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DH unwell. Probably not serious but I need a handhold and advice.

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Yourehavingagiraffe · 15/06/2021 11:09

I’m very worried about DH who is in a lot of visible pain with what seems to be digestion issues. He is in pain within minutes of eating/swallowing anything – there’s no particular foods which are better or worse than any others and he is constantly burping – like all day, every 30 seconds or so. The pain is in his upper abdomen and seems to mainly sit around and under his ribs. His bowel movements are fine/unchanged so this seems to be an upwards rather than downwards thing.

He had a similar issue last year. It seemed bad then but nowhere near as bad as it is now. At that time, one of my colleagues suggested it might be H Pylori so we looked into that and the symptoms definitely fitted. He called the GP to ask about getting tested but was told that as it’s a breath test, they aren’t doing that type of thing due to covid and he should just wait for the flare up to die down, which it did after a few days.

This time though seems a lot worse. It started on Thursday evening, out of the blue with burping and discomfort. He had a sleepless night trying to get comfortable. He was still in discomfort all day on Friday and then it got a lot worse when he went to bed. I woke up at 1am to find him gone from our bed. He was on the kitchen floor, said that the cold, hard tiles were the only place he could find some semblance of relief but even with this he was still writhing around in pain. I wanted to call an ambulance at that point but he was insistent it would subside and he’s likely be okay by the morning. Throughout the day on Saturday though, he was clearly in discomfort as well as being utterly shattered from lack of sleep. He barely ate anything on Saturday – seemed scared to put anything in his mouth and we went to the pharmacy to ask for advice. He was given gaviscon but it didn’t seem to make any difference. He was hungry by dinnertime and the pain got immediately worse upon eating. Sunday was exactly the same and at times he was practically crying with it all.

He called the GP first thing on Monday morning but didn’t get any further than the receptionist who told him it was only indigestion and he needed to go back to the pharmacist for something stronger. Did the whole “there’s a pandemic, don’t you know?” and told him that he’d be wasting a GP’s time. He actually broke down when he came off the phone but he did go back to the pharmacy who gave him a stronger version of gaviscon plus some buscopan, even though the pharmacist said it didn’t sound like ibs, it might help with the discomfort. Told him to take these together for 72 hours and if he still had symptoms, to call the GP back and say that the pharmacist has advised he see a doctor. The gaviscon and buscopan still aren’t touching it so far though and he’s in a terrible state. Yesterday he only had one banana to eat and again hardly slept a wink. He looks awful, is in visible pain and the burping is horrible, although I know he can’t help that. I just don’t know how we can get through another 48 hours like this and what if the GP receptionist still refuses to make the appointment? What magic words to we have to say to get him seen?

DH’s best friend died four years ago from cancer after being fobbed off for over a year by doctors who told him at various points that he had indigestion and IBS. By the time the cancer was discovered it was too late and he died within 5 months. DH is terrified and has gotten himself worked up into a terrible state that the same thing might be happening to him. I’m trying to stay pragmatic and talk him down but I can’t deny that the same fears are playing out in the back of my mind right now. I know that all the signs point to this being H Pylori or something else treatable but I’d just love some peace of mind right now and above all, I’d like DH to not be in so much pain. It’s horrible to see and I feel so helpless.

For reference, DH is 42 - has always been in good general health and is very fit and active; plays tennis and cycles regularly and also works in a manual job involving heavy lifting etc.

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vivainsomnia · 16/06/2021 10:56

Good luck OP, hopefully they will soon find what is wrong and treatment can be arranged. Like many here, as soon as I read your first OP, I thought gallbladder. It is the exact symptoms, although they can be similar to those of pancreatitis.

I'm not medically trained and assumed other posters aren't either. It's horrifying that the possibility of either condition didn't come to the mind of the GP. I don't get it :(

notapizzaeater · 16/06/2021 11:04

He's in the best place, they can sort his tests / results out much quicker and hopefully keep on top of the pain.

Elieza · 16/06/2021 23:13

Ignore your mum. The fact they kept him in shoes they are concerned and want to check him out thoroughly.

If he was bothering then unnecessarily they’d have told him to take antacids or paracetamol and sent him on his way.

So that proves your mum is wrong.

EKGEMS · 17/06/2021 18:11

Pancreatitis isn't anything to mess around with-I've had it five times (two rare genetic mutations make me susceptible) I had it once due to an antibiotic and once due to gallstone blocking bile duct-the other times causes unknown. You usually are nothing by mouth until pain subsides and IV drips and pain Rx. Your mother is talking out of her ass. Pancreatitis can cause a lot of serious complications.

Loubiemoo · 18/06/2021 20:21

@Yourehavingagiraffe, how are you and your DH? Is he home yet?

ItIsAShameAboutRay · 19/06/2021 07:13

@Yourehavingagiraffe another one wondering how your dh is doing! Did it turn out to be gallstones? Hope he’s on the mend.

