Have lost nearly 5 stone since in 4 months, but sore lips and gums??

[oopsadaisyme]

I've lost 5 stone since xmas, now about 9 stone -

But my lips and gums are so sore, is it a vitamin thing??

Have cut out total carbs and sugar, is it that?

[oopsadaisyme]

flow thank you xx

Just to say I am feeling alot better in myself right now - have made a few mates and have 'opened up' to a few people - not about my eating so much, but a few have commented that I look great and that I don't need to loose anymore weight (which did make me think) -

Not missing my ex at all now, no contact at all, which has been great in one way (no financial support from him, but here he's having a fair few holidays with his new 'soon to be wife') - good luck to her -

No contact with him has done me the world of good - have totally started to get me back, and just feel angry at myself for letting him control me for so long.

Thanks all for so many comments of help - x

[HermioneWeasley]

OP, if you are allowing his voice in your head to starve and malnourish you, you are not in control. You deserve to be well nourished and healthy. I hope you find the help you need.

[ShakesBootyFlabWobbles]

How are you doing now OP?

[Di113]

Hi

Sore lips and gums is an acid thing, your PH is very acid. What this means is you need to alkalize your body. You do this by eating alkaline based foods which are mainly 'green' such as spinache, kayle, runner beans etc. Best way is to blend up a handful in a blender and make a drink. I do it everymorning and mix with a protein shake as it balances your blood sugar as well. Hope this helps

[ShakesBootyFlabWobbles]

Hope you managed to enjoy some roast Oops

[flow4]

I meant abusive, not anusive! I'm guessing that 'anus' was a bit of a Freudian slip cos your ex was obviously an arsehole!

[flow4]

Oops, well done on getting out of such an anusive relationship with such an awful man. You are obviously really strong. :)

Please get yourself to a doctor. Your body has gone into 'starvation mode', because you're eating much less than you need.

The average woman needs about 2000 calories a day. The lowest recommended amount is 1200 calories. A tub of hummous contains 300-500 (depending on whether it's low fat or not) and celery and lemons have none, so unless you're eating 4 tubs a day, you're not getting anything like enough, and you're not getting all the nutrients you need either.

I have a friend who stopped eating much after a trauma. She developed sores and her periods stopped, too. Then she developed dizziness and headaches. Then depression. Then joint pain. Then she lost a tooth. After about a year, her kidneys nearly stopped working, and she was hospitalized for several months.

Also, be careful it doesn't back-fire for you like it did for me: I lost a lot of weight after the end of a relationship, like you. In my case, my weight loss was much slower - 95kg to 72kg over about 9-10 months... And I wasn't really restricting my food, just exercising and being happy (for a change). But I still developed rickets and anaemia, and ultimately it back-fired on me badly because I couldn't exercise due to exhaustion and joint pain... And I regained all the weight I'd lost, and more. :(

Look after yourself. You deserve it. :) Don't let that twunk have any more influence on your life at all!

[Beastofburden]

Good for you, OP. you have had a hard time, and perhaps the tough love shown here has come just at the right moment. You can pull up now and regain your health, be fit and fabulous and happy. That's the way to go. Time to take stock of your recovery, and be kind to yourself, ready for the next stage of life.

This time next year, you can be fit, feisty and happy. That's what you deserve.

[fuzzpig]

The best revenge is living well OP. And that means being healthy, not just slim. Learn to nourish your body - you deserve it.

You said 'us' rather than 'me' in a couple of posts - do you have children? If so, do this for them.

I know talking to a professional will be hard but it will be worth it. In the meantime maybe just add a tiny bit of food in. Maybe just one boiled egg for breakfast (doesn't have to be first thing in the morning if you can't face it) or something like that.

[Jux]

When my mum couldn't swallow (terminal cancer) our gp recommended that she have a milkshake every day, made with a few scoops of ice cream, milk and a whole banana. At the least eat a banana or an avocado every day.

I bought sip feeds from Boots for mum too. She was supposed to have 3 of those a day, but only managed one a day. If you were to do that (they're quite expensive though) then you would be getting some nutrients into your body. Not a long term solution, but will help while you get your head around the other things.

[differentnameforthis]

appreciate your help but lighten up a little please? appreciate your support but maybe some lighter help needed, just at the mo

MN can be harsh. Most of us have a way of saying what's what & not beating around the bush. Sometimes it is needed, sometimes not.

I think it is needed here, op. Yes you are upset, but you have gone from denial of a problem, to admitting you may have lost control a little.

