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DH unwell. Probably not serious but I need a handhold and advice.

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Yourehavingagiraffe · 15/06/2021 11:09

I’m very worried about DH who is in a lot of visible pain with what seems to be digestion issues. He is in pain within minutes of eating/swallowing anything – there’s no particular foods which are better or worse than any others and he is constantly burping – like all day, every 30 seconds or so. The pain is in his upper abdomen and seems to mainly sit around and under his ribs. His bowel movements are fine/unchanged so this seems to be an upwards rather than downwards thing.

He had a similar issue last year. It seemed bad then but nowhere near as bad as it is now. At that time, one of my colleagues suggested it might be H Pylori so we looked into that and the symptoms definitely fitted. He called the GP to ask about getting tested but was told that as it’s a breath test, they aren’t doing that type of thing due to covid and he should just wait for the flare up to die down, which it did after a few days.

This time though seems a lot worse. It started on Thursday evening, out of the blue with burping and discomfort. He had a sleepless night trying to get comfortable. He was still in discomfort all day on Friday and then it got a lot worse when he went to bed. I woke up at 1am to find him gone from our bed. He was on the kitchen floor, said that the cold, hard tiles were the only place he could find some semblance of relief but even with this he was still writhing around in pain. I wanted to call an ambulance at that point but he was insistent it would subside and he’s likely be okay by the morning. Throughout the day on Saturday though, he was clearly in discomfort as well as being utterly shattered from lack of sleep. He barely ate anything on Saturday – seemed scared to put anything in his mouth and we went to the pharmacy to ask for advice. He was given gaviscon but it didn’t seem to make any difference. He was hungry by dinnertime and the pain got immediately worse upon eating. Sunday was exactly the same and at times he was practically crying with it all.

He called the GP first thing on Monday morning but didn’t get any further than the receptionist who told him it was only indigestion and he needed to go back to the pharmacist for something stronger. Did the whole “there’s a pandemic, don’t you know?” and told him that he’d be wasting a GP’s time. He actually broke down when he came off the phone but he did go back to the pharmacy who gave him a stronger version of gaviscon plus some buscopan, even though the pharmacist said it didn’t sound like ibs, it might help with the discomfort. Told him to take these together for 72 hours and if he still had symptoms, to call the GP back and say that the pharmacist has advised he see a doctor. The gaviscon and buscopan still aren’t touching it so far though and he’s in a terrible state. Yesterday he only had one banana to eat and again hardly slept a wink. He looks awful, is in visible pain and the burping is horrible, although I know he can’t help that. I just don’t know how we can get through another 48 hours like this and what if the GP receptionist still refuses to make the appointment? What magic words to we have to say to get him seen?

DH’s best friend died four years ago from cancer after being fobbed off for over a year by doctors who told him at various points that he had indigestion and IBS. By the time the cancer was discovered it was too late and he died within 5 months. DH is terrified and has gotten himself worked up into a terrible state that the same thing might be happening to him. I’m trying to stay pragmatic and talk him down but I can’t deny that the same fears are playing out in the back of my mind right now. I know that all the signs point to this being H Pylori or something else treatable but I’d just love some peace of mind right now and above all, I’d like DH to not be in so much pain. It’s horrible to see and I feel so helpless.

For reference, DH is 42 - has always been in good general health and is very fit and active; plays tennis and cycles regularly and also works in a manual job involving heavy lifting etc.

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Youcanhavehim · 15/06/2021 13:22

Thinking of you x

tiredanddangerous · 15/06/2021 13:30

Any kind of abdominal pain that leaves you writhing on the floor in pain is absolutely an a&e job op.

hitsvilleuk · 15/06/2021 13:35

He needs a stool test for helicobacter - breath tests are rarely done now. Then to start ompeprazole (20mg) or lansoprazole (30mg) as soon as the sample is done ( the tablets interfere with the results)

The GP needs to put in a referral for an endoscopy - they can do this by direct access and an ultrasound.

It may well be an ulcer but an ultrasound will rule out any gall bladder pathology.

