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Periods and anger please help

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beaniesteve · 28/02/2008 08:30

I have just sat in my car and screamed at the top of my voice several times because a car was blocking my wy in my road and showed no sign of moving towards the space I had left for it to exit, instead just flashing headlights at me for no reason (I could not pass him).

While this was annoying I do think my reaction was over the top but I am filled with an uncontrollable rage at the moment.

My periods are REALLY heavy and I am finding sleep difficult as I feel all hot and bothered.

I don't get period pains, just rage.

Is there anything I can do to level out my my moods ? PS I don't mean Yoga or meditation!)

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TimeForMe · 28/02/2008 09:51

Hi, I am suffering from exactly the same at the moment. For the past two months at period time I can feel this uncontrollable rage and anger building up inside me. It's very scary.

Last month, Dp had left the Lurpak out of the fridge and because he didn't put it away straight away I found myself raising my hand, in a fist, and bringing it down on the big tub of Lurpak, we were covered in the stuff. DP was lovely and just cleaned it up while I tried to stop myself from bursing into tears but, what frightened me was the rage I felt and the fact I did that without actually thinking, it just happened, sort of out of my control.

This month, I had all on not to get out of the car and give a bloke who had pushed in front ot me at the coal queue a right blasting! I had to warn DP that I had a 'Lurpak' coming on!

I thought it was to do with perimenopause because I am at 'that age' and have never felt like this before in my life. I used to take a supplement called 5htp which is brilliant for depression, mood and sleep problems, so I have just ordered some more. I hate feeling like this every month

HTH

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beaniesteve · 28/02/2008 10:17

I really hope it's not pre menopause for me! I'm only 38 in April!

I am tired because my boyfriend kept me awake snoring and I know that this is a contributory factor but I would be devestated if it was the menopause!

I have heard of 5htp but is it something you can take while trying to conceive?

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Mung · 28/02/2008 10:22

I have the same problem and only since my periods have come back since having DD. I never suffered at all before and now I suffer for about a week prior to my period. Like you I have this uncontrollable rage that surges inside me and is really hard to control. I am not sure if it is due to the lack of sleep or something that I am going to have to live with.

Its really horrible and I can't give you much advice, but i will be watching to see if anyone else comes along with anything.

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beaniesteve · 28/02/2008 10:36

The week before I am usually quite Hyper. I am just fed up. Not only am I angry but my period is heavy from day one until day five and doesn't stop until about day 7.

I wonder if when I was on the pill it had some stabilising effect on my moods?

I came off the mini pill in October so thought by now my cycle would have settled. If it has settled into making me a moody uncontrollable bitch then I'll be really pissed off

thanks for sharing. Timeforme and Mung I really get what you are saying. My rages are like a switch. I just explode and it's horrible.

Are you both finding sleep difficult too?

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TimeForMe · 28/02/2008 10:41

I'm not sure about the 5htp and trying to conceive. I think it would be advisable not to take it whilst pregnant though.

I'm 43 and as my periods have got much lighter and I am having touble sleeping, mainly due to being far too hot, something I'm not normally troubled by, I just assumed I was entering the perimenopause. I was so glad to see your post, I had thought about posting myself on Monday after a weekend of really having to bite my tongue and control myself.
I also seem to really despise my partner at this time of the month too, It's awful I just don't want him anywhere near me.

I know for a fact that diet helps, not giving into the sugar and carb cravings also, oil of evening primrose is supposed to help. I have started taking a good multi vitamin specially for women too.

I am prepared to try anything at the moment because I just don't like the person I become. I feel evil!

TimeForMe · 28/02/2008 10:45

Sleep is terrible. I feel tired but not that calm, restful kind of tired where you just fall asleep IYSWIM. I still feel wound up so I'm tossing and turning all the time. I have turned the clock to the wall now as I was always clock watching and working out how many hours it ould be before I had to get up {smile] I read an article said that in itself makes falling asleep difficult.

The 5htp helps you to sleep, you take it at bedtime.

I will have a google and see if I can find you a good link.

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beaniesteve · 28/02/2008 10:46

I have some evening Primrose oil somewhere but I think I'll go and buy some more incase I can't find it. My poor boyfriend got it in the neck last night because he snored and my reaction was somewhat over the top!

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TimeForMe · 28/02/2008 10:51

At least he didn't get covered in Lurpak

Found this but, have also read that it's not to be taken whilst planning a pregnancy, pregnant or breastfeeding.

www.1stholistic.com/reading/health/A2006/health-improve-your-moode-with-5HTP.htm

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beaniesteve · 28/02/2008 10:59

Ah - thanks though

I am feeling a little calmer today thankfully, apart from this morning's little car incident

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TimeForMe · 28/02/2008 11:04

I'm just glad to know it isn't just me.

