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Anyone treated depression themselves?

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essbee · 28/06/2004 17:02

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essbee · 01/07/2004 23:32

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Twink · 02/07/2004 00:18

Your children are lovely, sorry mine got a bit over-excited towards the end, she needs loads of sleep & goes manic when she's tired (on many archived threads about daytime sleep, she will NEVER sleep in the car etc, just gets grumpier).

I meant to say to you that I have a Mirena too & take Starflower oil to try to keep me on an even keel - helps but isn't perfect, SJW was better but I won't risk my Mirena failing..

essbee · 02/07/2004 00:39

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Jzee · 02/07/2004 00:41

I have just been reading about your problems and with everything you are having to cope with it's not surprising you are feeling low. I have had stressfull things happen in my life, mother died when I was young from cancer, then I was told I wouldn't be able to have children, but tried fertility treatment which after a 5 year battle was last year successfull, then the day after the birth I was diagnosed with a life threatening critical illness. With all of this I too have battled against depression, but have always been a fighter and not one to sit down and go over my problems with councellors or take prescriptions. For me, I have found it helps to concentrate on the good things in life - to get out there and enjoy it with the company of a few good friends and try to move on from past experiences. I am still recovering from my illness but waking up to my beautiful baby and his smile makes everything seem rosy.

essbee · 02/07/2004 03:14

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essbee · 02/07/2004 03:44

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nightowl · 02/07/2004 06:38

hope youre ok essbee xx

serenequeen · 02/07/2004 09:43

essbee, so sorry to read this. it's not surprising given everything you have had on your plate. hope the visit to the doc on tues goes well.

essbee · 02/07/2004 13:46

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wobblyknicks · 02/07/2004 14:00

Sorry things are so bad atm essbee - no doubt that the root of the problem isn't you its arsey, but that should hopefully settle down when the divorce is further on and all the arrangements have been made. Right now its no wonder you're depressed with the amount of stuff going on. Don't be too hard on yourself though - atm just getting through every day should be an achievement, be proud that you've got two lovely kids that you're looking after well.

Sorry, don't have any better advice than the good stuff already on here but hope you feel a bit better soon.

granarybeck · 02/07/2004 14:05

essbee, i just did the test and scored 48 too. i don't know the details of your circumstances but they sound a little similar to mine. i have recently split up with husband (following an affair, his not mine) and have had stressful time at work, all our contracts have suddenly come to end after several stressful funding bids, so consequently financial diffs, as you say to be expected when on your own. i guess what i'm saying is that although awful, feeling so low (ie rock bottom) is perhaps a 'normal' reaction to these kind of life events rather than any personal failing. though i actually don't know whether taking that test made me feel worse as it brought home what a mess i was in. i really related to what you just said about still being around. i have not really felt suicidal, but when close people have asked me how i am, sometimes all i have felt able to say was, well i'm still here. i think it is sometimes a feeling of having survived each day, even if not looking forward to the next. a counsellor asked me how i would envisage my life in a good way in a few months time. i found this so hard as as you said earlier, i just wanted my old life back. i really hope things work out for you, good luck at the doctors, take care

essbee · 02/07/2004 14:51

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essbee · 02/07/2004 15:43

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SoupDragon · 02/07/2004 15:54

you can't avoid me, essbee

essbee · 02/07/2004 16:11

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granarybeck · 02/07/2004 20:27

no, i'm not on anti-depressants . i've only been in this state/situation for two months so i've almost kept just waiting and passing through each day, considered going to doctors but i know how i feel is so related to my situation that i don't think they could help long term. i guess maybe they can just help you face things. i did take them just for a few months after dd. they did actually work very well. the councillor i saw was at relate, i went three times with dh. i didn't really find it helpful, they had quite a rose tinted view of things. lots of people have suggested i see a counsellor by myself, have you tried it?
i'd do minimum amount of work needed to avoid getting sack then f**k it and go out.

WideWebWitch · 02/07/2004 20:33

essbee, sorry you're feeling so low. I hope your doctor is helpful. Thinking of you.

tigermoth · 02/07/2004 23:02

essbee, when you see the doctor on Tuesday, can you get a note so you can legitimately sign off work due to stress? would that help?

I know from other threads that you have a tricky relationship with your family, but if they really knew how you are feeling, wouldn't they help you more? there are times, I think, when you have to break through boundaries of politeness, lay things on the table and just ask for more help. I've done it. Knowing someone else is out there sharing some of the burden is a massive and immediate relief. Is there really no way you can get through to your parents?

motherinferior · 02/07/2004 23:14

Essbee, haven't gone through the thread in detail but there are non-drug options which are very well thought of, mainly cognitive therapy (I've had it).

essbee · 03/07/2004 04:25

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nightowl · 03/07/2004 05:12

been thinking about you essbee. that feeling is horrible isnt it? kind of "looking at the world through a glass window" sort of thing. when is it you're seeing the doctor?

essbee · 03/07/2004 15:17

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fabarooney · 03/07/2004 21:12

Essbee, really feeling for you. Make sure your doc organises a depression screen of bloodtests to rule out other things that may be making you feel down. Thyroid gland disorders often give sufferers symptions almost identical to clinical depression.

I had PND after DD2 and on the advice of my GP started on anti-depressants. I didn't feel great about doing that initially as I really didn't want to accept that I was someone with a mental illness. However, after a couple of weeks I started to feel so much better. It wasn't a huge effort to put on a load of washing or have a shower anymore. I'm feeling so good now. If it is clinical depression, help is out there and you will get better. Take care of yourself.

essbee · 03/07/2004 23:48

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essbee · 04/07/2004 00:02

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