Would you take your dc to Tesco if they had chickenpox?

[QueenEagle]

ds3 came down with chickenpox on Saturday, bless him. Hopefully ds4 will catch it very soon as I am due to start work in 4 weeks.

I need ideas on what I can do with the two of them for the next week. I think we will go stir crazy if we don't go out! Today is first day off playgroup and I am getting frustrated already!

Of course, I need to get some groceries in, it will be ok to nip in and straight out wouldn't it, if I kept him in the trolley and didn't let him run around?

dh is not available until late on Thursday this week and I am severely limited to what help I can draw on from family members due to their own health problems - dad has leukaemia so he just CANNOT come anywhere near atm.

READ THE THREAD trinityrhino.

TR - I was thinking that just now. ds3 was at playgroup on Friday, the day before the spots came out so he has possibly infected everyone there.

Also everyone at my local swimming pool, as I only noticed the spots on Saturday whilst getting him ready to swim.

ds4 will come out in spots in 2 weeks time if he is infected.

QE you need to inform the playgroup.

So, perhaps your dad was exposed to chicken pox from your ds before you knew he was infected. Does that mean you would deliberately go and take ds to see him now you know he has chickenpox? No.

oh yes QE, i had just starteda job, one child had conjunctivitis, next week one had tonsilitis, next week one had CP. you wouldnt believe it, i thought my work wouldnt.
ask your child minder?

misdee - ta! Have obviously informed playgroup when I reported him absent this morning. ds3 is not the first case atm.

Should I inform the swimming pool?

no harm in telling swimming pool

Nutcracker, yes, I see your problem. You are in a very difficult situation.

bandstand - you're not serious are you?!

He didn't go in the water, as soon as I noticed the spots we got dressed again, but we did have to walk past quite a few babies and children. I shielded him from them and hurried to the exit, I didn't hang about.

Some people really don't have a lot of support. My situation is different now, but wen we moved here from London 16 months ago I didn't know anyone at all. DH works away all week pretty much every week and the nearest family/friends were nearly 2 hours away.

So my point is, although obviously most peole with an ounce of common sense wouldn't choose to put another child or adult at risk by taking out thier contagious child, sometimes they really don't have a choice.

I have 3 boys, 2 very young and one of 13 so I am lucky in that I can send DS1 to the shops if the small boys had CP or he could sit with them in the car while I ran in. I personally wouldn't want to take a contagious child out but would if I really really had to.

I thought CP was contagious before the spots came out too?!?!

oh, if it was lessons, you could tell them, just to let them know it's going round, it is obviously doing the rounds isn't it?

it's not your fault, so just state the fact, if you want.

Well, it was just a public swim session so don't think there is much point tbh.

Poor little mite, he's been tucked up with his quilt on the settee all day feeling sorry for himself! He does actually look quite poorly - is this normal? I don't remember my older ones being poorly with it?

Quadrophenia: that was my point: some people want their child to catch CP to get it over and done with. It is not someting that can be caught time and time again (usually) so people like to get it over and done with. My point about society was that if some people view CP as something to be got over and done with ASAP, but sickness bugs and colds are something to be avoided as much as possible, it is not really so awful to take your child out when s/he has CP.

But I do take the point that parents of vulnerable children must find this very annoying.

And I still do not think I am selfish to go out and get food for my family. Should they be allowed to go without? What I meant about doing it again was that I would do it again if I had to - if I were in QE's situation for instance. Of course I wouldn't gratuitously flaunt my CP child to the unsuspecting public for the sheer fun of it.

QE, not sure if anyone has answered your Q about the childminder in 4 weeks, but I would say if ds4 didn't have it by then you could fairly assume he wasn't going to get it (but I bet he will have it long before that!)

Right I get you DG, but I do think in most peoples circs there are ways around the food shopping thing, mainly because it is really only a coule of days where you have too keep them in, unless like in my case you have rolling chicken pox whereby 3 of my 4 children all had it at different times and it was a nightmare.

Oh yes, I have been thinking about this all afternoon and I can

I hasten to add, when I took mine shopping with CP, I had 3 children. The first caught it in time for the half term holiday and the other 2 both caught it 13 days later - quite a long time to be indoors!

go out quickly, and don't tell mumsnet dg!

I'm kind of guessing the responses were more because QE has an understanding of the risks involved. I am particulalry aware as my cousin had liver failure and then a transplant as kids we grew up knowing that illnesses such as CP could kill him, and he constsntly had to be taken out of playschool because people simply did not obey the rules stipulated by the playschool. I have evry sympathy with people who are in difficult situations but i do think there are few people who find themselves without any support or flexibility whatsoever

I was indoors for weeks we had reoccuring and infected CP (posted at length about it on here) and with 4 kids it wasn't much fun and i had to shorten my day by taking them to and from school at different times.

Haven't read the whole thread but

the day before my son's spots came out we were in tesco and bumped into some friends whose daughter has leukhemia.
My son and the little girl, got into one of those helicopter ride things.
Next day when we found out he had chickenpox we informed friend, who immediately contacted great ormand street.

The little girl was rushed up for an injection which would give her immunity to chickenpox, unfortunately it doesn't last and it was the third time it had happened.

They said that if they hadn't got into the helicopter together then it would not have been a problem.

So going to tesco's shouldn't really be a problem. My son was 3 then and daughter 15 months. I went to tesco with them strapped into pushchair so they didn't come into direct contact with anyone else.

My daughters spots came out exactly 2 weeks after mys ons.

No, never. I stayed in with dd for a week when she had cp. Sure she was infectious before the spots appeared but I didn't know. Once I did know there was no excuse whatsoever for PUTTING PEOPLES' LIVES AT RISK!!!

For the sake of a £5 delivery charge I would get the groceries delivered

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It is not putting peoples life at risk!!!!!

My friend was told by Great Ormand Street that her daughter (who had leukhemia at the time) would not have caught chickenpox by talking to him in Tesco. It was because they went into an enclosed space together (they played in one of those riding machines that was in the shape of a helicopter, so enclosed) that they were worried.This was when he was at his most contagious the day before before the spots came out.

Ah, didn't see this until had started my own thread on 'do I take ds to school tomorrow...' WWYD? If you had a 3yo, there have been cases of chickenpox at school and he had three spots and a temperature (but snotty with it so prob. just a cold)?