I can't believe I'm going to type this but ...

[excruciatinglyembarrassing]

Last night was the second night I wet the bed. I mean actual peed. In the bed.

I wasn't drunk (I don't drink at all), but I had had a glass of coke, a big glass of sparkling water and about four cups of tea during the day.

I have been experiencing some type of incontinence (fuck) I guess during the day , where I have the sudden urge to pee and then just about make it to the toilet or sometimes have to change my underwear.

So as not to dripfeed, I've had two vaginal births (one ten years ago and one 2 years ago) and one section.

I am so so horrified and ashamed of the night time stuff though... well both times it's not been in the middle of the night actually, its been about 30 minutes before the fucking alarm went off! I mean couldn't my bastard bladder wait abit ? it's the second time it's happened ... each time I've dreamt that I am sat on the toilet and I am having a wee, hence my brain tells me during my sleep that it's ok to let go and I literally have a massive wee. My dh woke up in a puddle of piss the first time and asked me what it actually was (died inside quite a lot that morning!) he spoke no more of it though after or after today because I told him I would leave him if her ever spoke about it again .

I am so fucking upset , I have no idea why this is happening. I've been to see my Gp and she said it sounds like an overactive bladder , has booked me in for an ultrasound and done an internal herself from which she has said that there is some muscle weakness but not major. I've been advised to do kegal exercises and switch to decaf, the latter of which I have done and the former as and when I can remember.

It's just something no one ever talks about I guess. But maybe if you have , please please do advise ... I'm worried sick and so so embarrassed!

I've had those dreams...and those wees! I was also suffering with stress incontinence and urge incontinence, what a combo I had some scans and all was normal and then got referred to a kind of bladder physio where she basically made me do kegels etc and said I had a mild prolapse. Def go to your doctor and get yourself on the right road - the more you worry about this the worse it will get!

I agree with all the other suggestions too such as 'finishing' then standing up and going again, just repositioning the bladder helps empty it better.

Oh and don't restrict your fluids too much in the evening. Stop having big drinks (ie a cup of tea, glass of water) and stick to just sips etc say 2 hours before bedtime. Last thing you want is a uti because you aren't taking in enough fluids!

I had the same, I had the urge to go every hour but ended up leaking. My GP said it’s an overactive bladder, gave me medication but it’s still never the same. Cutting out caffeine has helped a lot, drinking lots of water actually helps.
Make sure your bladder is completely empty before you go to bed. I avoid drinking 3 hours before bedtime, pee then wait s minute get up and give your a bum a shake then sit back down to pee more. It works for me and past few nights I’ve been dry.

It will get better OP hang in there

Oh my parkmama I'm so happy you posted about the tail tickle. I have this, too, never heard anyone else had it 😀. If anyone touches me there, even with clothes on, it is a real problem.

OP pelvic exercises is a thing.
I'm going to stick my neck out a bit here, if you get the all clear from doctors, try out reflexology or acupuncture. Perhaps you think not, but in my experience they are quite good with such issues.

Set an alarm an hour or so before you’re due to wake up, nip the loo then hop back into bed.

Try not to feel embarrassed, it’s happened to so many people.

Sometimes I dream about not being able to find a clean or private toilet. Often its a changing room type bathroom and none of the stalls have doors or there is a door and I go in and close it but then notice there is a whole side of the stall exposed.
I have had these same dreams so often!!!! Wow! Finally I have found my people

Checked myself a hundred times last night but no wee THANK GOD!

Got up in the night - don't know what time it was but still dark outside the bathroom window - had a quick wee, didn't feel the need to go but still went .

Going to have to try to remember to drink abit more water throughout the day so I can limit it during the evenings.

Feeling better about the whole thing today. Worried about the scan still but keep telling myself it's nothing ominous.

Thank you so so much to all you bloody amazing lot. You make everything feel piss-easy .... pun intended 😂

Ah that's good news OP. The joys of having kids eh?! Hope tonight is good too.

Sometimes I dream about not being able to find a clean or private toilet. Often its a changing room type bathroom and none of the stalls have doors or there is a door and I go in and close it but then notice there is a whole side of the stall exposed.

Yes I have had this dream occasionally for years! Always assumed it was an anxiety thing as you end up having to have the wee with everyone watching and you're too far from a door or anything to do anything about it.

Thankfully have not ever weed the bed but I had a dreadful hacking cough a few weeks ago when 25 or so weeks pregnant and was doubled up with some of the more extreme coughing bouts trying not to wee myself. I definitely have a bit of leakage, day and night, but it's small amounts that I am unaware of until I can feel my damp knickers (I wear liners). . I do get up at least once a night to wee now, often more (7 months pregnant).

Thought I'd update for anyone else silently following ... I've had only two cups of tea today ... one normal tea and the second decaf. I've had plain water to drink as normal with no juice or anything carbonated. and I am amazed at how much of a difference it has made today. I havnt had the urge at all , but just been to to toilet as normal !

I'm sure a lot of my problems are caused by not consistently drinking enough. Glad things are improving for you OP

@Hidingtonothing I was going to say about your previous post, your symptoms sound really similar to mine ! I do sometimes get uti type symptoms , but no uti. Strange isn't it .