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DH unwell. Probably not serious but I need a handhold and advice.

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Yourehavingagiraffe · 15/06/2021 11:09

I’m very worried about DH who is in a lot of visible pain with what seems to be digestion issues. He is in pain within minutes of eating/swallowing anything – there’s no particular foods which are better or worse than any others and he is constantly burping – like all day, every 30 seconds or so. The pain is in his upper abdomen and seems to mainly sit around and under his ribs. His bowel movements are fine/unchanged so this seems to be an upwards rather than downwards thing.

He had a similar issue last year. It seemed bad then but nowhere near as bad as it is now. At that time, one of my colleagues suggested it might be H Pylori so we looked into that and the symptoms definitely fitted. He called the GP to ask about getting tested but was told that as it’s a breath test, they aren’t doing that type of thing due to covid and he should just wait for the flare up to die down, which it did after a few days.

This time though seems a lot worse. It started on Thursday evening, out of the blue with burping and discomfort. He had a sleepless night trying to get comfortable. He was still in discomfort all day on Friday and then it got a lot worse when he went to bed. I woke up at 1am to find him gone from our bed. He was on the kitchen floor, said that the cold, hard tiles were the only place he could find some semblance of relief but even with this he was still writhing around in pain. I wanted to call an ambulance at that point but he was insistent it would subside and he’s likely be okay by the morning. Throughout the day on Saturday though, he was clearly in discomfort as well as being utterly shattered from lack of sleep. He barely ate anything on Saturday – seemed scared to put anything in his mouth and we went to the pharmacy to ask for advice. He was given gaviscon but it didn’t seem to make any difference. He was hungry by dinnertime and the pain got immediately worse upon eating. Sunday was exactly the same and at times he was practically crying with it all.

He called the GP first thing on Monday morning but didn’t get any further than the receptionist who told him it was only indigestion and he needed to go back to the pharmacist for something stronger. Did the whole “there’s a pandemic, don’t you know?” and told him that he’d be wasting a GP’s time. He actually broke down when he came off the phone but he did go back to the pharmacy who gave him a stronger version of gaviscon plus some buscopan, even though the pharmacist said it didn’t sound like ibs, it might help with the discomfort. Told him to take these together for 72 hours and if he still had symptoms, to call the GP back and say that the pharmacist has advised he see a doctor. The gaviscon and buscopan still aren’t touching it so far though and he’s in a terrible state. Yesterday he only had one banana to eat and again hardly slept a wink. He looks awful, is in visible pain and the burping is horrible, although I know he can’t help that. I just don’t know how we can get through another 48 hours like this and what if the GP receptionist still refuses to make the appointment? What magic words to we have to say to get him seen?

DH’s best friend died four years ago from cancer after being fobbed off for over a year by doctors who told him at various points that he had indigestion and IBS. By the time the cancer was discovered it was too late and he died within 5 months. DH is terrified and has gotten himself worked up into a terrible state that the same thing might be happening to him. I’m trying to stay pragmatic and talk him down but I can’t deny that the same fears are playing out in the back of my mind right now. I know that all the signs point to this being H Pylori or something else treatable but I’d just love some peace of mind right now and above all, I’d like DH to not be in so much pain. It’s horrible to see and I feel so helpless.

For reference, DH is 42 - has always been in good general health and is very fit and active; plays tennis and cycles regularly and also works in a manual job involving heavy lifting etc.

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LittleChoCho · 15/06/2021 11:58

It could be something like an attack of gastritis - my DH gets these. It's super painful in the upper abdomen, like severe heartburn that comes in waves with a lot of burping and the pain can also radiate to the back. H2 blockers (famotidine / cimetidine) will work better than Gaviscon if it is that. (And it doesn't sound like IBS to me.) But as PP have said he may need an endoscopy to check nothing else is going on.

My DH was prescribed proton-pump inhibitors but they have bad long-term side effects so he stopped taking them. With H2 blockers an attack of gastritis generally clears up in a few days. Worth a try while he is waiting to be referred? Don't let the horrible GP receptionist fob you off! Good luck.

Lougle · 15/06/2021 11:59

There was a man on 24 hours in A&E who had very similar symptoms. They put an NG tube down to deflate his stomach and then investigated for the cause. I do think you should go to A&E.

Melitza · 15/06/2021 12:05

I was like this OP, I was also vomiting.
I went to A&E who were lovely.
They thought I had acid reflux, prescribed omeprazole and gave me a note for my gp.
I was referred for endoscopy and was found to have multiple stomach ulcers.

Your dp needs a proper diagnosis.

Whywonttheyletmeusemyusername · 15/06/2021 12:14

It sounds like you belong to the same GP practice as me. I have had the same problem since September last year. Getting treatment is horrendous. I'm sorry I have no words of advice (other than I agree with PP saying Omeprazole), and also there's an otc pill but can't remember what it's called....basically peppermint...begins with C....also very very good. Good luck at A+E

Livebythecoast · 15/06/2021 12:29

How dare the receptionist think it's her job to make a decision whether he speaks to a GP or not 😡. I would definitely write to the practice manager about that. However, you have more pressing issues right now and I think at the very least you should call 111 (explain Miss ' I think I'm a doctor ' receptionist refused an appointment). But I think A & E too if he's in that much pain. I hope it all gets sorted, your poor DH Flowers.

