Have lost nearly 5 stone since in 4 months, but sore lips and gums??

[oopsadaisyme]

I've lost 5 stone since xmas, now about 9 stone -

But my lips and gums are so sore, is it a vitamin thing??

Have cut out total carbs and sugar, is it that?

If you don't get hungry any more you have anorexia.

This is not a judgement about your mental health, or speculation about the causes, it's a simple medical definition. It's what the word means: an (without) orexia (appetite).

By regularly not eating for days you have tipped your body into 'famine' mode - it's not telling you that you are hungry because it thinks there's no point.

If your periods have stopped that's because your body knows it has no ability to support the blood loss of periods, or the huge nutritional demands of pregnancy. Because you are starving yourself.

You are short of a large number of micronutrients - that's vitamins and minerals. And also macronutrients - the carbohydrates, fats and proteins that your body needs to repair its cells.

See a doctor.

Seriously, you are doing huge damage to your body. See a doctor immediately.

I am not a medical person but it sounds like you have hypothalamic amenorrhoea (periods stop due to excessive weight loss, stress and/or excessive exercise). You should see your GP as soon as you can, as this condition gives a higher risk factor for osteoporosis. Also sounds like you have vitamin and mineral deficiency.
Hope your appetite picks up soon, you are damaging your heath with such a restrictive diet. Please do go and see your GP soonest.

What punk said.

Vitamins won't cure starvation.

if your period stopped that means that you perhaps are seriously underweight
so I guess you are weighing much less than 9 stomes (unlelss you are 6ft+)

if you don't get to eat balance diet then you are risking osteoporosis in the future

this is science and how your body reacts to what you eat

it can be reversed but make sure you start eating balanced diet
scurvy is dangerous, you are likely to have other defficiencies

if yo udon't sort out your diet you are likely to start loosing your hair and teeth in the near future too

in the end is up to you what you are going to do about it

Food is psychological and physiological.and op feels attacked
As well meaning as the advice is,She's unlikely to read thread,say gosh!yes You're right
Op needs to see her gp immediately.home visit or surgery

You need to eat protein to stop you losing muscle tone. You really don't want to be burning muscle tissue op. Muscle tone peaks in mid 30s for women and starts to decline thereafter. If you have barely any to start with due to starvation tactics you'll be be incredibly weak in old age. Do you want to be a vunerable weak old lady who neeeds carried up the stairs? Imagine being too weak to go on holiday or shop without someone to carry bags etc. Loss of all independence.

Cutting carbs is a great way to shed fat IF you substitute with protein and cardiovascular exercise as a package. Without protein you will waste away.

You only have one body op. Look after it!

yes, but at least I look good and my ex now has no reason to call me a fat cunt anymore -

yes, i know I may have a problem, but have been so hurt

but been concentrating and dealing with so much, loosing weight has made me feel so much better, and may have lost a little bit of control -

Mn is the only place ive admitted this on right now and am in tears a little -

appreciate your help but lighten up a little please? appreciate your support but maybe some lighter help needed, just at the mo x

Scurvy's fatal though if not treated. The doctors don't see it much these days in developed countries.

I think someone in America died of it recently, some 18th century medics used to live on restricted diets in an attempt to learn about food/nutrition.

But there's not much else me or anyone elsce can help you with.

You've done great job, noone's denying that. We just are telling you to start looking after yourself.

Eat a bit of everything, see your doctor and make sure you get enough sleep.

anti not asking anyone to help with anything, just posting a post -

to be honest, don't think food actually my problem -

Have you seen the doctor, darling?

I had extremely sore gums recently and my hygienist said I could be anaemic. Please go to your GP. x

Sorry if the post is too much medical stuff and not enough support. It does sound like you have had a really rough time of it and things have been out of control. You have nothing to prove to your ex, his fat cunt comment was abusive and uncalled for. It sounds like all you hear in your head at the moment is fat cunt. Please don't let him continue to have that power over you. You are not, and never was, a fat cunt.
If there is nothing else you do after putting up this post, please please see your GP this week. One small step

shakes thats all I hear when I go to eat -

so I just go for a run or a walk instead..

I think things have got a bit out of hand oops I agree food isn't your problem. There are lots of issues that you need some help with.

Do you feel comfortable talking to your GP?

Op,it's not solely food,you know that.i recommend print thread show to your gp
Do take care of yourself,do you have any good pals who can listen

you've asked question, true
you didn't ask for help

it is up to you what you are going to do with this knowledge

somehow I felt obliged to offer more information
I am sorry about that.

I had sore gums and dry cracked bleeding lips when I had been breastfeeding for six months. So basically 15 months of my nutrient stores beibg diverted to my baby had left me depleted. It wouldn't heal with vaseline. Someone upthread mentioned a possible oral thrush infection. I tried a bit of daktarin cream on the corner of my lips and it healed overnight so you could go to go for that to try and just have a few blood tests while u r at it? Even if u r scared to mention your eating habits there's nothing worse than cracked lips. Difficult to eat for one thing as they bleed everytime you open your mouth to eat. That at least needs sorted to make eating more... appetising. Can't imagine sore gums makes eating fun either

Sorry that should read: you could go to gp

Tbh this thread ishelpingme ad I've. Been thinking of going v low carb

Now I'm questioning that

Op see your gp

There's so much info our there about how being fat is so bad for you

Yet v v little info on how being thin through unhealthy ways is bad for you and why

When there's a shitload of chaos or overwhelming feelings, food is one way of establishing some sort of control. Add to the mix your ex being a nasty bastard about your weight & it's easy for the outsider to see your continued motivation is to show him that he's wrong. The compliments from others about how much weight you've lost conspire further to keep you going.

I feel for you OP you sound like you're trying to stop yourself from being hurt further by being quite self-contained

oops huge unmumsnetty hugs to you, you sound like you need them there is much more than the sore gums going on.
You really need some support in rl, can you share these feelings with your mum or a good friend? The tip about printing off the thread and taking to the GP is really good.
You are not a fat cunt. Would doing some positive affirmation techniques help? They are very weird at first and you don't really believe them but each time you hear that phrase, go to a mirror and say something like 'I am a strong positive woman and deserve to be happy and healthy'. Retrain your brain. He was so wrong and his phrase has been with you quite long enough.

member think you got what I'm feeling spot on actually, thanks x

Oopsadaisyme, you've had an awful time, and you've been keeping on top of it. You are quite rightly really chuffed with yourself for keeping going and for losing all that weight, and people in rl are congratulating you and telling you how great you look, so here's some to say well done! You are clearly a strong woman and he is clearly a complete twunt.

Now, so that we can all continue to talk to you next year, and the year after, and the year after that too, would you go and see your gp just to get yourself checked out physically. Please?

trust me, being called a fat cunt by my ex wasnt the worst I was called, but was the one thing I could stop - not anymore, tick box one