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I have chlamydia, has my partner been unfaithful? :-(

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Whatahassle123 · 09/08/2023 18:00

Name changed for this.

A routine swab for a coil has come back to show a light growth of chlamydia. I have no symptoms. It's of course no problem as I now have a prescription for antibiotics. However, I have been with my partner for over 20 years and I have had no other sexual partner since meeting him.

We are still incredibly close and our relationship has been great throughout. I know chlamydia can lay dormant for years - but 20+ years??? Partner has never had symptoms.

I'm not sure what to do with this results in terms of my relationship 😢

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WorryWorryWort · 10/08/2023 21:56

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There is a huge difference between working on a long term relationship and acting like you are in a bad soap opera and Cook him a fancy dinner, get dressed up fancy. Then serve his meds on the side of dessert.

PoseyFlump · 10/08/2023 21:57

Can't believe what I've just read... in more ways than one.

Whatwillitbe23 · 10/08/2023 21:58

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JustACountryMusicGirlInCowboyBoots · 10/08/2023 22:11

Goodness, someone's got serious issues.

OP that's such a relief for you both! It sounds like you have a great relationship Flowers

Bored1000 · 10/08/2023 22:12

I would be furious with the clinic for this, how stressful for both you and your (innocent!) hubby!

WorryWorryWort · 10/08/2023 22:12

Awwww first time in 20 years I've been called first class 🥇on here and it got deleted 🤣

Fourlegsandatail · 10/08/2023 22:14

Jeez @Whatwillitbe23… forgive a (hypothetical, not in the OP’s case thankfully) man who cheats and do so while dressed ‘fancy’ and having cooked him a nice meal… but any woman who challenges your opinion is a ‘stupid bitch’ and a ‘cunt’. Wow.

WorryWorryWort · 10/08/2023 22:17

Fourlegsandatail · 10/08/2023 22:14

Jeez @Whatwillitbe23… forgive a (hypothetical, not in the OP’s case thankfully) man who cheats and do so while dressed ‘fancy’ and having cooked him a nice meal… but any woman who challenges your opinion is a ‘stupid bitch’ and a ‘cunt’. Wow.

Get it right.........., I am not just a cunt I'm a first class cunt. 😁

Whoelseisit2 · 10/08/2023 22:24

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Name change fail @Whatwillitbe23. And you are becoming more incoherent. I’m not going to engage anymore because OP’s situation has been resolved and I am delighted for her. It’s really nice to see a good outcome on this board.

GachaBread · 10/08/2023 22:44

Wow! This thread is crazy. But beyond all the madness on here I am utterly astounded at the incompetence of the OP's doctor surgery. They gave out the wrong test results and then proceeded to give a prescription for medication for a condition she never had never mind nearly destroying her 20 year old relationship. A complaint needs to be made and some one needs to be held accountable

GirlOfTudor · 10/08/2023 23:06

Glad to hear you don't have Chlamydia! I'd 100% complain to the GP. That could've broken your trust.

BetterWithPockets · 10/08/2023 23:20

OP, my DH’s ex was once diagnosed with an STI. She was apparently convinced he’d cheated, and he was convinced she was. It turned out to be the result of a smear test where the speculum hadn’t been properly disinfected. (Not saying it’s anything as horrible as that in your case — just that it’s not always the result of someone cheating.) The surgery ended up being taken to court…

BetterWithPockets · 10/08/2023 23:22

Sorry OP, just read your updates. Glad all okay but would definitely complain.

Mmhmmn · 10/08/2023 23:22

Aquamarine1029 · 09/08/2023 18:21

I would get tested again, just to be absolutely certain a mistake wasn't made.

If the results are the same, I would kick him out. No discussion necessary.

This.

Mmhmmn · 10/08/2023 23:27

Whatahassle123 · 10/08/2023 18:45

Just an update - I have queried the result with the GP and I WAS GIVEN THE WRONG TEXT!!! My result for full STI swab screen was negative........

Poor husband is ok but a bit shaken. He didn't sleep last night with stress. What a stressful 24 hours!

Knew it! Good, nice to see a happy outcome on MN.

Copperoliverbear · 10/08/2023 23:28

Maybe call you Gp and tell her the situation and ask her could there be any other explanation.

Copperoliverbear · 10/08/2023 23:32

Sorry just realised I missed the update. Z

OnTheRunWithMannyMontana · 10/08/2023 23:33

Omg I would be absolutely raging with the GP surgery! Just look what that could have caused!

purpleboy · 10/08/2023 23:45

Jesus op that's terrible. I hope you are both doing ok!
@Whatwillitbe23 I think there is something wrong with you.

weaselwords · 10/08/2023 23:50

I think this is the closest I’ve ever seen on Mumsnet to a happy ending. Very relieved for you!

Cantdoitallperfectly · 11/08/2023 00:01

@Comeonbarbiebrianharvey not true for all course, medicine often works on throughout summer only breaking for 2/3 weeks between the semesters and so do nursing courses.

Redruby2020 · 11/08/2023 00:06

Whatahassle123 · 10/08/2023 18:45

Just an update - I have queried the result with the GP and I WAS GIVEN THE WRONG TEXT!!! My result for full STI swab screen was negative........

Poor husband is ok but a bit shaken. He didn't sleep last night with stress. What a stressful 24 hours!

That's good news. Not so good they mixed things up though!

That makes me think what about those of us who got negative results and were/are actually positive!

EBearhug · 11/08/2023 00:16

For women sex is an emotional bond.

Not always. Sometimes it's just sex, fulfilling a need for women, too.

But back to the OP, I 'd be deeply unimpressed with the surgery, and would want more feedback than an embarrassed apology from reception. What steps are they taking to minimise the chances of such a thing happening again?

Lwrenagain · 11/08/2023 00:28

@Whatahassle123 I came on to give you my horror story of a mix up at clinic but saw your update, phew!

Hope you're feeling much better now! 💐

I had the most embarrassing fuck up in my youth, pretty sure people still think I'm like the clap fairy 😂

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