Cancer support thread 91 - don’t borrow tomorrow’s worries

[LemonDrizzle10]

New thread

@rainbowhairchalk
Thought as much 🤣
I'm worse, biology degree and eldest is a doctor....

Stick to the established sites - MacMillan etc

You won't have something new, it'll be a different name, that's all

No urgency is a very good thing @Slitheringheights

You know you'd be in by now if there were a concern

DS2 has just come home because he thought I sounded worried and upset

I meant something new for me to Google, not new to the world 😂

Hoping everyone has a peaceful, happy Christmas.

I've had my pre-op assessments, op booked for 2nd Jan. My last worry is waiting for results of my blood test to tell me if it's genetic or not, but I'm finding that easier to put to the back of my mind.
And I still can't decide whether to go for a full mastectomy or stick with lumpectomy as surgeon has said "that's all I need." But because I have 4 tiny tumours over a 4cm area, I'm worried about the possibility of the lumpectomy not getting it all and needing to go back in. But I guess the results of my blood test will dictate that anyway.
Currently just tired as DC3 shouting throughout the night, and grumpy because the spots where the marker seeds were put in are sore. But not feeling too bad.

But will be thinking of you all over the next few days.

Ohhhhh @rainbowhairchalk
I'll shut up
Am clearly not firing on all cylinders!!

@Tilllly This time of year can get a bit much for anyone - let alone those of us dealing with cancer too. Look after yourself and don’t be hard on yourself - we all have meltdowns during this rubbish journey. Sending you strength and hugs xxx

@rainbowhairchalk Im a googler as I have a scientific background, but tend to stick to reliable journal articles. BMJ, Lancet, New England Journal of Medicine and Pubmed. To be honest I learnt more from them than from my medical team and understanding things helped me to cope. If you do use google stick to reliable sources and read carefully.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/general_health/4969445-cancer-support-thread-92-christmas-happy-hour-at-the-patience-inn-7pm-tonight

I’ll head over to the pub now - get the drinks lined up.

Thanks @LemonDrizzle10 , mine's a Bailey's please...HUGE one!

Omg...I am a numpty! That was meant for the new thread 🙄

@youdontneedtopoo have you asked your surgeon what their rate is for having to "go back in"? There's a general statistic, which I think is about 20% but my surgeon's rate was much lower, and she was very confident she would be successful. She was right and I'm glad I followed her advice, but it's such a hard decision to make.

@youdontneedtopoo my friend went for the lumpectomy in a similar situation to yours. All good with her.

Hey @rainbowhairchalk. Sorry that you’re here. I’m in the waiting room too. Diagnosed on Nov 26th, had various scans, thought I would get my treatment plan this week but I’ve been referred to a teaching hospital & they’re going to decide my treatment plan. Have gone from disbelief, denial, anger, upset, catastrophising & back again but have mainly avoided googling.

Hope you all have the best Christmas that you can.

Wow that seems a long time to wait, I'm so sorry! I've been going mad after one week 🫣 hope you manage to enjoy your Christmas xx

Welcome @Yorkshiregold and sorry you find yourself here. Come on over to the new thread it’s cheerfully Christmassy there. It all gets much easier once you know the plan.