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nicotime is a monster that will die if don't feed it!

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fionagib · 05/09/2004 23:40

Hi Folks - this thread continues from a v long previous thread... a few of us are desperately trying to kick the evil weed and will do it this time! A new thread, a new start! Let's help and support each other, splurge out those frustrations here.

Personally I feel like if I don't do it this time I am gonna take charliecat' suggestion and knock myself out with a hammer.

Come on girls - we know it' crap, and we feel so awful sneaking back in and our kids being near us and having honkng breath (us, that is...)
Let's do it this time, am am committed to this...

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minkmama · 13/09/2004 20:51

Hi guys, i am officially OFF now! finished the last 3 lurking around the house, but mum and dad have gone to visit my aunt for 2ish weeks, so no chance of any ciggies in the house! have finally remembered how good i felt when i was off for a month, now that i'm sucking my lozenge!

sorry i was such a crappy non-smoker for a while there, but like cc says, i'm back on track!

what a killer drug!!!!!!!!

charliecat · 13/09/2004 20:53

Back again! oh I see woodypops its infested your brain, pretty much like FGs brain illness where she cant open her mouth in the evenings because of the cravings...I can ssssooooo identify with that btw FG my god that hits it right on the head.
MM I am on my last lashing of oil as of tomorow am, can you let me know what email addy to send some pennys too and however much it is and get me sent....by airmail some oils please.........pretty pleasexxxx paniccy at the thought of having none.
Keep typing everyone, we all went off smoking when we stopped typing. get back here instead!!!
Wheres HS got to BTW

minkmama · 13/09/2004 21:21

Hi CC, HORROR at the running out of oils . You can send it to my normal e-mail address and we'll call it £ 3 if you insist on paying!!! Did you want the same mix? I can mix for practically any emotional or physical 'trauma' but if you're happy with that one i'll do that! let me know asap and i'll do a mix and try to post off tomorrow!

you know what happened to us last night? mum, dad, sis and uncle visiting and what breaks down?!! the b**y boiler! NO HOT WATER OR HEATING. gas man comes in today and tells me i've got to replace an entire section (luckily covered by policy) and that if the part is available, they can fix it tomorrow at earliest. plus it will take 3-6 hrs!!! what the hell! why can't this happen in the summer?!! AND when i've got no guests!

also, you're soooo right about the not mumsnetting and smoking! will try my best to get on as much as poss.

Twink · 13/09/2004 21:26

Right, you all seem to have re-focused so concentrate on what ever primary reason you have to be an ex-smoker.

Willow it's your ds and his loathing of it, fg you know your running will improve if you keep off it, each of you have got something to focus on.

Write yourself a big sign 'I am not going to smoke because it makes me feel cr&p , my ds hates it, I want to save ££££, I hate the stench etc etc you get the drift, and stick it somewhere really obvious.

Every hour or 3 depending on how bad you are feeling, stick a tick on your chart (yes a grown-ups star chart !) and collect them, after all, the money you are saving you're not used to having yet (it normally goes up in smoke !!) so spend it on something frivolous or extravagent for YOU.

Think of some of the other positives, you'll save on face cream - smokers skin is AWFUL, no more yellow nails, your eyes won't be so puffy, your hair won't stink. You might have a yucky cough for a while, I did but that was just my lungs ditching all the crap.

BUT everytime you feel better about not smoking and get the feeling that you've proved it's possible so it's ok to have one now I've beaten it you must come back here instead because that's just an evil trick that nicotine plays, often after a week and certainly after 4 and again at around 3 months IME.

No excuses girls, there is never a good time to quit.

minkmama · 13/09/2004 21:40

Wow, thanks twink, you've certainly made me feel even more inspired! those are stern words that i need to hear . you are so right about the nicotine making you think it's okay to have one...1wk, 1 mth etc. 1 mth is my downfall i'm afraid, but now it's here in writing it's so much easier to realise and hopefully beat!

charliecat · 13/09/2004 21:44

Woo hoo thank you twink, just what I needed to hear. Have misplaced My A.C book and am having withdrawal symptoms.
MM can you do me a calming sort of remedy and I will send you 3 quid via pp...Ill send 4 for p and p..xx

charliecat · 13/09/2004 21:45

LOL at me and mm both being inspired...feel free to keep coming back and egging us on Twink and anyone else who would like to!

fionagib · 13/09/2004 21:51

sorry to hear about your boiler mm, isn't being a grown up a ruddy pain sometimes!

hope all's well cc! how's everyone else doing? I could strangle a fag right now but as dh has real flu (I feel bad saying it was 'man flu) I've got kids all fed, bathed, etc, now have mammoth clear up to do, drag bin out etc... ah, the joys of being an adult.

don't even have the energy to go to garage for fags... cc glad it's a common symptom, this being unable to communicate - I am no fun, utterly jokeless, just a hollow woman without a foul set mouth and furrowed brow and a tortoise neck.

BUT AT LEAST I HAVEN;T SHOUTED AT THE KIDS!!!

