Cauliflower Steaming On Such A Winter's Day - 10 / 10 thread

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"dancing greens, feel the beet from my clementines"

I am always crap at this - I sometimes come a close second. The only one I ever did was the withnail and I one and I was watching the film at the time.

Let's just cut to the chase and say

"January needs stodge and podge and the veg box is full of boring roots and apples."

you don't like them all, the rhubarb gives you The Fear

well yes

but I could feel The Fear and do it anyway

I'm a bit torn on the emailing the 18 y-o. What do you think you should say?

"Hugh Fernally Whittingstall in a thingyamy doodah fancies us all you know !"

"feeel the rhubarb and do it anyway"

Dancing green, young and sweet and only a tangerine.

100 I think she should not answer - I don;t know though. She could say "yes and it was very silly". If I get asked this I will probably do a lie.

That doesn't make sense. My revision of Bee's does it. Green and tangerine.

I think 18 is old enough to know that it is a very personal question.

Kale and Peas!

Is it likely you may need to rely on references from the family in future, Franny? If so, lie.

so far I have said "ha ha oh dear that had better wait for a cosy chat not an email don't you think. Meanwhile was there anything you wanted to tell me?"

I have never lied to her but have tried to be honest and give both sides. I mean I wouldn't advise she goes and does a lot of drugs really, I don't think she is mentally the most resilient and obviously it is crap for your health. Perhaps that means more coming from someone who has tried it than from your mum who obviously has no idea

also if she does try anything and gets out of her depth she will have someone to speak to about it, that won't just shriek and phone rehab

half asleep the veg they creep..and become a fruity

Oh dancing green is great too

Hmm. I think saying

'Absolutely not. It's a mugs game. I always wanted to have some control over myself. Just wasn't for me' is the square and probably safest answer.

I'm not sure about saying 'yes, I thought it was hot, I thought I was great, and then it just wasn't, but it's a stage we have to go through.'

Don't know. I think I'd say the former probably.

FK why? do you think she will tell her family and they will hate me?

I mean, you just can't say YES, can you, not with the family connections? If it feels uncomfortable lying then don't answer, if she persits, lie, then tell yourself she will understand when she is older.

I confided in a family friend about the morning after pill once, she told my mother right away.

God I couldn't say that 100

a huge whopping lie, i would have to say "look I really don't want to talk about it" rather than say that

Do you all think it is really not ever a good thing for people who have done drugs to speak about it honestly to young people? I don't think it often happens, and I don;'t think the current "abstain because they is evil" message is working, much

what was 5he question again

But not like that. I have a 16 y-o godson, I probably wouldn't say that to him actually, it wouldn't be v. helpful to do the Anne 'absolutely not' routine now I think of it.

I like Bee's dancing greens!

You could probably be honest Franny and it still be the best answer because you have but now you wouldn't because it's not good for you, - it's very good to have a Grownup Who Knows to ask things when you're 18, and you can do gentle steering rather than parental panic. But I don't really know.

I don't think that is the message though Franny. I think there's a whole generation of teenagers whose parents all smoked or took drugs, and that is in fact quite permissive. Everyone Does It.

I think it's a conversation. I think you should tread carefully though.

You are her private Older Person Who is Interesting. You should probably tell the truth - in some form.

No, I won't lie

I think I will tell her

I have always been honest with her before

if she tells her parents and they have a huge problem with it then that is their problem tbh

they know I have always given her great care and great advice and been a good friend for her

and never let them down

and I don't see why in a million years she will tell them - the thing with her dad is more an issue because SHE is going to tell ME that she has tried something or wants to try something and then I have to go and work with her dad and HE won't know. That's the difficult bit

what doesnt often happens

It's good to have a grown up to ask that doesn't work for your father, I think she is old enought to understand that.

She probably wouldnt tell him, but what if it came out in a row or something