MinesALemsip · 28/02/2008 11:15

I have a friend who swears by progesterone cream.
Would be really interested to hear if anyone else has tried it...I am tempted to give it a go, as post-children, my PMT has become a real problem for me (and my poor family....)- I seem to spend one week a month seething with rage and resentment.

filthymindedvixen · 28/02/2008 11:21

vit b6 supplement - fab for hormonal balance. Need to take it for a month before you notice the difference though. Use in conjunction with Eve Prim oil. Eve Prim Oil is good for physical symptoms of bad PMT, but not neccessarily the anger etc.

Watch your diet, cut down on caffeine/alcohol particulalry in run up to period as these make symptoms worse. Try to keep your blood-sugar levels constant as this maintains energy and minimizes mood swings and cravings. So try to cut down on fat, sugar, salt and red meat in favour of cereals, leafy green vegetables and fruit.
Avoid going for more than 3 hours without food, aim for three starchy meals a day with snacks in between.

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beaniesteve · 28/02/2008 11:56

Thanks for all that! I think my diet has been a bit bad lately

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TimeForMe · 28/02/2008 12:53

I've tried the progesterone cream, it didn't make much difference to me i'm afraid.

MinesALemsip · 28/02/2008 13:47

TFM - I'm going to get some vit B6 today and give it a go. Bit nervous about the progesterone cream anyway (sounds like "home made" hrt). And will try to curb the sugar cravings - not easy though. Thanks.

MinesALemsip · 28/02/2008 13:47

..oops, and thanks to Filthy etc as well!

TimeForMe · 28/02/2008 13:53

the progersterone cream is a bit faffy too, you have to apply it at certains times at the month and not others, apparantly if you apply it at the wrong time it gives you heavier periods. Plus, you only have to use a certain amount cos too much can cause problems too
It made me a bit nervous when I used it so i didn't use it for long.

The evening primrose is excellent if you get sore boobs along with your PMT.

I can't wait til the 5htp arrives, that works wonders for me.

Good luck with it. Maybe we could keep in touch and let each other know how we get on?

We could do a tried and tested pmt thread

gingerninja · 28/02/2008 14:06

I was thinking about starting a very similar thread this week after suffering a massive bout of irrational rage last week pre period and I really thought I should do something about it. Prior to DD (I came off the pill 2 yrs before having her) I occasionally suffered irritation but since having her my PMT is unbelievable. I get so angry I can feel my blood boiling. I threw a spatula at my DH after him making some comment about not eating the dinner I'd (stressfully) prepared (only because he was going to take a v tired DD to bed, not because he was being critical). I completely lost it, then I was very upset because I really feel it's out of control. It's no way for me to behave yet I don't seem to be able to control it. So I'd be interested in any suggestions you get.

MinesALemsip · 28/02/2008 14:06

Thanks - I will try evening primrose too - I'm feeling a bit this week, actually, but realise am unlikely to see any benefits until next month. Fingers crossed...!

TimeForMe · 28/02/2008 14:15

Same here gingerninja. I am so glad I am not alone. I too feel the rage just sitting there, feeling like it's burning in my chest. I slammed the Lurpak before I realised what I was doing I really don't like it, it makes me not like 'me'.

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beaniesteve · 28/02/2008 15:35

"I get so angry I can feel my blood boiling. I threw a spatula at my DH after him making some comment about not eating the dinner I'd (stressfully) prepared (only because he was going to take a v tired DD to bed, not because he was being critical). I completely lost it, then I was very upset because I really feel it's out of control." Ha ha Gingerninja (not laughing at you but with you!)... I feel so upset with myself for being so rude and wingey to my boyfriend lastnight when really he was only trying to help.

It doesn't matter what ways I try to calm myself down, if something gets me then I snap. It's happened a few times while driving and I've had really scary road rage.

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gingerninja · 28/02/2008 16:49

Funnily I say to DH frequently that I just don't like me. Thing is, it's not me, it feels like an imposter, I don't like who I become sometimes. It's rubbish

filthymindedvixen · 28/02/2008 16:55

and today I will practise what I preach and remember to take my own blardy supplements - as today I am exactly 7 days off P-day and I am VILE . Tearful and self-sorry and snippy and snidey....GAH!

MinesALemsip · 28/02/2008 17:51

Me too, filthymindedvixen! I would add "resentful" to that list..However I am just back from the supermarket, armed to the hilt with my B6 and evenining primrose supplements...(together with a higher than average selection of chocolate products, I have to admit). I am consciously trying to keep it under control, and hoping hoping that if I actually remember to take one a day, next month might be easier...

filthymindedvixen · 28/02/2008 18:16

Well, good luck, it doeswork for me (when I remember to take them ) Check in next month and tell us how you got on!

(And if anyone sees a deranged harridan at the checkout wielding 15 packs of jaffa cakes, you'll know it's me )