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Highly contagious

137 replies

Everyotherweekend · 13/04/2018 06:27

Off sick, been to dr now waiting to find out if I have highly contagious illness. DSC was dropped off with us this morning. I have had to spend the day avoiding them - As they aren't immune, DH is. DH needs to go out tonight, leaving me to feed DC and put them to bed. AIBU to ask them to go back to their mums until I know? We are always flexible when she needs help etc.

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Sugarpiehoneyeye · 13/04/2018 08:39

Any responsible parent able, would definitely keep their child away from whooping cough, no question.
That kind of decision, should not be left to a ten year old child.

Qwertytypewriter · 13/04/2018 08:40

dementedpixie
My apologies, you're correct - had thought all the more serious childhood illnesses were viruses (and that vaccines were generally for viruses). I have learnt something new today :-)

Elendon · 13/04/2018 08:43

What would you do if mum was out of the country?

You need to cope with this situation by yourselves.

DH needs to sort out dinner before he goes.

halfgirlhalfturnip · 13/04/2018 08:48

Strange for an adult to randomly have a recent whooping cough vaccination? If you are pregnant you will need to get used to having responsibility on the many days you don't feel 100%.
It comes down to whether or not you feel like a family including your DH's children or not. Clear communication is vital.

Intheblackhole · 13/04/2018 08:49

Why didn't they do a pregnancy test in the surgery ?

TheOneWithTheBaby · 13/04/2018 08:51

I'm surprised so many people question this. We just had whooping cough in the family, despite everyone being up to date immunisation wise. You can still catch it. Blood tests were used to check for it and we didn't get antibiotics due to coughing a while-apparently it was too late and just had to wait it out.

Op, I hope you feel better soon. It's a horrible pain and I can't believe your husband wants you to make dinner! I hope you can get some rest.

StealthNinjaMum · 13/04/2018 08:51

Sorry op, I don't think it's unreasonable for dh to not want to cancel speaking at event but I do think it's his responsibility to order a takeaway and organise a babysitter for his dc.

I hope you are able to have a restful day.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 13/04/2018 08:53

The might be pregnant thing is very Confused?? There are antibiotics that are perfectly safe in pregnancy. One would assume your doctor might know this?
When will you find out if you are indeed pregnant?!

ProperLavs · 13/04/2018 08:55

I'd think twice about trying to have a child with a man who is behaving like your dp.

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Everyotherweekend · 13/04/2018 08:56

Why so many questions re pregnancy and antibiotics! The dr wouldn't give them to me. Period. End off ! Blood test will be back Monday - urine too unreliable at this stage !

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Smallhorse · 13/04/2018 08:57

They’re 10, they can cook up some pasta and grate some cheese.
You take care

Choklitdoknut · 13/04/2018 09:04

Drs dont prioritise the possibility of an embryo over giving antibiotics that would be fine anyway.

Original poster
Everyotherweekend · 13/04/2018 09:05

@Choklitdoknut so you are a dr then ?
Maybe my dr has different views !

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Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 13/04/2018 09:07

You need to see another doctor. A qualified one.

Choklitdoknut · 13/04/2018 09:08

Why couldnt I be a dr? Drs use mumsnet.

octonaught · 13/04/2018 09:11

Blimey, leave the OP alone.
Vipers, your kids will be back at school on Monday so relax already!

Original poster
Everyotherweekend · 13/04/2018 09:12

@Choklitdoknut I'm not saying you aren't a Dr. I'm just asking a direct question. What would you have done then ?

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WillowWept · 13/04/2018 09:14

Your DH needs to sort this.

LoniceraJaponica · 13/04/2018 09:15

Have you actually tested positive for pregnancy? Either you are pregnant or you're not Confused

I don't understand why their mother is keen for you to have the children if you are this ill Hmm

In any case I hope you feel better soon Flowers

GnotherGnu · 13/04/2018 09:17

It really is utterly ridiculous questioning what the doctor has told OP. The simple fact is that that is what he has said and she can't change it. And it's irrelevant to the situation with her stepchildren anyway.

WillowWept · 13/04/2018 09:21

There's questions about the pregnancy because a decent urine test will give you 99% accuracy 4 days before your period is due. When you are merely days pregnant.

It's all a bit bizarre

GuntyMcGee · 13/04/2018 09:24

The prescription or not of antibiotics aren't the point here, the possibly pregnant or not isn't the point either.

The point is that OP has a contagious illness and cannot care for her step kids and her DH is being a wet lettuce about it.

OP you need to put the ball into his court. His two only options are:

Kids go back to their mother's and he goes out

Or

He stays home and takes care of them.

There is no other alternative.

The 'it's a big enough house, so you can avoid each other' is really crappy and not the point. If you're supposed to be providing a
Meal for them, you'll be in contact with them. The bacteria will also be all over your home and therefore exposing the kids.
How will the mother and your DH feel if those kids come down with whooping cough then?
What if they get into mischief while you're actively avoiding them/not supervising and one or both gets hurt? When you're this poorly you can't be responsible for kids, it's as simple as that.
Other arrangements need to be made for them and you need to make it clear that it's DHs responsibility to sort that out today.

LoniceraJaponica · 13/04/2018 09:27

"The point is that OP has a contagious illness and cannot care for her step kids and her DH is being a wet lettuce about it."

And so is the mother. There is no way I would send my daughter to a house with someone who has suspected whooping cough. The mother is an idiot.

AddictedtoSnickers · 13/04/2018 09:28

In your shoes I would insist they go home. Either that or your husband takes them to his charity thing. Hope you get some rest OP and the pregnancy test comes back positive.

Qwertytypewriter · 13/04/2018 09:37

All this about, if they were your kids you'd have to cope, and if the mother was abroad she couldn't have them back, is irrelevant!
They aren't her DCs, and the mother didnt say she was abroad (tho its v sad that she doesn't put her DCs welfare first and collect them - I've been in that position, and would always drop my plans rather than leave my DCs in a house where no adult present was well..). On that basis, the OP should always do everything alone, including looking after anyone's DCs that happen to need something, because hypothetically, at some point, she could have no one helpful to turn to with her own DCs!
What is best for the DCs is the most important thing, and being left in the house to fend for himself, while his DF goes out, and his DSM is poorly in bed, and he may catch a nasty illness, is not the best place.