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DH unwell. Probably not serious but I need a handhold and advice.

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Yourehavingagiraffe · 15/06/2021 11:09

I’m very worried about DH who is in a lot of visible pain with what seems to be digestion issues. He is in pain within minutes of eating/swallowing anything – there’s no particular foods which are better or worse than any others and he is constantly burping – like all day, every 30 seconds or so. The pain is in his upper abdomen and seems to mainly sit around and under his ribs. His bowel movements are fine/unchanged so this seems to be an upwards rather than downwards thing.

He had a similar issue last year. It seemed bad then but nowhere near as bad as it is now. At that time, one of my colleagues suggested it might be H Pylori so we looked into that and the symptoms definitely fitted. He called the GP to ask about getting tested but was told that as it’s a breath test, they aren’t doing that type of thing due to covid and he should just wait for the flare up to die down, which it did after a few days.

This time though seems a lot worse. It started on Thursday evening, out of the blue with burping and discomfort. He had a sleepless night trying to get comfortable. He was still in discomfort all day on Friday and then it got a lot worse when he went to bed. I woke up at 1am to find him gone from our bed. He was on the kitchen floor, said that the cold, hard tiles were the only place he could find some semblance of relief but even with this he was still writhing around in pain. I wanted to call an ambulance at that point but he was insistent it would subside and he’s likely be okay by the morning. Throughout the day on Saturday though, he was clearly in discomfort as well as being utterly shattered from lack of sleep. He barely ate anything on Saturday – seemed scared to put anything in his mouth and we went to the pharmacy to ask for advice. He was given gaviscon but it didn’t seem to make any difference. He was hungry by dinnertime and the pain got immediately worse upon eating. Sunday was exactly the same and at times he was practically crying with it all.

He called the GP first thing on Monday morning but didn’t get any further than the receptionist who told him it was only indigestion and he needed to go back to the pharmacist for something stronger. Did the whole “there’s a pandemic, don’t you know?” and told him that he’d be wasting a GP’s time. He actually broke down when he came off the phone but he did go back to the pharmacy who gave him a stronger version of gaviscon plus some buscopan, even though the pharmacist said it didn’t sound like ibs, it might help with the discomfort. Told him to take these together for 72 hours and if he still had symptoms, to call the GP back and say that the pharmacist has advised he see a doctor. The gaviscon and buscopan still aren’t touching it so far though and he’s in a terrible state. Yesterday he only had one banana to eat and again hardly slept a wink. He looks awful, is in visible pain and the burping is horrible, although I know he can’t help that. I just don’t know how we can get through another 48 hours like this and what if the GP receptionist still refuses to make the appointment? What magic words to we have to say to get him seen?

DH’s best friend died four years ago from cancer after being fobbed off for over a year by doctors who told him at various points that he had indigestion and IBS. By the time the cancer was discovered it was too late and he died within 5 months. DH is terrified and has gotten himself worked up into a terrible state that the same thing might be happening to him. I’m trying to stay pragmatic and talk him down but I can’t deny that the same fears are playing out in the back of my mind right now. I know that all the signs point to this being H Pylori or something else treatable but I’d just love some peace of mind right now and above all, I’d like DH to not be in so much pain. It’s horrible to see and I feel so helpless.

For reference, DH is 42 - has always been in good general health and is very fit and active; plays tennis and cycles regularly and also works in a manual job involving heavy lifting etc.

OP posts:
AramintaArrowsmith · 15/06/2021 11:17

I wouldn't be looking for any magic words tbh and I'd be presenting at A & E.

If you really feel you must call the GP again, ask him or her if they are definitively telling you that this is something and nothing and can be treated at home and would they mind if you made a note of that?

romdowa · 15/06/2021 11:19

It's definitely a n e time for your poor dh. He can't go on being in that kind of pain and being unable to eat

HollowTalk · 15/06/2021 11:23

It's outrageous that he was treated like that by staff at his GP's surgery. I do think he should go to A&E, OP, and sooner rather than later.

Garman · 15/06/2021 11:23

Why is wasting time going back and forth to the pharmacy when he's writhing and breaking down in pain and has barely eaten for days?! He needs to go to A&E, not take gaviscon ffs.

LadyDanburysHat · 15/06/2021 11:25

If he is pain that can not be helped with otc painkillers then get him to A&E

shuuush · 15/06/2021 11:25

H pylori can be checked for with a stool sample. My daughter suffered with it 2 years ago and was found through a stool sample.
Hope he recovers soon x

HollowTalk · 15/06/2021 11:26

You need to make the decision, OP, not leave it to the patient. He's not in the right frame of mind to be making decisions right now. If you were writhing on the kitchen floor in the middle of the night I'm sure he'd call an ambulance for you.

