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I don't want to drink today. Anyone else?

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zippy539 · 03/09/2006 08:52

Fed up. Drinking far too much on pretty much a nightly basis. Inspired by Dinny's thread last night I've decided to take a one day at a time approach to cutting right back/stopping. I'm posting this because I decide this pretty much every morning but usually give in later in the day - but if I've made some kind of public committment then I have a better chance of sticking at it.

If anyone else would like to join me in not drinking today, that would be lovely.

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zippy539 · 04/10/2006 21:14

Yup Berrie - I suspect that might be my problem too. Mind you, I haven't a drink tonight and the house is still a tip.

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zippy539 · 04/10/2006 21:17

Dinny - really wish you hadn't mentioned that Crunchie in earlier post. I can't stop thinking about having one now. I sense a new addiction looming....

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Berrie · 04/10/2006 21:45

Zippy, I have not had one either but my trousers are still scrunchio. Wouldn't worry but have to go to the hairdressers tomorrow. Am weighing up a plan to do them once the baby is down for a nap tomorrow against just doing it now. Knew there would be drawbacks to my put 'em away crumpled and iron as I go along scheme. Still I think it's better than enormous baskets (who am I kidding - random piles) of laundry everywhere...

dinny · 04/10/2006 21:47

ha, Zippy, just had another then....mmmmmm. well, much better for us than wine!

moomooland · 04/10/2006 21:59

Hi everyone, omg I want a wine (and a crunchie)

Stressful day with kids, husband working late, house a tip....

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zippy539 · 05/10/2006 08:13

Dinnie - begone with your Crunchies woman! Have some respect for the compulsives on this thread!

Moomoo - how did you get on last night?

Berrie - hope your trousers are unscrunched. I've just had to do a last minute ironing of ds's school clothes which I rescued from the bottom of an over flowing laundry basket...

Right, managed last night okay so I'm feeling positive this morning. Hope everyone else is too!

I'm not going to drink today. Anyone else?

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Berrie · 05/10/2006 09:02

Morning, well I'm feeling jolly proud of us all! I was beginning to think that this was turning into a we gave up dri nking once thread!
Dinny, are your crunchies some of those little ones or a packet of big ones?...might get some
Zinny my trousers got ironed last night after all, much smugness!
Moomoo, how did you do after all that craving?

moomooland · 05/10/2006 10:21

Well .........
I was going to have a couple of glasses this evening but think I had them a bit early, like before I went to bed last night. So won't have any today - that's a fair swap isn't it???

Here's today's declaration

I'm not drinking today

Berrie · 05/10/2006 10:48

Good for you Mrs Moo!

CountessDracula · 05/10/2006 10:49

I have done well this week

but am going out tonight so DO want to drink!

MrsOhHu · 05/10/2006 15:41

Can I join you too? I like wine, sometimes a little bit too much. I had a glass or 2 last night, but this week (for a change) I've been quite sensible. LIfe has been mashing my head, and booze isnt' helping one bit. I'm knackered, so tonight, a bath would be better than a drink!

Berrie · 05/10/2006 15:46

Welcome Mrsohhu, Hurah for baths and good luck to you!

vvvvvvv · 05/10/2006 17:30

as i said before on here that i havent had a drink for a month now and feel so better for it.i think u really need to wanna stop to stop i was sayin it for a couple of years im gonna stop but never did,but good luck once again to everybody i also used to smoke and stop that aswell its been nearly three weeks and i feel so much better and have saved so much too. do any of you drink coz of selfasteam or to relax coz of stress coz i have noticed that just makes you worse and if you say im not gonnA drink today and get stressed and still dont have a drink you have took the first step and belive me it works say to yourself right im stressed but i will not let drink take over me im in control. or loook at it as i will not have a drink today but tomorrow is another day. hope it was helpfull if you could understand it excuse my spelling. xx

vvvvvvv · 05/10/2006 17:30

as i said before on here that i havent had a drink for a month now and feel so better for it.i think u really need to wanna stop to stop i was sayin it for a couple of years im gonna stop but never did,but good luck once again to everybody i also used to smoke and stop that aswell its been nearly three weeks and i feel so much better and have saved so much too. do any of you drink coz of selfasteam or to relax coz of stress coz i have noticed that just makes you worse and if you say im not gonnA drink today and get stressed and still dont have a drink you have took the first step and belive me it works say to yourself right im stressed but i will not let drink take over me im in control. or loook at it as i will not have a drink today but tomorrow is another day. hope it was helpfull if you could understand it excuse my spelling. xx

kokeshi · 05/10/2006 17:36

How did you find giving up completely vvv...etc? Did you have withdrawals, experience any anxiousness?

