No Smoking but lots of Chatting...Successful thread #2

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LOL!!!!!!!! I have got over a major addiction, i smoked id say every 25 mins or so...before getting in the car, getting out before going up the hill at the top, before having a coffeee, during...after...Terrible. And id say now its only twice a day my body shakes and gets jittery at the lack of it. Its not so much of a jitter id go back to the fags..

Bye for now You have a good day too! x

I have emptied my shoe cupboard and put the summer sandals in one box ive lined the wellys D/Ms up and put all the slippers in one basket[halo icon needed]
This no fags certainly helps when usually you would have 10 fags inbetween...there is no choice but to just do it!

Hi folks,

Glad to hear everyone's 'holding strong'... you're right cc, so much easier to just do it, ie get on with awful tasks like all this sorting out, when fags aren't there to distract...

Had a lovely time in g'gow with my pal and just sucked lozenges and was fine, really noticed vv smokiness of bars, not that I wanna come over all sanctimonious... no, actually I do!!! dh had his cousin over last night and they got ratted on red wine, and dh woke up with black lips from the wine!! I like a drink as much as - if not more than - the next person but black lips??? yeugh. He wanted a kiss an' all.

Hope dd1 is feeling much better mm and delighed that you have started book, hope u like...

catch up later xxxx

Had a good past few hours Peaceful and without constant reminder...I am reading your book too Fiona, in the bath xxx Ive noticed it has a chapter about needing a fag!

yeah and I really do need one tonight cc!!!! am gonna try pn's approach of la-laaaing through it... am v foul tempered, not even due on, just feel really bleeeugghhh... but am also amazed at how few of these days I've had so far, it's been kinda unacannily easy(ish) this time. 432 fags not smoked. Been out for run, this has not improved mood, taken kids swimming after school too. Gonna go to bed, night all xxxx (sorry to be grouch-face girls)

ps just shattered cos dh and his cousin played all their old 7" singles v loudly till 2 am last night. Which is very unfair of me cos normally I love staying up late, drinking & talking carp... I mean crap....

Just popped in to say well done all of you, fantastic. The urges do go away, they really do. It's all habit, blah, blah, blah.

Hi everyone, well done! I hope you don't forget to all give yourselves a massive pat on the back for still not smoking! Things are getting easier by the day for me, but then I had been smoking for only a couple of months after more than a year as a non-smoker when I gave up this time, which I suppose makes it easier, if only from a purely physical point of view. Am I making any sense? Today though I got a massive urge, totally out of the blue and for no reason at all. I think the nicotine monster is trying to trick me! But I won't let it...

Prefernot, I know the cough! I used to have it, first thing in the morning, sometimes coughing so much I actually was sick. yeeurch! ACtually that's one of my strongest incentives to give up smoking, and to keep not smoking, I just don't want to be coughing like that ever again, it really brought it home to me how much harm I was doing to my body. And my little dd looking so worried as she watched me retching in the sink

CC, are you not going to smoke spliffs again then? I have to admit I don't know what I'll do if someone offers me a spliff. I'll probably have a puff or two is the truth! Although this time I am determined I will not buy any again, will not have it in the house and will only have a few puffs at parties. I don't go to many parties (apart from kiddies' birthday parties) so should be OK...

Wow, long post from me tonight, am I spoiling you or what!

And I forgot to add, thanks Coddy and WWW for your support, it's very much appreciated!

oh girls it's a 'hello' and 'goodnight' i'm afraid...i've been up since 7.15 with only half and hour rest till the kids went to bed (8.30) and then they decided to both wake up a little while ago and have only just finally settled.

been a long day with ds1's cold and coughing, he's not taking much in food, what he does he almost vomits on because of the coughing and ds2 has decided that when he's up he must be VERY loud and grouchy. WHAT'S GOING ON!!!!!!

anyway ds1 back at nursery tomorrow, hope he'll be alright. dh was off for a week 2 wks ago and since he went back all ds1 keeps saying all day is 'where is dadda? where is dadda? where is dadda?' i swear to you he said it for a full half and hour today. drove me MAD

what's a non-smoking girl to do? it's obscene to drink at 4pm in the afternoon but since it's dark now is it okay? [wink}

night night allxxx

p.s. cc did i say thank you very much for such a lovely feedback?

