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To visit the walk in centre?

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Sienna333 · 02/12/2017 08:55

The top of my bumcrack has a small white/flesh coloured spot on it and although it looks insignificant, it is stinging like mad and I can barely sit. AIBU to go to the walk in centre? I can't take a minute more of this and what's worse is that I am on my period :(

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Aridane · 19/12/2017 10:20

OP - please get help for your mental health and anxiety - you can't live like this!

Bumdishcloths · 19/12/2017 10:20

I've also reported the thread as I think it needs to be moved from AIBU.

Aridane · 19/12/2017 10:22

Fair point, Bum - would make more sense for it to be in General Health

Emlou07 · 19/12/2017 10:23

@Bumdishcloths

Not everyone has the confidence to seek medical help straight away. Some live in fear that seeing a Dr will confirm their deepest fears.

Some people take to the internet to as their way of coping.

With HA you're irrational. Logic doesn't come in to it. You want to hear what you want to hear. You're convinced that you have this issue and anyone saying otherwise 'just doesn't understand' or 'THEIRS obviously isn't the same as MINE'

Then when you do see a Dr, they're lying to you. Or they have missed something.

It's a mental illness. OP - You need to see someone for the anxiety just as much as someone for your issues. It's a big step, but crucial for recovering from this shitty disorder!

Sallystyle · 19/12/2017 10:31

Yes, when my HA was at its worst I had a whole heap of digestive issues.

I did become physically unwell, but it wasn't anything that was physically serious, it was brought on by being very mentally unwell and focusing on my health and some was psychosomatic.

When I had my heart attack phobia my left arm was in constant pain. I couldn't believe my GP when he told me it was psychosomatic. That and a mixture of being so tense I was holding my left arm in funny ways.

I am still amazed how my physical symptoms changed with each worry and then stopped with MH treatment. Your symptoms are things I have had when my HA was at its worst.

Being in such a high state of anxiety will play havoc with your physical health. It is amazing what your body can do when you have HA.

When I got myself in a state over my smear tests results I started to bleed. My husband told me that it was because I was going to the bathroom all the time to check for bleeding. The constant wiping and prodding about caused a small bleed due to irritation, that I blew up into a big thing. I didn't believe him at the time.

I know that the second my anxiety gets bad my digestive system will play up and I will have a whole manner of symptoms, which really are simply caused by stress and fear.

I spent quite a while, along with many others, trying to talk to you and help you. I can see that you aren't in the right place to focus on any of those messages. I have BTDT so I am not judging you, but I hope in time you can come back to this thread and focus on them, read them properly and act on them.

There is light at the end of this dark tunnel. But only you have the power to start your recovery and find those better times. It seems impossible I know, but it isn't. I really do hope you can get to that place soon.

Sallystyle · 19/12/2017 10:43

I sought help from a medical professional.

It took me so long to do that because I didn't believe I needed help for my MH. Logic didn't come into it for a long while.

The OP will get there in time. Hopefully very soon.

It is frustrating seeing someone ill and not getting the help they need. It takes people time, everyone is different. If people are offended by the things the OP is saying then it might be best they close the thread. Getting frustrated with the OP and offended isn't going to change anything or help her.

Right now she can't think logically and until OP is ready to realise she needs help for her MH there is very little we can do. AIBU certainly isn't the right place for this thread.

AbsentmindedWoman · 19/12/2017 11:13

Health anxiety is a complete and utter headfuck. I don't think anyone who has never had it can understand it.

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Sienna333 · 19/12/2017 12:35

I do have to agree with that Absentmindedwoman. It takes over your life and you can't enjoy anything. I have spent hours researching inflammatory diseases and every morning wake up terrified that I will find a new symptom or have bloody diarrhoea/horrendous stomach pain. I never used to be like this until I got ill in October and it was never properly found out what it was. Because I had bloody diorohea then for a couple of days, it got me panicking. Even today I read about a lady who had what I did but only for 6 days. She says a month on her doctor is suspecting IBD as she is still having loose stools, pain and urgency. I don't have the pain neither the urgency but it still troubles me that our situations are very similar and I would probably get the same diagnosis. I am just terrified that the episode before was my first real experience of it and that it is only now going to get worse. I am going to call Mind later. Really wish I hadn't read that post of hers, had a panic attack over it earlier.

U2, I need to PM you x

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Wolfiefan · 19/12/2017 12:37

So seek help for the health anxiety.

DottyS · 19/12/2017 14:02

OP: you must seek help for your Health Anxiety. You have no medical training so looking for information on the internet is not a good idea. Get thee to the GP for your mental health issues and everything but everything will dissolve into the background.

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Sienna333 · 19/12/2017 14:15

Do you all honestly think I will recover physically if I seek help for the health anxiety? I can't see it. Would love to believe it but I think I would have the same symptoms. Has anyone seeked help for their health anxiety and recovered physically?

