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Highly contagious

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Everyotherweekend · 13/04/2018 06:27

Off sick, been to dr now waiting to find out if I have highly contagious illness. DSC was dropped off with us this morning. I have had to spend the day avoiding them - As they aren't immune, DH is. DH needs to go out tonight, leaving me to feed DC and put them to bed. AIBU to ask them to go back to their mums until I know? We are always flexible when she needs help etc.

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mum11970 · 13/04/2018 07:18

Have the kids not been vaccinated against whooping cough? Babies are normally given the whooping cough vaccine in their early jabs at 3 months etc.

dementedpixie · 13/04/2018 07:20

The pre-school booster contains it too

mum11970 · 13/04/2018 07:20

Their mother needs to be notified and she would have to be mad not to cancel visitation in these circumstances.

auntyflonono · 13/04/2018 07:22

Go to bed, leave DH to sort it out.

swingofthings · 13/04/2018 07:25

So your OH decided to have his child anyway, but only wanted to send him back to him mum when he had to go out. Surely if he was so concerned about him being infected, he would have not brought his child over at all. The most obvious way to avoid it would be to explain it to mum and in most cases, you would expect the mum to keep the child with her, but if not possible, then your OH should have taken his child elsewhere.

Sounds like he just didn't see the importance of dealing with the issue as early as he knew because his priority was his speech and he expected everyone else to sort it out for him.

LoveProsecco · 13/04/2018 07:25

You should be focusing on resting. It's your DH's issue

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Everyotherweekend · 13/04/2018 07:25

DH rang their mum. Apparently it's up to them if they want to stay. DSC want to stay, so they are staying. Apparently house is big enough for us to be able to 'avoid each other'

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lalalonglegs · 13/04/2018 07:27

Can you stay in your room and get a babysitter to care for the children?

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Everyotherweekend · 13/04/2018 07:28

Oh and DH has just asked .... what am I doing about dinner for DSC as he is too busy to sort. Hmm
I'm tempted to lick him to see if I can pass it on to him ! Livid !

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dementedpixie · 13/04/2018 07:30

It'll be a takeaway then!

BarbarianMum · 13/04/2018 07:31

If you're whooping you probably aren't infectious any more. And how come your dsc isn't vaccinated? Sorry for you though - i had whooping cough a couple of years ago and it was an awful, awful illness. I hope that - this evening excepted - your dh is providing lots of support.

dementedpixie · 13/04/2018 07:31

A 10 year old wouldn't really need a babysitter.

DinahMo · 13/04/2018 07:31

OP. Go to bed. Your DH is being a twat, charity speech or no charity speech. He needs to sort his children out.

SD1978 · 13/04/2018 07:32

Have you been started on antibiotics? How long have you been coughing for? They have already been exposed and without antibiotics you’re potentially contagious for three weeks. They have probably already been exposed. Can your husband not call the mother?

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Everyotherweekend · 13/04/2018 07:34

Won't give me anti b's as might be pregnant. DH has called the mother and apparently the house is big enough for us to avoid each other !

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Bumpitybumper · 13/04/2018 07:36

I don't know why you are even contemplating looking after and preparing food for your DSC when you're highly contagious. It's incredibly unfair to expose the children to such a nasty illness and also unfair on you to do all this when you must feel horrendous.

Either mum takes the kids back or DH makes alternative arrangements for them. Either way make sure he knows leaving them with you isn't an option.

CocoLoco87 · 13/04/2018 07:37

Get a takeaway for you and the kids. Then you don't need to touch their food at all, and you don't have to cook while feeling poorly. Get well soon!

MyYoniFromHull · 13/04/2018 07:39

Hmm you can have antibiotics whilst pregnant for whooping cough cks.nice.org.uk/whooping-cough#!scenario

Sorry your H is a bit of a twat

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Everyotherweekend · 13/04/2018 07:41

@MyYoniFromHull - dr wouldn't give them as they can cause complications in pregnancy.

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Nanny0gg · 13/04/2018 07:46

I don't see how it's their mother's decision. Your Dh should have told her you were ill, the children were coming home and he'll see them again when they sorted something out.

IWannaSeeHowItEnds · 13/04/2018 07:51

If I was mum, I'd be really pissed off that your dh has fart arsed around instead of contacting me as soon as he knew.

dementedpixie · 13/04/2018 07:52

He has contacted the mum and she said it was up to the child

dementedpixie · 13/04/2018 07:55

If it was your own child/children you wouldn't be getting rid of them.

BrutusMcDogface · 13/04/2018 07:56

"Might be pregnant"? Surely that means you're less than 4 weeks if you don't even know yet.

But I also can't believe the kids haven't gone back to their mum!

IWannaSeeHowItEnds · 13/04/2018 07:57

Nanny that attitute perfectly illustrates the mum as having default responsibility. Their dad has PR too - he can't just inform her that they are coming home - what if she has gone to work or is doing something that cannot easily be changed? What he can do and shpuld have done is call mum and tell her what is going on and ask her if she will help. If she cannot easily take them back, he needs to keep them out of the house until it is safe for them to return. That might mean asking gps for help or even staying in a premier inn for a couple of days. But as the dad, responsibility is his.