ImitationofBeing · 15/06/2021 12:35

I hope you get him to hospital today.
Shocking treatment by your GP.

Loubiemoo · 15/06/2021 12:36

Speak to 111 for further advice and then when DH is sorted, make a formal complaint to the GP surgery.

partyatthepalace · 15/06/2021 12:38

A and E great idea.
Make sure you get into see GP for any referrals going forward.

Also - while I am sure it is the last thing on your mind please put in a formal written complaint to the practice manager about the receptionist - it’s extremely dangerous stuff.

Good luck - the chances are it will all be manageable.

SpaceRaiders · 15/06/2021 12:39

Without wishing to alarm you, there’s a very sad thread on here about a posters dp who has been having very similar symptoms. It hasn’t turned out to be good news, please insist on being seen asap.

Bumpinthenight · 15/06/2021 12:43

I'm also thinking hiatus hernia, especially if it feels like he has food stuck which suddenly seems to clear.

I take omeprazole which can be bought otc to try until he manages to get seen to.

FannyFifer · 15/06/2021 12:46

DP had very similar symptoms to this & after 2 years he finally got investigations, he had a hiatus hernia, h-pylori & stomach ulcers due to the H-pylori.
He was so unwell. He finally got treated for the h-pylori & lost a good bit of weight which helped with the hiatus hernia, stomach ulcers resolved.

Guiltypleasures001 · 15/06/2021 12:51

Could be gall stones

Good luck op

FromageRay · 15/06/2021 12:52

Like alphabet I have also had bouts of gastritis and found ompepazole or lansoprazole really helpful. The pain is incredible and unrelenting, the burps are disgusting and until I started taking medication, vomiting was the only relief. Hope your DH is feeling better soon.

rainbowstardrops · 15/06/2021 12:54

Hope your poor DH gets to A&E and feels better soon.

sunshinepunch · 15/06/2021 12:57

My best friend had almost identical symptoms eventuating in gallbladder removal surgery. She was in absolute agony during an attack. Please try as hard as you can to take H to A&E. It could be as "simple" as gall or kidney stones. A&E could hopefully run tests etc. and help with pain relief. All the very best. We're all here to keep you company.

Scutterbug · 15/06/2021 12:59

Sounds like gallstones to me, the worst pain ever!

LarkDescending · 15/06/2021 12:59

I have very similar symptoms, and an ultrasound last week revealed a liver lesion which is now under urgent further investigation.

I’d caution against taking omeprazole without a clinician’s advice, as it can cause problems with some relevant investigations (I have specifically been told to refrain from taking it before upper GI endoscopy).

Best wishes, and I hope you and DH get some answers soon.

toastfiend · 15/06/2021 13:00

Might it be a hiatus hernia?

My DH has one, his initial symptoms sound very similar, combined with random vomiting (and he ended up vomiting blood due to a Mallory-Weiss tear, which made me terrified that he might have cancer). The burping was constant and he had terrible indigestion and pain after eating. He ended up having an endoscopy and they found nothing of concern other than the hiatus hernia and tear. He was prescribed Omeprazole, which worked wonders, told to lay off caffeine and dairy (which he found hard), and he was better very quickly after that. A few years down the line, he's back to consuming dairy and caffeine and no longer takes Omeprazole and is absolutely fine these days. He can even drink red wine without being hit with terrible heartburn, which he never could before. He does have the odd day where it plays up, but nothing Rennie or Gaviscon can't sort (they didn't touch it when it was bad).

It does sound similar. I know it's so hard not to panic, but do try not to jump to the worst possible scenario (I have health anxiety so do this all the time), it could be something very simple, like this, that's causing the symptoms, although I know how unpleasant they can be from my DH's experience.

sunshinepunch · 15/06/2021 13:03

Also my BIL experienced similar (with a few different symptoms) and turned out to be ribbon type structures slightly twisting in bowel to which there's no explanation. Righted itself after two days in hospital.

Could be similar for your husband or not but just trying to give similar experiences with good outcomes. Hope it turns out fine for your husband but really don't wait any longer if you can x

toastfiend · 15/06/2021 13:04

Sorry, I should obviously add that, despite trying to be reassuring, I do agree that your DH needs to be seen by a medical professional. Not least because the symptoms sound so unpleasant for him. My DH ended up in A&E after vomiting for hours and collapsing, all caused by the hiatus hernia. I think it was pain/dehydration/subsequent panic attack that made him go downhill so quickly, and he was OK, but it did prompt the endoscopy referral after his GP had been quite dismissive.

Elieza · 15/06/2021 13:13

A&E in my area are telling people to call 111 for guidance as they can tell you which A&E will see you quickest and book you in etc (you don’t want to be in a busy potential covid waiting room or whatever if there’s a better choice) and can call you an ambulance if urgent help is required.

I would therefore call 111 now and see what they say.

And complain about the gp’s policy for a receptionist to diagnose over the phone as that’s a poor show.

Elieza · 15/06/2021 13:13

ie complain to the go practice manager.

Elieza · 15/06/2021 13:13

GP

grooovychick · 15/06/2021 13:18

Hope you make progress today with him.
Threads like this make me so angry, a grown man writhing around on the floor in pain and denied access to a gp by the receptionist - it's no wonder they get a bad reputation.

MadeForThis · 15/06/2021 13:21

Sounds like he needs some pain management at least. Take him to A&E.