Chlamydia - where has it can't from?

[ForeverLivingMyArse]

Last week I had a medical termination and as part of the procedure they test for STI and I was swabbed for chlamydia. I got a Cahill today too say I tested positive for chlamydia.

Dh and I have been together 12 years, no other sexual partners in this time. I was last tested 3 years ago when pregnant and was clear.

I have not cheated and I am 100% sure he hasn't. Not a doubt is in my mind about that. He works, eats and sleeps and thats about it!

Neither of us have had any symptoms, nothing.

I've got a line to get the anti b for both of us but I'm puzzled as to where it's came from.

Everything I read says sexually transmitted only.

The nursery mentioned anal chlamydia that might have transferred to my vagina?

Any ideas?

molly I assume by tampon she means penis

Get a retest, sounds like a false positive x

chlamydia, or a chlamydia like infection, Marmite?

Yes had given oral sex about 6 months previously now you mention it. Had always thought it was the tampon but maybe not then!?
we're going back 25 years....

Marmite I read on the NHS site that someone with bodily fluid on their hands could have touched your tampon.

Ivor you could have been out and shook someone's hand and then rubbed your eye. You don't know if they wash their hands or not.

I'm just really, really curious as to how you can be 100% certain your husband hasn't cheated? Not in a 'I think you're being naive' kind of way, I don't think that at all but you seem absolutely adamant in a way I've never come across before. Does he have a penis matted with hair that you know no other woman would ever touch?! Something of that ilk? Am I close?!

OP, ask to check the previous test results (from three years ago and further if you have had more). It could be you were positive then but no one told you or it could be you weren't tested.

Bloggybollocks and OP, I'm curious too!

See I don't find this as hard to get my head around as some seem to. But maybe it's because my situation is different. Me and my DH work together so we spend 24 hours together pretty much. The only times he meets up with mates is for things like concerts or football games. With mates that I know well enough to have on Facebook and they tend to post photos etc. I can honestly think of two occasions that he might have had an opportunity to cheat but was texting me the whole time. I know it won't always be this way but if my DH had a positive chlamydia test I wouldn't even consider he could have cheated, my first thought would be an incorrect result.

What do you want me to say Bloggy? I have no doubt, I just don't. I don't know how to explain that but I have absolute and complete trust in him over this and he in I. I can't really say anything else other than that. He's not perfect, he has his moments like all people, but I just know he hasn't cheated on me.

I know lots of women might say that and lots of men might cheat. I'm not stupid.

Then maybe your test result has been muddled up with someone else's? Someone I knew had her birth notes swapped by mistake by hospital staff with another woman who had given birth in the same day and had a similar name.

If it's a true positive result then sorry OP but he has. Or you have. That is it, believe it or not. Your call

Poor guy hasn't the energy or the opportunity to cheat even if he wanted to! He works long hours in a very male orientated manual work environment, he has a company van that's tracked so he can't use it for anything other than work. He socialises in the house mainly with local friends, he doesn't go out or drink or have laddish mates. They are all hard working married men and they talk about work all the time! He never goes out actually - I try to encourage him to do so but he's happy chilling at home with the Discovery and History channels. Poor guy sounds like a right boring fart but he's not, he's great - just not a social butterfly!

I'm out more than him with my friends, have weekends away occasionally (leaving him looking after the kids) and drink too much at times - he'd have lots more reason to suspect me than I him. But he doesn't.

And now I'm justifying myself, which I said I wouldn't here as I have nothing to prove - but there It is. I don't want discussion around that as it's not even an issue and if I did I'd be asking for support in relationships or opinions in AIBU.

Oh yeah and Bloggy, you're pretty rude, but I suspect you know that already.

Hi OP. Not looking to go accusing as I see you only want advice and not judgement. (And I'm not judging!) Could you both get separate tests? Therefore if one has it and the other doesn't it'll likely be a false positive. If you both have it then someone has been unfaithful. If no one has it then the original test was also false

Ok, so here's my plan. I'm going to ask for another test and find out about my previous results. DH is going to book in for a full test as well, he's keen to do this.

I still don't know what the nurse was on about with the anal virus transferring so I'll ask about that again.

I'll take the text to the pharmacy and collect the antibiotics just in case.

Then we'll take it from there.

I think OH should have the benefit of the doubt. Strange things can happen that are hard to explain. A little over 2000 years ago, who'd have thought an unmarried girl could become pregnant whilst still a virgin? But she did!

I sympathise OP, MN is too jaded on this topic for my taste. There's some kind of weird contrast, lots of people believe in mystic/woo shite, but no one believes a man can be 100% trusted.

Thanks to everyone who has taken the time to share their stories and offer advice.

For balance my DH posted our tale of woe on a forum he frequents (a car one) and the general consensus there is that I'm a cheating whore bag!

I've just noticed your username, OP - unfortunate given the nurse's "anal chlamydia" theory

Haha I didn't pick up on that!

See OP, he got off lightly here didn't he?

What everyone else has already said. You cant be 100% and that's a fact about something someone else is saying. Sorry I know it's not what you want to here.