TheWildRumpyPumpus · 15/06/2021 14:14

I ended up in A&E soon after having DS1 with very similar symptoms and it turned out to be my gallbladder. I ended up having it removed after DS2 as the pain was unbearable whenever I had an attack - worse than childbirth by far.

81Byerley · 15/06/2021 14:23

Ring 111

therearenogoodusernamesleft · 15/06/2021 14:48

Agree it could be hiatus hernia or Barratt's oesophagus or both.

Hospital.

yellowstoneranch · 15/06/2021 14:55

Does sound like hiatus hernia too, can be very painful and cause high blood pressure along with central chest pain / stomach pain. My dad has it and when he has an attack (before he was diagnosed) he was really quite unwell

yellowstoneranch · 15/06/2021 14:56

Sorry, pressed post too soon - A&E would be the best place for him for answers rather than all of us armchair doctors x

GuyFawkesDay · 15/06/2021 14:57

Sounds exactly like my gallbladder symptoms. Down to the burping, the lying on the cold floor for relief; everything.

Hopefully you will get answers soonx

TheTruthAndNothingButTheTruth · 15/06/2021 15:06

Agree with everyone, severe stomach pain is A and E, no doubts at all. It could be something easily fixable or something he’ll need more help with. Whichever, he’s made efforts himself (ringing GP and pharmacy) to sort this himself so now it’s time to turn himself over to the experts.

That GP receptionist should be reported, how dare she diagnose indigestion over the phone. Some people think they have indigestion when they are actually having a heart attack (not saying this is the case with your DH I’m sure). Burping can also be a symptom of a heart attack, she should know better, she’s potentially endangering patients’ lives Angry

I hope your dh gets some support and answers soon.

NCnotmyusualone · 15/06/2021 15:49

Christ your gp surgery are really poor. When you have him sorted out you need to write to the practice manager to make a complaint.

There’s lots of things this could be, H Pylori (which can be tested for in a stool sample, doesn’t need to be a breath test), an ulcer, gallbladder infection, pancreatitis, a blockage. Being told to take something for indigestion with the symptoms you list is crazy.

The lying on the cold floor to try to relieve the pain is something I’ve had to do when I’m in a crohns flare (I’m not suggesting this is his issue) I’ve genuinely felt in so much agonising pain I might die, and have one time passed out from it when I couldn’t get laid down on the floor quick enough, so I can really sympathise with his level of pain.

I hope you are in A&E, and get some answers and your husband gets some relief ASAP.

seepingweeping · 15/06/2021 17:19

My bet is gallstones.

Take him to a and e and check his eyes for signs of yellow. Pull the eyelid down.

CharlotteRose90 · 15/06/2021 20:50

Sounds like exactly how I was with gallstones. Especially the cold floor providing comfort and pain straight after eating . Please ask for an ultrasound to rule out gallstones. They are absolutely awful.

MustardRose · 15/06/2021 20:57

Should this happen to anyone who can't get past the receptionist, I urge you to ask the receptionist whether they are medically trained to triage people in severe pain over the phone. I can guarantee they won't be. Politely insist on a second opinion.

Golden2021 · 16/06/2021 04:32

How is he op?

TheTruthAndNothingButTheTruth · 16/06/2021 07:18

Another one checking in, I do hope your dh is ok.

Yourehavingagiraffe · 16/06/2021 08:44

Thank you all for your caring responses and sorry I haven't been back. Yesterday was quite a day but I eventually got him to a&e and he's been in hospital overnight. Obviously I am not there with him and I feel he's being a bit guarded about what he's reporting to me - or perhaps - there just isn't much information at the moment. They think it might be pancreatitis but running tests this morning. They have reduced his pain though so he was a lot more comfortable last night.

I'm not offering excuses or trying to drip-feed but I come from an upbringing where we never ever "bothered" a doctor unless we literally had a limb hanging off and I've found it difficult to shake off that mentality over the years. DH isn't from the UK so I think he also gets confused at times by NHS rules and processes. As an example, I called my mum yesterday, just needing someone to talk to about the situation once he'd been admitted. Even though he was in hospital, she kept telling me I had overreacted and should have given it at least a week to clear up on its own. I find MN a really good source of sensible advice on this sort of thing but at the same time, there are often posters telling others not to water NHS time so I'm still trying to figure out when to make that call and when not to.