You did Mink, Thank Youxx
...you know Ive been wondering how horrendous it would be to have a voddy at 5.30 pm while cooking dinner...I mean posh people would have a glass of wine and think nothing of it but theres something about me and my council estate background that says drinking a cranberry vodka while shoving some smiley faces under the grill is wrong
Must confess to having a joint last night, watched a TV prog about domestic violence and for the first time ever ever ever It all came back to me the night we buggered away from my dad er...20 years ago and I just had big huge tears rolling down my face thinking how lovely the people from Womens Aid were and how brave my mum was and how she thought we were going to the Falklands (Falkirk)...but she still go on the bus....and I knew there was smoking material somewhere so I asked DP where it was and sat outside in a puff of green smoke pondering life freezing my ass off.
God RAMBLING>>>>>>>>>>>> Everyone is doing FANTASTICALLY!
Mammya fancy a smoke?! We could all get together after 12 months and have a big weed party...Hmmm lovely idea

Oh and Prefernot, someone on your headache thread said try lose dose patches...DONT the nicotine has gone out your system and in terms of drug addiction it would be like having a fag.
Try some of the pills they suggested and see the nurse maybe? I have a doctor like yours...PAH

Oh poor CC, how horrendous that must've been, think you fully deserved that joint....
lot of hugs xxxxxxxxxx

& hope you have an easier day mm!!

cc, my mum's first husband was a really violent man too. Some of the stories she tells me are horrific. It was very hard for her because she was in a very closed Jewish community and in the end had to literally 'run away' and change her name and everything with no help from anyone. Makes me want a fag just thinking about it!!!

Yeah, I totally ignored the advice about starting to wear patches now seeing as I've gone 2 weeks and 1 day and 39 minutes without one I'm not going to kick up an addiction again. I'm also wary of those tablets as my headache isn't one which means I have to lie on the bed. It might be without the edge being taken off by the paracetamols - I tried to have none yesterday after midday and by 8 in the evening I was feeling DIRE.

Maybe I'm psychologically replacing my fag addiction with a paracetamol one.

My GP really doesn't take me seriously. She's a nice woman but she's got me marked as one of those neurotic types and no matter what I can't break out of the mould. So I rarely go now as it makes me feel vaguely ashamed to have a 'problem.' Maybe I should just change GP's ...

Maybe you should PN, doctors like that are USELESS. My doctor actually, was utterly crap, dismissive, even when dd1 age 12 months had not spoken or moved for 24 hours and I thought she was going to die...he didnt check her temp or anything until I took my mum with me then he gave her a full examination...felt ridiculus that even though I was her mum he didnt take it seriously until someone over the age of 30 was with me...I was 18 you see and I dont think he liked it.
BUT he stopped smoking and became totally different, he now doesnt try to eject you from the surgery as hes no longer gagging to get outside for a fag
We had to change all of our names too but we had womens aid there to help us and they stayed in our lifes for years afterwards, they were lovely.
MM hope your little monsters are being little angels today, you will definetly enjoy the time DS1 is a t nursery and DS2 is sleeping
FG hows your dh getting on? Its frustrating looking at your other half chuffing away isnt it?
I have been on a mad credit card bashing today as DPs mum (MIL from hell) has send down some money for Xmas and Birthdays, I think she would like to think that as hes living with me and dds hes deprived and missing out on ? Dunno what, so she sends lots of money...??? We arent rich but we dont need anyone elses money to survive so I say Right Ill go and splash that on the kids then! Got another bit of Playmobil...the zoo £60 from ebay and £40 for some clothes for them to wear at thier party. Now I need to extract the money from DP to pay the Credit card off!!!
Too much rambling from me but I havent been in all day and had withdrawl symptoms from not enough MN!

Alcohol: have you all drunk more since you've stopped smokng? I'm finding I am. Wondering vgly if that got ething to do wih headahe

sorry typing, dd putting batteries in my yhead to amke it better cos told her had headache !!

LOL prefernot, at first I thought your typing was due to too much alcohol! But to answer your question, yes, the first 3 weeks or so I drank much much more than usual, i.e., every night. Am now back to normal, having a drink in the evening at the weekend only.
Oooh, cc, love the idea of a weedfest, but would that be reasonable?

God that's horrible about your experiences PN and CC i'm so happy that your mums were able to take control of their lives to make them better as so many poor women can't. i agree with fg, you def deserved that herbal!