Alannawhorideslikeaman · 19/06/2021 07:48

At the end of the day he has been admitted into hospital, so you haven't over reacted so your DM is wrong.
It is tough though. I had similar symptoms and had been going through GP but started vomiting at the weekend. Phoned 111 to see if that was normal with the suspected gallbladder issues (was on a long waiting list for ultrasound) and they booked me an out of hours appointment. OOH sent me to A&E next door and A&E sent me to the surgery ward for review. I had an x-ray and an ultrasound and nothing came of it and I felt so embarrassed that I was surrounded by these really poorly people and I was sat there on my Kindle, feeling queasy and uncomfortable, but hardly at death's door.
But the doctors were concerned about a potential burst stomach ulcer, or blocked bile ducts etc. They didn't see it as a waste of time at all. I only followed medical advice in going there.
The people they complain about wasting doctors' time are not the people rolling around the kitchen floor in agony or not being able to sleep because they're in so much pain.

Fnib · 19/06/2021 07:54

Thinking of you and your DH, @Yourehavingagiraffe Flowers

Thisusedtobeaniceneighbourhood · 19/06/2021 08:02

Any update OP? I’m horrified by the GP receptionist. You should follow that up with the practice manager.

Unsure33 · 19/06/2021 08:32

Make sure you complain about the doctors . Glad he is in hospital now and being looked after .

A friend had a similar experience. Dismissed by doctor , ended up in A&E . Had gallstones plus 2 infections . Was in for a week .

HidingFromTheChildren · 19/06/2021 08:37

A & E 100%

HelloDaisy · 19/06/2021 08:40

Glad to hear that you managed to get him to hospital and he is now being treated.

You definitely need to write to the practice manager at your surgery to complain about the receptionist. They do not have the medical training to diagnose patients over the phone so how dare they make that decision. They should have passed it on to the GP to decide what care was needed. Obviously, training is needed in how they manage phone calls…

That particular receptionist needs to know that your dh is now in hospital so it certainly wasn’t indigestion and that may make them treat others with more care in the future!

Good luck to you both and I hope your dh is feeling better soon.

Frazzled2207 · 19/06/2021 08:41

Vvv pleased he was admitted and will now hopefully get sorted.
Do update when you can and I hope you’re ok

Yourehavingagiraffe · 19/06/2021 16:15

Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts and continued support. He's been home for a couple of days now - feeling pretty much fine with no pain (says there is slight discomfort but absolutely manageable) but on a strict diet for now and waiting to be called back in to have the gallbladder removed - they said roughly 10 days time and will give 24 hours notice.

Just so glad it wasn't something more serious. Gave me a real scare though.

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Fnib · 19/06/2021 16:22

So pleased to read this update!
How do you feel about the GP receptionist and reporting? I was horrified to read that.
Hope things go smoothly from here Smile

ItIsAShameAboutRay · 19/06/2021 16:56

Oh phew! So glad to hear that! He'll be right as rain once his gallbladder op is done Smile

Yourehavingagiraffe · 19/06/2021 17:04

Yes, meant to say. I feel I need to do something about the GP receptionist. I keep starting an email to the practice manager and then discarding. I don't want to be labelled a troublemaker by the practice. Tbh, this week has been so stressful that I just want to take the weekend to chill out and then maybe tackle the issue on Monday.

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HotWeather · 19/06/2021 17:20

Glad to hear it is something treatable OP, & I hope he gets called soon. I wouldn't worry too much about the GP receptionist right now, but do try to write brief notes so when you are ready to complain you have dates, times etc. I hope DH makes a speedy recovery Flowers

longtompot · 19/06/2021 17:22

I'm glad your dh has been seen and a diagnosis has been given. No wonder he was worried with what happened to his friend.

I would email your practice manager and explain what the receptionist said each time he tried to see a gp and tell them he had to go to a&e where he was admitted and what the diagnosis was.
How a receptionist could even know what was wrong with him by speaking to him on the phone is just beyond words. How many different diagnosis's were in this thread? It could have been any number of things.
An email to the practice manager will help stop this from happening again to someone else. You are not being a trouble maker.

alexdgr8 · 19/06/2021 17:42

glad things are looking better OP.
re your mother, unfortunately sometimes our parents do not know best, and it's good that you realise that your mother's attitude in this is wrong.
her skewed views are distorted and could be dangerous.
bear that in mind, in any conversations with her.
all the best to you and husband.

Purplewithred · 19/06/2021 17:53

Please do email the practice manager. The receptionist was way out of line and the manager needs to know that the receptionist needs training. I am pretty sure the practice manager will be horrified and want to fix it immediately.

If you don't get an acceptable response then put in a formal complaint, and/or complain to your CCG www.nhs.uk/Service-Search/other-services/Clinical%20Commissioning%20Group/LocationSearch/1 who commission the GPs and copy in your local Healthwatch.

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