Would you take your dc to Tesco if they had chickenpox?

[QueenEagle]

ds3 came down with chickenpox on Saturday, bless him. Hopefully ds4 will catch it very soon as I am due to start work in 4 weeks.

I need ideas on what I can do with the two of them for the next week. I think we will go stir crazy if we don't go out! Today is first day off playgroup and I am getting frustrated already!

Of course, I need to get some groceries in, it will be ok to nip in and straight out wouldn't it, if I kept him in the trolley and didn't let him run around?

dh is not available until late on Thursday this week and I am severely limited to what help I can draw on from family members due to their own health problems - dad has leukaemia so he just CANNOT come anywhere near atm.

It amazes me that some are so laissez-faire on the topic.

Well, QE, I will happily support whatever decision you make, but I won't know about it as I am beginning to get rather wound up by this and have decided to bow out. So anyone who wants to throw mud at me, get on and do it to your heart's content! I won't know!

booboobedoo - knowingly mixing whilst infectious is different - but you could be travelling at any time, in any place with someone who doesn't know they are infectious!

Can i just say that i would take a child with CP out... this is because i never had CP as a child and everytime i saw a child with the spots i would panic and get away.
Sounds stupid but being older with CP is horrible as i now know.

(I caught CP because a woman i worked with bought her DS into work for the afternoon because the nursery wouldnt have him with CP.... i was SO angry!!)

er...you asked for opinions and got them.
Of course the opnion of people who don't think it best to take contagious children to tesco will find the act irresponsible, or selfish or thoughtless or inconsiderate...otherwise they would be saying 'yes, go, why ever not?'

And saying they think that something could be selfish just means that act, not the whole person. And doesn't mean people don't understand how hard it can be sometimes.

on the NHS site it says children can't fly on planes during the infectious time because of air con, and that it can be spread by coughing so maybe if the child has a scarf or held a tissue to it's mouth that should be enough?

you're not going to exactly let the child really close to anyone are you?

Just one last point: it is funny how people hold CP parties in the hope of infecting their child, yet I know of no-one who deliberately infects their child with a stomach bug or even a cold. That is the society we live in.

Blimey some of you really don't get what it
means to have no choice and be the only one there to do absolutly everything and have no one on permanent call for if you have a problem.

Ds was poorly last week, poorly enough to miss nursery but he still had to come on the school run and nip to asda with me as my mum was at work.

QE - I thought the whole point of this discussion was the question of whether you should take your DC out knowing full well they were infectious.

And the bus comment was in response to pollyanna who had 'no choice' but to get the bus with her infectious child.

That's what I'm objecting too. Very strongly.

QE it is worth doing an online shop IMO.

no i wouldn't. take him for a walk in the fresh air and get an online delivery. If i was in wire's position i would have reacted similarly.

Personally i wouldn`t in any case. It will take only couple days, isnt it? Or am i wrong? So its not the end of the world. Got to ask help friends or family or even neignbour. Where do you live, i could help you? Or other mnners?

Definitely wouldn't take an infectious child out. CP can be a killer disease.
Go round to see some friend with young children who've already had it.

DG people don't deliberately infect their children with bugs and colds as these will not prevent them from getting bugs and colds again. With CP you get it once so by infecting your child you are preventing it from happening at another time, it is more dangerous and more painful to get in young adulthood. No quite sure exactly what this is saying about society

As for calling you selfish I think saying 'I have done it and would do it again' is a selfish attitutde, nothing personal but it is.

I had CP when I was 30 and it was awful. Much better to catch it as a child, but propbably better still if you can have a vaccine as then there is no risk of shingles in later life. Shingles can cause permanent nerve damage leading to uncontrollable permanent pain. But that's a worst case scenario.

QE, sorry if I came across as too negative towards you.

I've just read your family situation and tbh, I still do not understand why you feel there is a need for your child to go to the shop with you though. Your 15yo or 13yo can pop to the shop to buy essential items or babysit whilst you pop out. Your DH can pop into a shop on the way home too. Failing all that, there is online shopping as you have internet connection.

Hope your child gets well soon.

I had dd vaccinated for exactly these reasons.
Even if it doesn't give her complete immunity she will definitely have a milder case.
IMO worth the £90 it cost me.

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Nutcracker, in your case, could not your mother babysit in the evening whilst you pop to the shop or failing all that, do internet shopping seeing as you have internet connection?

I think sometimes situations are made out to be more difficult than they really are, imho (granted I really don't know your personal circumstances so I'm probably talking rubbish).

Haven't read the whole thread but... I wouldn't want to consciously risk infecting people with CP. Are there any petrol stations near you that you could get the essentials from. Not ideal but if you could run in quickly...?
(ducks head - I know people have very strong views on leaving children in cars at petrol stations)

Whooosh - can I ask how old your dd was when she had the vaccine - thought it was only licensed for older children.

fortyplus - as posted below, also had chickenpox at 30 and yes truly awful. If all children were vaccinated against cp, incidence of shingles could rise. I think a reasonable option would be to offer the vaccine to anyone over say, 11 who hadn't had cp. That way they wouldn't run the risk of catching it as an adult. On average 20 adults die each year as a result of catching cp. This of course doesn't take into account children with low immunity.

Speedymamma sorry but did you not read the whole thread ? my mum works shifts including nights and neither of us drive, so i can't nip anywhere and as for internet shopping, I don't have a debit card anymore, just a cash card so online food shopping is not an option for me.

Believe me, if I could find a way to not have to take a sick child out with me then I would but as I have already said, somtimes I would have no choice.

Dd was 16 months or so when she was vaccinated.

you lot seem to have jumped on her

what about all the children who are contagious with chicken pox BUT THE SPOTS HAVE NOT DEVELOPED YET they would be going around as normal

sheesh give the girl a break

Next question - I start work in 4 weeks. ds3 and ds4 are due to start at childminder. ds3 will be safe by then. But what about ds4? If he has shown no sign of it by then, I assume it's ok for him to go to the minder, no?