LOL at batteries too PN at the moment ds1 thinks Calpol is the cure as he was taking it for his fever. unfortunately dh also thinks this and tried to give it to him tonight because he was crying for ages and scratching!!

he got all distressed at nursery this morning (ds1 not dh ) and dh who had taken him there on the way to work had to take him to work with him and i ended up picking him up and taking him back to nursery. stayed there till after their lunch and even though i don't like leaving him anywhere without saying 'goodbye' i had to slip out. he was alright in the end but at the mo is VERY CLINGY. he woke up earlier and has done so since the end of last week crying his eyes out and is virtually inconsolable. he wants to go downstairs then up then juice then water....i don't know what's up have any of you experienced this? he's 2 next week btw.

got to get up early tomorrow as dh is on an early and will have to take ds1 to nursery. have yet to discover the joys of one at school and the other snoozing...

night night all xxx

p.s. yes drinking every night at the beginning now just when it's tough! the only thing about the lozenges is that you're not supposed to drink caffeine and presumably alcohol at the same time and anyway it would probably taste horrible, all minty and weird!

CC, they say you're supposed to stick to the lozenges a good few months after quitting so don't worry about addiction right now!

poor mm, yes - my boys were v clingy at that age too, though not dd - designed to make us feel truly terrible about not being with them every minute of the day.... please don't fret too much, nursery is still a pretty new experience to him, and am sure he'll gain loads from it - it's just that he's been v used to having acres of mummy time! And am sure this isn't gonna drive you towadrs ciggies!!

cc, outrageous that your doctor treated you that way, patronising b&&^%, just cos you were a young mum! As you say you were/are her MOTHER for god's sake!

Hi mammya and prefernot - pn, yes have been quaffing more booze, takes the edge of the bare fag-free normality of life, I find! Wouldn't worry about it. You've quit fags which is a massive achievement. Had to clear out pantry as joiner is here 'erecting' shelves and found 3 cobwebby old bottles of voddy... jealous cc?

I've been having 3 small bottles of beer a day. I went onto beer as I feared having a bottle of wine would result in me drinking at least half of it in one go. No resistance, me. A true addict. And as for spirits ...

My dd currently thinks batteries are the cure for anything that's broken or not doing what she wants it to. She asked if Grandma could visit this weekend and I said no because she's too old to come to London so she said 'Eva give her batteries down phone, mummy?'

Mm, that sounds very sad. I'm in a similar situation, or will be, with dd who's due to start going to nursery for mornings on Jan 10. She'll be 2 and 3 months and I'm hoping the extra couple of months will make a difference as she's very delicate and clingy too at the moment. I hope today's been better for you ...

so far so good PN, i think it's actually harder for us than it is them! i'm sure your dd will settle as all kids do in the end, just don't get too worked up about it when the time comes we'll be there to support you anyway!

i was on the beer as well at the beginning as it was summer too but then quickly realised that it wasn't going to do my old belly any favours so switched to red instead and as I have an incredibly low tolerance for alcohol (binge drinking at nightclubs a far distant memory) this doesn't matter. plus i can have as little or as much as i like without wasting the bottle.

have any of you tried m&s kir royale in a bottle? sparkling wine (supposed to be champagne, but we're splitting hairs here) with blackcurrant cordial. it's the business! oh and only £3.99

Was reading this at the library earlier when Tanya was playing cbeebies on another pc...she prefers doing it in the library for some bizarre reason...even though we have quicker better net access here...I was very naughty last night and got totally stoned out of my tree as dp didnt hide the weed far enough out of my way...I smelt it out. Thought for a grim moment I might need to go back on the lozengers this morning with hideous nicotine back in my system rattles but thankfully not!
Will hopefully find 5 mins later to reread everyones posts....xx

So does anyone think 3 beers a day is too much? Aren't we females meant to have just 14 units a week. I reckon I'm going on 25 units.

Seems awfully quiet on this thread at the moment ... is everyone ok?

Yes OK Prefernot, was just reading the posts since my last one. Well 3 beers a day, hmmm, if it's every single day then yes it's definitely too much! Having said that, in my first 3 weeks nicotine-free I was having way too much red wine, but have calmed down now, not by any conscious decision, it just happened. So I see my over-drinking as a temporary aberration, a sort of short-term coping mechanism, to compensate for the lack of nicotine. Perhaps it's the same for you?