Worried I have got BV from this?

[Worried1183]

I don’t have anxiety about this stuff usually but have been unable to stop worrying about this for the last month. I don’t have sex much with my partner as I get so worried about it but last time he put his fingers inside me which he rarely does and now I keep thinking what if that’s transferred bacteria. I feel really worried about it and keep thinking I have symptoms. I’ve never really done this in the past and just feel so worried.

Do you actually have BV symptoms? Your vagina is very good at cleaning itself.

@Worried1183 please try not to be so anxious. If you have BV it can be sorted.

I think it would be a good idea for you to make a GP appointment to discuss your concerns, they will be able to help if you did have BV. I think it would help you to discuss your anxieties and try and get some help with them.

@JorisBonson no I don’t think I have symptoms but I just feel angry with myself I let that happen. I knew I would worry afterwards. I just keep thinking his hands could have been anywhere that day why would I have let that happen

Millions of women have much worse inside them every day and don't get BV. Trust your vagina, it's a clever thing.

We're in a pandemic, surely he's regularly washing his hands, I really wouldn't worry unless you have symptoms.

We just never do that and I feel weird about it now. I started my period the next day too and I know that makes infection more likely doesn’t it?

Why do you think you have it? Do you suffer from health anxiety?

@RampantIvy it seems inevitable if his hands weren’t clean and I just keep thinking about it. They will have touched doors etc anything

You need to get help urgently for your anxieties. This is not a normal level of anxiety. It's no way to live your life.

Seems you're suffering and being controlled by extreme anxiety OP. It'll escalate if you don't get it seen to.

Would nobody else worry about this? In my head it’s like he’s just put dirt in me, there’s bacteria on hands so it seems inevitable. I can’t understand why people wouldn’t worry about this. I feel so low today I wish I wasn’t me

Those worries have never entered my head.

I wouldn't even think about it 😳 I think you need to seek a little help for your anxiety x

@rainbowandglitter would you really not think it could travel up into your womb? It says online the cervix opens more on your period so I feel like I’ve done it at the worst time

Wouldn’t and don’t worry on the least. It’s a pretty vanilla manoeuvre, ie most people would do it.

Is he a particular soap dodger or something to stress you like this?

I think you need to see someone for your anxiety.
Even if his hands were dirty what are the chances of you getting anything? Very very slim.

You say you don't have sex much because you worry. What are you worried about?

@santabetterwashhishands would you not even check he had washed his hands first? I worry about all this constantly, I always think I have given myself bv. It massively impacts our sex life and I just wanted to be normal and get on with it but now it’s caused all this in my head and I’m feeling scared I will get PID or something

This really isn't a normal thought process at all. You need to seek medical help for your anxiety.

It is very very unlikely that you have got BV from being fingered. And, if you have it's nothing to worry about, a quick pessary and some cream and you'll be right again

This would never even occur to me. Hasn’t in 24 years. I think you need to seek help about your anxiety.

😳 if this isn't a wind up, I say this in the kindest way, OP get some help for your health anxiety 😥

He put his fingers inside you? Is this not a very normal part of foreplay? I’d be more worried about his peep, I presume he washes his hands more often than he does his peep?

Btw this is lighthearted! You have nothing to worry about op!

No this wouldn’t worry me at all, it’s a completely normal thing for a sexual active people to do & ought to be pleasurable, provided you agreed at the time? If you weren’t consenting then that’s a whole different situation.

BV is easy to treat on the off chance that you do get it sometime.

As pps have said, it sounds like you’d benefit from support for anxiety from your OP.

@WitchBaby why are the chances slim? He did wash his hands when we got home but then touched shoes and phone etc before we got into bed so anything could have been on his hands and now inside me. I worry I will get pelvic inflammatory as an infection down there can lead to that. I feel like nobody else would have been so stupid as to do this especially on their period when bacteria more easily get in. I feel like I sound crazy typing this but this is so real for me

@Worried1183

Would nobody else worry about this? In my head it’s like he’s just put dirt in me, there’s bacteria on hands so it seems inevitable. I can’t understand why people wouldn’t worry about this. I feel so low today I wish I wasn’t me

But your vagina is already full of bacteria. Good bacteria that's supposed to be there and which keeps other bacteria and fungi in check. Even if there was bacteria on his hands, trust that you have a healthy immune system whose only job is to overpower any "intruders".

Without wanting to sound crude... I'm in my 40s and over the past 25 years have had all manner of fingers, toys, appendages and even the odd vegetable inside me and I've never had BV.

I do have health anxiety (mine is mostly around my heart and lungs) so I understand and I'm not trying to make you feel silly or dismissing how you feel but this is definitely a worry thats in your head rather than a real thing.

The vagina is amazing at cleaning itself. You'll be fine