Responding to your last post in response to mine: I’m confused. Earlier up you said to Eagle “IF [causation] is as black and white as that, which it isn’t...”. I can well believe that it isn’t that black and white - in fact I’d be wary of anyone saying that there is a definitive, indisputable link.
In reply to me, you say you DO know the vaccinations caused your relative’s suffering (caused as opposed to eg correlated with).
How do you know?
Elsewhere again you said you’d be wary of anyone who told you anything definitively. I’d say that to you again. How do you know?
Whatever the answer, this isn’t really the point, is it. Ultimately, you (the mother of the child in question) will never know with certainty what happened. You can have a gut feel, but that’s not proof.
As such, yes, you are stuck between the devil and the deep blue sea. And yes you are alone (is the father involved and on your side?). Many, many parenting (and life) decisions are like this. Admittedly the stakes are normally not as high as a child’s life. But still.
This isn’t about pushback from HCPs when you go in with a request they don’t want to grant but are obliged to, or about hating confrontation. This is about you having the courage of your convictions. My advice would be to inform yourself fully of the facts from all sources. You can only go by what’s out there, else you’ll drive yourself mad, dizzying yourself in a world of conjecture. It’s the best you can do. You will have many, many “what if’s” as you raise your child.
Facts. Just stick to the facts. And they will lead you to the conclusion everyone is suggesting here.
Watching your child go under anesthetic, knowing there’s a chance (however small) that they may never come out, is terrifying. But on balance, it’s for their own good, even if you know a child who never made it. You know this. It’s why you’re struggling.