Get a bag packed for him and take him to A&E. You probably won't be allowed in, so if you think he might not remember what to say (if he's feeling really bad) then write down all his symptoms and tell him to hand them over to the staff there.

randomkey123 · 15/06/2021 11:26

DH has got a hiatus hernia.

His initial symptoms were very similar, but it's easily controlled with Omeprazole. You can buy these over the counter so may be worth trying.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/hiatus-hernia/

Yourehavingagiraffe · 15/06/2021 11:27

Thank you. This is what I needed to hear. I've been talking to him about going to a&e for the last couple of days but he won't hear of it. You're right though. He would do this for me and I need to be the one to deal with this now.

Thank you and I'm hoping against hope that I'll be back with a positive update.

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DogsSausages · 15/06/2021 11:30

Could it be gallstones or some sort of infection brewing around that area. Could he have given himself a hernia with the heavy lifting. I would go to a&e, they can do blood tests and scans to see what's happening.
It might be better if he doesnt eat, can he manage water, poor guy.
When it's all sorted I would seriously consider speaking with the practice manager, it is not the receptionist job to diagnose patients or decide if they need to see the doctor or not. That is dreadful.
If he wont go to a&e then I would at least encourage him to call the practice manager and insist on seeing the gp or call 111 and explain that the surgery cannot see him in person.

JosephineDeBeauharnais · 15/06/2021 11:31

[quote randomkey123]DH has got a hiatus hernia.

His initial symptoms were very similar, but it's easily controlled with Omeprazole. You can buy these over the counter so may be worth trying.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/hiatus-hernia/[/quote]
This ^^. My DH also has a hiatus hernia and Barrett’s Oesophagus. Your DH needs a referral for endoscopy and a prescription for Lansoprazole or similar. Persist with getting a GP appointment.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 15/06/2021 11:32

If GPs continue to not see patients then patient's only option is A and E which is where I'd take him. Good luck, hope he's ok.

Redannie118 · 15/06/2021 11:34

I came in to say Hiatus hernia too, esp if he has a heavy lifting job.

Londono · 15/06/2021 11:35

Could it be a gallbladder issue?

Artus · 15/06/2021 11:37

I'd try the GP one more time, stressing the pain, and that he has tried stronger OTC stuff and been advised by the pharmacist that he needs to be seen.

If he is fobbed off again I would go to A and E

Perching · 15/06/2021 11:37

Take him to A&E and complain about the GP. Awful.

FictionalCharacter · 15/06/2021 11:39

A&E as PP have said.
Then a complaint to the GP practice manager. The receptionist has no right to stop a patient in severe pain from seeing their doctor.

AlphabetAerobics · 15/06/2021 11:42

I get gastritis, I've tested negative (stool sample) for HP - but omezprazole sorts me out very quickly - worst is having to wait until after I've produced a sample to take the first tablet - which this time took nearly 36 hours!

I was on the verge of A&E, but between omezprazole, antacids, bone broth and probiotics I seem to be on the mend again.

I'm sure it'll be back, but at least I know how to treat it now.

Spiderplantsoutside · 15/06/2021 11:44

In future, consider that if you tell a gp receptionist that he has seen a pharmacist who told him to see a GP they can’t check. I would have rung them back after seeing pharmacist on Monday and told them they said see a GP urgently.

Delphigirl · 15/06/2021 11:45

The pain sounds very like my gallbladder pain. Central, under the ribs, like a burning cricket ball, totally unrelieved by changing position, totally unbearable. Antacids (gaviscon etc) made no difference at all. He needs proper investigation - ultrasound for gallbladder is an easy one.

jessycake · 15/06/2021 11:46

Are you sure its not gallstones ? if its a bad attack you should go to A&E for better pain relief and to check its not a stone stuck in the bile duct .

Delphigirl · 15/06/2021 11:47

Ps I assumed it was some sort of acid reflux so stayed off acidic food and ate bland things like full fat yoghurt and mashed potato. Big mistake. Need to go zero fat. Might be worth seeing if a very low fat diet resolves the issue in which case it could well be gallstones...

FoxNet · 15/06/2021 11:51

Without wishing to add to your worries these are very similar to the symptoms that lead to my DH's diagnosis of stage IV bowel cancer. Your husband needs an urgent abdominal CT. Hopefully it will show something minor like gallbladder troubles.

DogsSausages · 15/06/2021 11:57

Maybe it's best to stop looking here and encourage your d,h to go to hospital, only they can diagnose him and get him the right treatment.

potter5 · 15/06/2021 11:58

In January this year I called 111 as I couldn't swallow.
Turns out I had a stroke the day before but didn't realise.
111 sent an ambulance.
GP's at the moment are worse than useless.
Call 111 now - please.