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LadyDanburysHat · 16/06/2021 08:51

Gosh OP it must be difficulty for you when faced with that reaction from your Mum, even though your DH has been admitted she doesn't think he should be there. He very much should be there, and I hope you get some answers soon. Pancreatitis can be linked to gallbladder issues too. Hopefully he will be on the mend soon.

romdowa · 16/06/2021 08:55

@Yourehavingagiraffe

Thank you all for your caring responses and sorry I haven't been back. Yesterday was quite a day but I eventually got him to a&e and he's been in hospital overnight. Obviously I am not there with him and I feel he's being a bit guarded about what he's reporting to me - or perhaps - there just isn't much information at the moment. They think it might be pancreatitis but running tests this morning. They have reduced his pain though so he was a lot more comfortable last night.

I'm not offering excuses or trying to drip-feed but I come from an upbringing where we never ever "bothered" a doctor unless we literally had a limb hanging off and I've found it difficult to shake off that mentality over the years. DH isn't from the UK so I think he also gets confused at times by NHS rules and processes. As an example, I called my mum yesterday, just needing someone to talk to about the situation once he'd been admitted. Even though he was in hospital, she kept telling me I had overreacted and should have given it at least a week to clear up on its own. I find MN a really good source of sensible advice on this sort of thing but at the same time, there are often posters telling others not to water NHS time so I'm still trying to figure out when to make that call and when not to.

I'm glad to hear that he has been admitted , hopefully they can sort him out. I've always been on the view that if you are worried about something health wise then it's better to get it checked and waste the doctors time than to ignore it when it could be serious. If you aren't a trained medical professional then how can you know if something is serious. This is why we have doctors.
TheTruthAndNothingButTheTruth · 16/06/2021 09:14

I had pancreatitis as a result of gallstones - one escaped and blocked a duct so I was also become jaundiced. I was admitted, had IV antibiotics for 5 days and then sent home. A few weeks later I had my gallbladder removed, straightforward op and absolutely no long lasting effects. I hope it is the same for your dh (without wishing him ill in the first place of course!)

randomkey123 · 16/06/2021 09:14

So glad he's in hospital OP.

Trying to get healthcare in this country at the moment is a terrifying process. DH has got a cardiac issue that's been ongoing without proper diagnosis and treatment since last March. In desperation we've had a lot of the tests done privately but our GP needs to co-ordinate all of it and trying to even speak to a GP is a mammoth task.

Hope he's on the mend soon Flowers

sunshinepunch · 16/06/2021 09:36

Hope your husband will get to the bottom of his ailments soon. He's in the best place.

My OH used to have the 'not bother a doctor' mentality, as did I to a point.

Until someone with a very sick child said to me once, why wait? You're not bothering anyone, medically trained staff didn't randomly take a role of a nurse or doctor, they studied hard to be able to provide best care for patients. That's their job. That's what hospitals are built for - to help unwell people. Sure there may be occasions where it's more of a GP visit, but you never know sometimes when an ailment can become worse and someone rapidly go downhill.

You've done exactly the right thing. Well done and all the best.

VariantL1130 · 16/06/2021 09:41

OP, ignore your Mum, she sounds a bit dopey. He wouldn't have been admitted if it wasn't necessary because of the whole Covid thing.

I hope he feels better soon, and please do consider a complaint to PALS about the GP (lack of) service when you're able. The way GPs have been behaving during the pandemic is atrocious and the less people complain, the more they will get away with it.

Nsky · 16/06/2021 09:58

Thinking of you, your mother was wrong to say you over reacted, you did not

DogsSausages · 16/06/2021 10:00

So glad to hear that he is getting tests done so they can help him, I dont think PALS deal with gp surgeries, you should complain through an email to the practice manager and head g.p what the receptionist did was unsafe, unprofessional and very dangerous.

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