding my breath for you for ages . I just got my medical dictionary out and it had Turners Syndrome in it. I have read through it quickly and, can I say this without meaning to be rude? I was dreading you posting tonight because I feared the worst kind of illness or syndrome. From the little I have read this is not going to be a major problem sweetheart. My DS was reading it with me and being very cheeky to his old mum saying I had some of the symptoms (Im a little titch too!!) I would breathe a small sigh of relief with the diagnosis. Especially after reading some of these posts written by people who know girls with Turners.

What were we saying to Triplets the other day???? Once you find out what is wrong you can make a plan of action Always here for you whenever you need to talk. Give your DD a massive hug from me please. I hope I haven't sounded flippant and haven't offended you - I haven't meant to. You were one of the first to welcome me onto the multiples thread and I wanted to offer my support.

hoxtonchick · 01/04/2008 21:15

what a shock lg&t. take care.

shrinkingsagpuss · 01/04/2008 21:16

so sorry for your news. You have a challenging road ahead of you, but still your beautiful little girl.

Take care, and try and sleep well, you have a lot of information to take on board.

Sexonlegs · 01/04/2008 21:19

LG&T, what an awful day for you. I wish I had looked up your profile before to see where you lived. I am only half an hour away.
Thinking of you and hope you get the support you need.

snorris · 01/04/2008 21:19

Lg&T-sorry you've had this news.

Jackstini · 01/04/2008 21:21

LGT - I really do hope you have had a large G&T by now, and lots of cuddles with dd and dh.
When/if you think you are ready here is a list of books so you have something you can dip in and out of and read as much as you need at a time www.amazon.co.uk/s/ref=nb_ss_b/026-2715648-0429211?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=turn ers+syndrome
Sending hugs and tons of supportive thoughts

moreJellothanJlo · 01/04/2008 21:25

just sending you and your dd some love and hugs LG&T

you'll get support on here, I'm sure, post when you feel up to it

slim22 · 01/04/2008 21:27

Thinking of you all & sending you lots of love.
I'm completely ignorant about the condition but let's look at it this way: It looks manageable.
Agree talking to other parents/support groups is very reassuring .
Wishing you are your precious DD the best
Take care.

mascarpone · 01/04/2008 21:28

Oh LG&T, read your posts this afternoon and have just come back to check in. Can't add much to what everyone else is saying but sending you my best wishes.

Mrsjaffabiffa · 01/04/2008 21:28

Shabster thats so true.
The waiting to know is often the hardest part. You do now know and can when you feel ready plan and prepare for what lies ahead. From what you were saying to me on the phone this avo lg&t about P and her picking up on things so quickly she is going to handle this very well when the time is right.

You and N are going to get through this shock, it will become part of your day to day stuff and the acceptance of this news is going to get easier.

She is and always will be the Princess in your brood, she'll go on calling her brothers Muppets and huffing and puffing about her brothers, nothing has changed there.

Life can be so cruel, you can manage this though sweetie. xxx