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Aridane · 19/12/2017 14:23

Sienna333 - what possible downside can there be for seeking help for health anxiety? what do you have to lose?

ISpeakJive · 19/12/2017 15:03

Sienna, I had exactly what you had. My Health Anxiety was so bad that I couldn’t function. I was convinced I was dying of some horrid illness. I had stomach pains, (which turned out to be gastritis because of all the worry and stress), ached all over, headaches and blood in my stools. I just shut down and my mental health suffered so much that my FIL came from abroad and took me away back to my In Laws house.

They took me to see a psychiatrist the following day where I was prescribed anti-depressant and another tablet to keep me calm. I began to feel better within 3 weeks and all my symptoms disappeared.

Health Anxiety is crippling and I do know what you’re going through but you are chasing the wrong illness. You are chasing an illness that doesn’t want you!!
It’s your Health Anxiety that needs medical attention and I promise, once you get that under control you will feel like a different person.

Nikephorus · 19/12/2017 16:00

Do you all honestly think I will recover physically if I seek help for the health anxiety?
Of course you will because it's your bloody stress levels that are causing all your symptoms. Get your head sorted and everything else will disappear.
You've been to the doctors enough times for everything else so make one more appointment and take this thread and the other one with you for the doctor to read. He / she can read them and decide if you have one of the many conditions you think you have or the health anxiety that we've been telling you to sort for weeks.

Wolfiefan · 19/12/2017 16:22

I'm not saying all physical symptoms would magically disappear if you treated the health anxiety.
But there's a huge difference between seeking calm and measured help for what may well be piles and panicking and constantly picturing the worst scenario. Seeking reassurance that won't reassure you at all and spending hours searching worst case scenarios online.
If you treat the health anxiety then every little symptom won't panic you. You will feel less panicked and be able to sort out the probably minor issue.
Be honest. Is the worst thing the likely harmless bleeding or your panic about it?

hannah1992 · 19/12/2017 18:49

Op I agree with everyone else. At the height of my friends anxiety she was phoning me in a blind panic every night. I would drive round to her house to make sure she was ok and she would be there hyperventilating on the floor. Once it was because she had found a mole she hadn’t seen before!

It sounds stupid to everyone else but to the person it’s conpletly rational.

This all started for her in Feb when her gran passed away it’s now December and she’s had grief counselling as well as anxiety councelling. She also took anti-depressants but she didn’t like them so just went with the councelling. She is a different person. She no longer has panic attacks. She still worries more than I would but she doesn’t panic.

Her health problems included: sore throat, achy, upset stomach, headaches, limbs tingling, feeling exhausted all the time, loss of weight rapidly. However, when you dissect it (which the doctor did) she hadent been eating properly = weight loss. She was panicking all the time all day everyday = exhaustion. Headaches and upset stomach was stress. Being achy was the stress and anxiety making her muscles tense constantly then when she relaxed made them all tingly. The sore throat was because she was dehydrated! Honestly the physical effects will take hold. If you want to google anything google the physical effects anxiety has on your body

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Sienna333 · 19/12/2017 21:08

FFS just had blood come out when I went to the toilet and diarrhoea. I definitely have something bad, this all feels like a bad dream. I knew that incident back in October was not just a bug. I feel sick.

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Teacupinastorm · 19/12/2017 21:12

Did you go to the doctors today OP?

ohtheholidays · 19/12/2017 21:13

Yes Sienna I do believe what ever problems you are having with your MH can affect you physically,there's hundreds of cases of that happening.

Women with PND can feel really awful,physically drained,lose weight,become anemic,have all sorts of physicall responses.

The mind is the most amazing part of a human and even the greatest minds in the world are still discovering things about the human brain all the time and as brilliant as it can be when something goes wrong it can cause all sorts of problems.

Struggling with health anxiety and MH problems is nothing new and Dr's are now so much better at getting people the right help and alot quicker than ever before,speak to your Dr,what have you got to loose?

If it was me I'd rather know than be living under a black cloud.

Wolfiefan · 19/12/2017 21:22

You feel like that because of your health anxiety. Contact your GP tomorrow and make an appointment to deal with that.

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Sienna333 · 19/12/2017 21:27

It is definitely UC or worse. Can't believe this.

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myrtleWilson · 19/12/2017 21:30

Sienna have you been to the GP in last week or so -or do you have an appointment..?

Teacupinastorm · 19/12/2017 21:31

So I ask again...have you called the doctor today for an urgent appointment?

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Sienna333 · 19/12/2017 21:35

I will have to do so in the morning, I am terrified.

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SparklingSnowfall · 19/12/2017 21:37

When was the last time that you went to the GP Sienna? Which of your symptoms are new since then? It's still my firm belief that the anxiety which is completely out of control is causing all of this.

Please urgently get yourself to the GP in the morning, you really can't carry on like this.

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