It feels (sort of) good to be in control again. you're right twink - and great motivational talk there, thank you - am never gonna do under one hour 10k with lungs full of crap & a dry poisoned tongue.

I remember one night v recently when dd aged 4 shouted from bed, hug please mummy - and I gave her an awkward half-cuddle with my head turned away and said, 'mmm-mmm' instead of night night - cos I knew I stank of fags. The shame - being unable to hug your own daughter. She looked very confused.

better ruddy tidy up now!! love f xxx

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charliecat · 13/09/2004 21:51

OMG about the boiler BTW I said that to my friend down the phone as I was reading this and chatting at the same time, the friend I was talking to has been skint and has been without hot water for a month...baths done by kettle etc. i cant even comprehend. Tonight ive had a hot bath and have the central heating on...much sympathy

minkmama · 13/09/2004 21:51

ooh yes please twink!

cc, will make it either tonight or tomorrow and will try my best to get it out pm, but with the gas man and everything, don't know what time he'll finish. HANG ON IN THERE!!!

Oh and would you like the cd rom back to use because i think i might be better off getting the book as i can look at it even when the boys are frantic (when i need it most in fact!)

charliecat · 13/09/2004 21:53

Aww Fg that sounds dreadful wiht your dd, ive had many a similar occasion, no quick run away mummys having a fag..gutting now i think about it

minkmama · 13/09/2004 21:54

yes, boiled water baths here...but clean at least! poor friend tho, this kind of stuff is extortionate to fix!! he told me that if we weren't covered, we'd ahve to shell out £800-900!!!!

charliecat · 13/09/2004 21:54

Send it back when your ready have you looked on ebay for the book?

fionagib · 13/09/2004 21:54

girls... am still craving like a loon, pls excuse me as I reiterate my primary reasons as twink says...

I am so ashamed of being unable to hug & kiss my children or even talk to them without speaking in a weird clamped lipped way.

I am sick of being a sneaky idiot loitering by the bin.

It's crap, and so demoralising, the feeling of crumbling & failing at least twice a week.

I want to feel clean and fit and proud!

I'll shut up now... xx night night

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charliecat · 13/09/2004 21:55

God dont say that...thier family has just cleared thier overdraft for them so they can get it fixed this month. WOW.Too much, I rent so have no idea of what being an adult is lol

charliecat · 13/09/2004 21:56

I am sick of being a sneaky idiot loitering by the back door.

It's crap, and so demoralising, the feeling of crumbling & failing at least twice a week.

I want to feel clean and fit and proud!

I want to be able to suck clean air into my lungs and there be a tinge of joy about it.

I want to be a non smoker.

minkmama · 13/09/2004 21:56

oh fg, i used to say that ds2 couldn't sleep with me in bed because he shouldn't sleep with a smoker! i put my habit before sharing some cuddles with my baby!!! BAD MOTHER!!

charliecat · 13/09/2004 21:57

Hey we could copy paste and add to our reasons couldnt we?

minkmama · 13/09/2004 22:02

I'm all jumbled due to the cross-posting

these are mine:

i am sick of making my kids smell my fag body

i am sick of feeling guilty when ds2 lies down in bed with me

i am sick of the horrid monster spiders i share a fag with

i am sick of failing

I AM A NON SMOKER

night night girls, off to watch a dvd! (no more late nights for me, it caught up with me in the end, felt like crap!)

charliecat · 13/09/2004 22:03

Have a good night MM my dp has buggered off first to play football and second to go to the pub. im sitting here in my nighty and socks. Er helllooooo inequality????????!!!!!!

fionagib · 13/09/2004 23:53

at least he's not smoking cc!!

cravings reaching monstrous proportions but no fags in house due to dh being v sick!! Sweating, belching, how very becoming...!

But I have to share this with you girls, as it is a major breakthrough (and my main excuse for smoking - ie, being unable to wrok properly) after many months of struggling like F* with this new book, it is finally sort of happening which is a massive relief... sort of like it, at long bloody last. Don't know why I get so wired up about work but I do, it's pathetic. It has to be done by Jan so think I am finally on track now.

Gonna really say goodnight now, couldn't resist sneaking back on here. xxxxxx

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fionagib · 13/09/2004 23:56

BTW mm you hit the nail right on the noddle when you said I AM SICK OF FAILING.

come on, let's do this. The thread will disintegrate if we don't and that would be so crap. FFS, it's only bloody cigs.

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fionagib · 13/09/2004 23:58

I want to be a person who doesn't give a shit about fags.

(you can tell girls can't you, that am v desp tonight due to my many postings!) arrrrr!!!!!

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charliecat · 14/09/2004 07:20

OOHHHHHHH so would I...thats what my aim is really, to look at a fag every time and just think no thanks. Now that does happen, but id like it to be EVERYTIME.

woodpops · 14/09/2004 09:09

fionagib, I was desperate for a fag last night so went to bed at 8. The need for a fag was driving me mad. How sad am I going to bed at 8 to avoid having a fag?? I'm finding it harder now than I did at the start. But I'm now up to 16 days. I thinkl I'm gonna have to take cross stitch or something along those lines.