Worried I have got BV from this?

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I don’t have anxiety about this stuff usually but have been unable to stop worrying about this for the last month. I don’t have sex much with my partner as I get so worried about it but last time he put his fingers inside me which he rarely does and now I keep thinking what if that’s transferred bacteria. I feel really worried about it and keep thinking I have symptoms. I’ve never really done this in the past and just feel so worried.

You can self test for BV, Boots (and every other pharmacy) sell a kit for around £10. Please don't waste an NHS appointment on this (though an appointment about your anxiety would definitely not be a waste).

This is a joke. Surely?

Vaginal infections do happen so they must have a way of getting there
You have a balance of good and bad bacteria. The good ones keep the bad ones in check. But if you kill off the good ones (for example with bubble bath) then the bad ones get carried away with themselves, they multiply and cause infection. Treatment usually consists of reducing the bad bacteria and supplementing the good bacteria. You can get little probiotic tubes of good bacteria that you squirt up there to re balance everything.

@Paulinna but what would happen if you put something up there that wasn’t so great like soil or similar? Is that not bv is that another sort of infection entirely? If it’s only about balance of PH it makes me less worried as his hands definitely weren’t properly dirty

Op my dp has done this sooo many times in the last 25 years and I've never stopped to check that he had washed hands, and in all that time I've never had BV or any other infection in my vagina. Do not worry about this. You seem to feel weird about the fact he's dome this at all, aside from the idea of germs, is there more to it than what you're saying? It's not wrong and is a normal part of intimacy.

@PalmsandCharms thanks. Why anyone would post this for fun is beyond me. I’m already struggling enough without joking about my worries.

What happens if you put soil up there?! Why would you do that? Windup?

@PalmsandCharms Health anxiety can be extremely debilitating, especially when someone doesn't realise they have it.

@Ifonlyidknownthen I feel guilty I think like I deserve for something to happen now.

@ItsSnowJokes

You need to get help urgently for your anxieties. This is not a normal level of anxiety. It's no way to live your life.

This

@Saggybaggyaggy I mean if you did have something horrible on your hands, surely something bad would happen. That is what im comparing it to

I'm guessing that he didn't have soil or dog shit on his fingers 🤔

Never mind his hands, OP - do you worry when you actually have sex?

@HollowTalk yes always worry but we have a condom all the time so I focus on that protecting it

Get help op. You sound very unwell. Start with your GP.

@JorisBonson no I don’t think so but could be traces of all this on him, picking up shoes etc

@Saggybaggyaggy I am going to call them now. Thank you x

You don't need help for a vaginal infection, you need help for extreme health anxiety. Have you ever told your GP about your fears?

Paulinna but what would happen if you put something up there that wasn’t so great like soil or similar?
A bit of soil won’t hurt you. Your vagina is acidic and kills germs. I’ve done obstacle courses where you crawl through mud and your pants and everything are soaked with it. It’s been fine.

@Paulinna that makes me feel better! I didn’t think of that but have seen it on tv. Suffice to say I would never ever dare do something like that.

It is highly unlikely you will pick up BV from the bacteria from your partners hands.

The vagina is very very very good at looking after itself. BV is nearly always caused by a disruption of the natural flora in the vagina/an upset of its PH level, usually because someone is trying to cleanse/wash their vagina or is using too harsh a soap or body wash near their genitals/vulva and the suds/residue are ending up inside.

As an aside, I can't recommend enough Gallinee probiotic soap

Please talk to your GP about your thought process here. This isn't normal.

I think that most people would be used to this as foreplay for most of their sexual encounters with their partners. I personally am in my 40's and have never had any infections, at any point in my cycle. I think you need to address your anxiety issues as this is an over the top reaction.

Please seek help for your anxiety. I’ve been here I know how horrible and real it can feel but honestly the problem is your extreme anxiety and panic spiralling.

Ah OP. You need help for your anxieties, definitely. I have health anxiety and this has literally never crossed my mind.