I can't believe I'm going to type this but ...

[excruciatinglyembarrassing]

Last night was the second night I wet the bed. I mean actual peed. In the bed.

I wasn't drunk (I don't drink at all), but I had had a glass of coke, a big glass of sparkling water and about four cups of tea during the day.

I have been experiencing some type of incontinence (fuck) I guess during the day , where I have the sudden urge to pee and then just about make it to the toilet or sometimes have to change my underwear.

So as not to dripfeed, I've had two vaginal births (one ten years ago and one 2 years ago) and one section.

I am so so horrified and ashamed of the night time stuff though... well both times it's not been in the middle of the night actually, its been about 30 minutes before the fucking alarm went off! I mean couldn't my bastard bladder wait abit ? it's the second time it's happened ... each time I've dreamt that I am sat on the toilet and I am having a wee, hence my brain tells me during my sleep that it's ok to let go and I literally have a massive wee. My dh woke up in a puddle of piss the first time and asked me what it actually was (died inside quite a lot that morning!) he spoke no more of it though after or after today because I told him I would leave him if her ever spoke about it again .

I am so fucking upset , I have no idea why this is happening. I've been to see my Gp and she said it sounds like an overactive bladder , has booked me in for an ultrasound and done an internal herself from which she has said that there is some muscle weakness but not major. I've been advised to do kegal exercises and switch to decaf, the latter of which I have done and the former as and when I can remember.

It's just something no one ever talks about I guess. But maybe if you have , please please do advise ... I'm worried sick and so so embarrassed!

Are you all going to let me die of embarrassment then 😩

It's quite common to have "the toilet dream". There are frequent threads assuring the op that it happens.

In the middle of off the witching hour OP, I'm sure you'll get more replies later.
You need to go back to your gp - maybe it's a prolapse or something? I think I have a lesser version, more stress incontinence than general but its not normal and you need help.
Also the NHS squeezy app is good!

do you have an uti?

I would try to see a physio specialised in pelvic issues. private if you can afford it to avoid waiting times.

I'm very sorry. I hope you aren't fobbed off with an unhelpful gp.
A slightly less unpleasant way of managing this is with reusable pads designed for leaks like this. Take a look at most cloth pad makers on Etsy and they might make them too. I have some just in case - they are a bit funkier than horrible medical looking ones. Get what's called a wet bag (also via Etsy) and sling a used one in. Stick it in the washing machine and air dry it. Give me a mo' and I will photo for you.
But speak to your GP. And don't be fobbed off.

You might have a bit of a uti. You might just have been heavily asleep. Reduce/cut out caffeine. Have a wee last thing at night. If you wake in the night, get up and wee, rather than just rolling over.

Im sorry, it must be really stressful 🌷

There was another similar thread s few eeejs ahi, so you’re not alone

I had a dream?! Like that a few months ago, thought I was on the loo and very nearly dud the same as you, fortunately (for me) I realised I wasn’t and got up but that’s probably down to the fact that I’m
The worlds lightest sleeper and don’t sleep much

I don’t know what to suggest other than what you’ve done - except maybe ditch the coke? Also it might sound daft but look st increasing the water you’re drinking you should be drinking s lot more than that anyway and it’ll make your bladder work harder in the day which might have a knock on effect at night

Good luck getting sorted 🌷

I've had the toilet dream - but if I have it now you can bet your life that I wake up and dash to the loo. It was not linked to daytime urgency, though.

Go just before you go to bed then right before you go to sleep (assuming you don't go to bed and straight to sleep) get up and go again.

You poor thing. I didn’t want to read and run. I’ve not personally experienced this but I do know it’s far more common than we care to admit.
Could you keep a drink diary perhaps? I know it seems small but for the nights you are fine and for the nights you have a problem, there could be a pattern. Ie drinking later at night?
Do the obvious, empty bladder before bed without having a recent drink ( not easy when it’s so hot!)
If you get thirsty, maybe suck an ice cube or ice pop rather than glue on water.
The exercises could certainly help. But you have to stick at it and do regularly. Clench yourself throughout the day as though you’re about to fart, but you must hold it in. Even try that whilst going for walks or just sitting down in the sofa, in the office. I really hope you can resolve this. X

Can you ask your GP for a referral to the continence nurses?

Used to have the same dream as a child and i’d inevitably wet the bed. I sometimes have the same dream these days, but I’m always close enough to waking up that I realise and get up to go to the loo.

Sorry watching nadal/federer!
Go to your GP. There’s a lot you can do for leaking like you describe. As for the night thing - might be worth setting the alarm to wake up in the middle of the night to go? But again speak to your gp. I’m sure there are many women who experience this.

I've used a coaster to show you scale. And front and back views. The backer is something called PUL which is a waterproof material used in medical stuff. But this one is a pretty colour. The topper bit that goes next to your body is cotton. Can't remember the core (between the topper and the backer) but it will be something absorbent.
The maker in this case was an Etsy seller called Panty Loon. But there are plenty of others.

Did you get up and go during the night? As another poster said if you wake up don't go back to sleep without going for a wee.

Make sure you empty your bladder every time.
Sometimes as soon as I have been especially before I go out I realise I feel I need to go again. I put that down to getting up too quickly from the toilet.
Anyway I read an article about emptying your bladder properly... You wee as normal, wipe, stand up for a few seconds and go again. It works.

Raise you hands above your head and it helps empty your bladder. I have MS. It's one of the tips given to me.
PS - bladder problems are not a sign of MS before you start worrying.

Reading this on the loo, I've just tried the standing up and sitting back down and it really works.

I've not wet the bed as an adult but I get stress incontinence and have some issues with minimal but constant leakage.

I had a similar dream as a child, dragons had me on a spit over a fire and I peed to put the fire out. Voila, wet bed. I get other kinds of pee dreams but I don't ever actually pee. Thankfully.

I'm sorry you've experienced this, I'd be mortified. Hopefully you'll get to see a continence nurse soon.

Oh God thanks to all who have replied.

I'm reading everything. Just on such a downer.

I really do not want to wear a nappy to bed however nicely it's made. But thanks to the poster who suggested it, I know it was well meant

I've just about reached my mid thirties.

I remember being a teen and having the pee dream often. Every now and again I still get it.

I have to go for a pee before bed even if just a dribble, because of this bloody dream.

Tea, coke and fizzy water all make me wee quicker than other drinks. Perhaps change what you drink and make sure you stop drinking a little earlier. Good luck.

Decaf tea or coffee. Cut out as much caffeine as possible.
Yorkshire Decaf tea is really nice.

Stop OP! You have been to the doctor and are in the process of finding out what, if anything is wrong.
In the meantime you need pads or night knickers. Not something to be ashamed of.

Hi OP, I recently went the bed, was mortified but DH made a joke about it and I felt better.
Mine is down to my epilepsy, I think, well that's what I'm assuming anyway. I said after the incident I was going to get a waterproof mattress protector, I've still yet to get it.
I also have the toilet dream a lot and wake up desperate to go.
I just wanted to let you know, you're not alone

Wet the bed, not went the bed.

Hopefully just a uti but have you considered diabetes? I know children with diabetes can wet the bed - not sure if adults would but may be worth a thought.