A wake up call, if you like. And you say that you have only admitted it here, but at least you have admitted it & that is the first step.

It is because people care, op. It may not sound like it, but people even strangers) do care.

[oopsadaisyme]

Cooked a big roast today, going to have a plate!

[differentnameforthis]

Lemon can irritate your mouth, yes, but in all my time as a dental nurse, I have never known it to cause the issue you are having, especially as it seems you have the lemon in the tea? So you aren't eating whole lemons like they are apples.

Your body is missing something. You cannot go days with our food, no one can. The reason you think you can, is because your body adapts & lives off itself.

Celery & hummus are almost zero calories & low fat..

[candycoatedwaterdrops]

^ what Fanjo said!

for you, oops. x

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

If you cant approach gPs at least get some vitamins and try..I know its hard.. to eat some protein and fruit and veg. Low carb is better than no carb.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

He is the cunt.

No matter what you weighed you were not one.

Please get some vitamins and go and get a blood test and general check.

Well done for leaving such a vile man.

[ShakesBootyFlabWobbles]

Oops, could you waste an hour of time and do it anyway? I don't mind you telling us 'I told you so'. I just don't think even a crap GP would ignore that your periods have stopped, you're surviving on celery and hummus, and choosing to exercise when you are hungry. These could well be symptoms of an eating disorder which seems at odds if you have been quite an overweight person but it can happen, there were several people on Supersize v Superskinny that this happened to, with similar symptoms to you. They were really putting their health at risk.

It's Easter, can you try and eat some scrambled egg and a slice of toast maybe if you are staying away from chocolate eggs? Visit your parents for lunch? Or at least, prepare a proper meal? Prove to yourself that you can do it? If not, will that show you there could be a problem developing with food?

I hope you got some sleep eventually. Take care.

[goodasitgets]

That's the thing, you get called fat, you control the food as it's the only thing you can, you will have lost weight as you said but you will still feel (even though you're not) "fat"

I can't really give much advice except maybe see a nurse instead of the GP if you're uncomfortable with the GP
Get a decent multi vit with iron, and take it

You will think you are controlling the food, but the food is actually controlling you in the fact that you aren't eating it. Your hunger trigger will have gone because you stop listening to your body
Try and eat - tiny bits, doesn't matter if it's low carb, bits of meat and veg/salad will be good for you. Soup if you can't face chewing or even mix some milk with protein shake if your mouth is sore. An ice lolly - anything, but you need to nourish your body. You are punishing it for what your ex said, so he is still controlling you
Take back that control

[oopsadaisyme]

shakes everything on here and what has been said totally makes sense - totally

My Gp's are shocking, new one every time I've been, and don't think i'd be comfortable (and really don't think they'd listen anyway) if I went an said what's up - probably get asked to fill out a form and wait to see someone, who would refer to someone else etc ....

waste of time,

[ShakesBootyFlabWobbles]

On the face of it, it may look like he's come up roses, but he will still be an abusive bastard and that new girlfriend won't stay around long if she has any sense once he starts belittling her like he did you and probably every other girlfriend he's had.

You've lost a lot of weight in a short space of time and now your body is giving you major major signals it needs you to start looking after it and change your behaviour. The logical part of you knows deep down that you need to eat healthy meals yet something is stopping you. As you don't feel able to address your health issues, hand yourself over to someone who can, your GP. I would urge you to go this week just like most of the other posters advise too.

You've been through an incredibly traumatic relationship. You need to heal and start being kind to yourself. He abused you for too long and you are letting him continue to do so by believing his disgusting words. Let go of the past and start focussing on your recovery. Shift that control and determination away from skipping meals and over exercising and redirect it into building your self esteem and self worth. Very best of luck.

[oopsadaisyme]

butter do believe in karma, and just hope it does, ten fold x

Can't sleep, not really thought I had a prob before posting (knew ex a prob, but not this really, just though getting healthy, thin etc) hey ho - will sort - x

[butterfliesinmytummy]

What an absolute shit, op, I'm angry for you. You showed him that he was wrong on every count, well done.

Now you need to show him that you are strong and fierce, physically and emotionally. Get to the docs, make sure it's one you can talk to, explain about your dieting and recent lifestyle changes and the emotional abuse that @*#! put you through (because that's what it was). Maybe there is some sort of real life support you can get.

Get healthy, get strong, show him, and believe me, Karma's a bitch, his time will come x

[oopsadaisyme]

member i think that's it actually

[member]

Must be scary, and utterly galling how he appears to have come up smelling of roses.

[oopsadaisyme]

member makes sense