MrsOhHu · 05/10/2006 17:41

I stopped smoking 3 years ago! I haven't had a puff since then and don't feel inclined to start again. I didn't drink when I was pg, which was a welcome relief. It's frustrating, now that my hormones have settled down a bit that I can so easily cane a bottle of wine in an evening. GGRrrrr! I don't know if it is drinking too much that is making me feel rather mad at the moment, or just that my life is in a terrible mess.

kokeshi · 05/10/2006 17:45

Well done for stopping smoking MrsOhHu. Do you have anyone you can share the burden with, you know, whatever's going on in your life at the mo?

vvvvvvv · 05/10/2006 17:57

well has for felling crap at times thats only life but to have a frink on top that makes you feel even worse. and symptoms of giving up was most good ones like having more money not feeling tired as i used too and feeling much much more confedent.the bad symptoms for a week or so was finding it hard to get on with the world like STRESS were as i would have a drink and not feel so bad. but belive me probs aint ant the bottom of a drink belive me. and once you relise that the better. a couple of weeks ago i had some bad news that left me crying and the first thing i thought was go over the offie for some drink then i sat bk and thought hold on this aint gonna make me feel any better im in control not the drink and i never had a drink. it makes you feel proud of your self in situactions like that and helps you not to have a drink. im not sayin i wont have a drink again but will do it in moderaction. good luck once again.also i fount it that i was very short temperd when drinking and my poor little girl used to get naged alot so i thought of her when giving up too.xx

vvvvvvv · 05/10/2006 17:57

well has for felling crap at times thats only life but to have a frink on top that makes you feel even worse. and symptoms of giving up was most good ones like having more money not feeling tired as i used too and feeling much much more confedent.the bad symptoms for a week or so was finding it hard to get on with the world like STRESS were as i would have a drink and not feel so bad. but belive me probs aint ant the bottom of a drink belive me. and once you relise that the better. a couple of weeks ago i had some bad news that left me crying and the first thing i thought was go over the offie for some drink then i sat bk and thought hold on this aint gonna make me feel any better im in control not the drink and i never had a drink. it makes you feel proud of your self in situactions like that and helps you not to have a drink. im not sayin i wont have a drink again but will do it in moderaction. good luck once again.also i fount it that i was very short temperd when drinking and my poor little girl used to get naged alot so i thought of her when giving up too.xx

kokeshi · 05/10/2006 18:31

Well done, you sound like you've made real progress.

kokeshi · 05/10/2006 18:32

Wise words indeed, although I didn't find giving up quite as easy as you did!

Berrie · 05/10/2006 19:24

vvv you're an inspiration. I think that probably I need to give up for more than just school nights as I find it too hard to start again. We'll see after this weekend.

Thursdays are hard because it's really nearly the weekend and you've done it more or less so why not start early? AAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

Berrie · 05/10/2006 19:43

Also, if my kids have their kids at the age we are, I'll be in my 70's! I want to get to my 70's and if I do be fit enough to enjoy them and not be a burden to them while their own kids are little.
DH and I both drink too much and I started this because I realised I can't ask DH to do something I can't do. I worry he'll die young too.

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zippy539 · 05/10/2006 21:03

VVVV - thanks for that - it's really inspiring. You are so right about drink actually making things MORE stressful rather than less and your comments about nagging your wee girl really rang a bell with me. I am a much nicer person since I cut back the drinking. In fact when I list the reasons why I drank excessively (stress/coping with kids/relaxation/time to myself) I now find that they are the same reasons why I DON'T want to drink - ie without panning a bottle of wine a night I find I am less stressed, can deal with the kids better, am more relaxed and actually have more time to myself. Go figure.

Berrie - know what you mean about your DH. I have the same worries. He isn't quite so 'addictive' as me but does drink far too much (until this thread at least!). I don't think either of us drank so much before we met, but together we encourage each other. I often think that if we had met other people (ie those without a predisposition to drink each and every night of the week) we would both be entirely different (and sober) people. Wouldn't be without him though.

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kokeshi · 05/10/2006 22:14

zippy, I totally identify with you re your partner. I think we attract/ are attracted to those with similar drinking habits. My drinking was facilitated by my partners love of alcohol too. We were really bad for each other in that respect, and could quite easily blame our lifestyle on the industry we worked in. Also I was living in Australia at the time and their culture lends itself to big time partying.

Didn't end well though...he died two years ago, ultimately as a result of where drink took him. I nearly ended up in the same place too. I wish you ladies all the best in your efforts, it doesn't have to end up like this.

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