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Hysterectomies - it's gotta be done but over here for hand holding PART 3

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LackaDAISYcal · 27/03/2014 13:26

New Thread...
Over here for the hand holding

One in five women in the uk will have to have a hysterectomy at some point in their lives

Come and join us if you are waiting, pre-op, bleery eyed on the ward or recovering afterwards or just need a bit of advice.

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marymoocow · 18/05/2014 20:30

Hi AnnieSmile . Good to hear from you, and glad that everything is going well. Fingers crossed for the same for the rest of us.
Good luck tomorrow Jenny
My turn nextGrin .

Shewhowines · 18/05/2014 20:57

Glad you posted annie we were getting a bit worried about you. I bet you are feeling relieved now. Here's to continued speedy improvement and less tiredness Wine

Sorry jenny thought yesterday was Sunday for some reason. Thanks for tomorrow.

mary I bet you are getting nervous now. It'll soon be over.

AnnieIncognito · 18/05/2014 21:17

Thanks everyone. Good luck mary. When's your surgery? What type are you having?

marymoocow · 18/05/2014 22:26

I have just had a wave of 'sick' panic wash over me. Surgery Wednesday morning. I'm having an abdominal, maybe ovaries it depends what he finds. Looking on the positive side I've only got 2 days at work before the summer holidaysSmile . I need to stay calm, I need to stay calm (not sure why I feel like this tonight, I desperately need this operation)

AnnieIncognito · 18/05/2014 22:41

I felt exactly the same way mary. I think it's completely normal to be freaked out about surgery. I'm sure you will be absolutely fine. Although your recovery will be considerably longer than mine being abdominal surgery.

Do you have a support system for when you come home from the hospital? The best suggestion I received was to get a little cooler and ice packs and to load it up with light snacks and drinks. Mine sat on my bedside table and it made the first few days much easier having things within reach.

You will be fine and, believe me, the relief you will feel knowing that the scare is over is immense. Best of luck Flowers

marymoocow · 18/05/2014 22:46

Thanks Annie. Loads of practical support etc. Its little silly things that are making me panic, like being able to walk to theatre. I keep imagining my feet frozen to the spot, or running off in the other direction! Blush

ScarlettOHorror · 18/05/2014 22:58

Good luck to Mary and Jenny! Mine is a week on Tuesday. So much to organise. Period just trying to start and feels so strange that this is the last one.

notapizzaeater · 18/05/2014 23:00

It's normal, I've got 4 weeks and I keep thinking I need to sort the house paperwork out "just in case" I know I'm being irrational but I keep having a few tears over it.

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LackaDAISYcal · 19/05/2014 12:18

Hi Annie, sounds like you are making good recovery! Don't get complacent though; I did and set myself back a little bit.

I think I'm fully back to normal, but difficult to know what is lupus related and what is hysterectomy related. I even did a bit of light gardening yesterday and felt fine afterwards. So, I'll be back at work on 2nd June (boo hiss)

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GnomeDePlume · 19/05/2014 13:10

Good to hear that people are making good recoveries!

I have played the insurance card and have managed to get a consultation on Monday (yes, BH Monday!) morning. A bit better than 20th June. All I have to do is get the referral letter transferred over otherwise consultant and I will be sat looking at each other with nothing to say!

GnomeDePlume · 19/05/2014 13:10

Shame about work DAISY but I guess it has to be done!

gingeme · 19/05/2014 13:34

Some high emotion running through the thread today Sad Just think in 6 months down the line you'll be pain and blood free Grin While your jostling around getting ready for Christmas and moaning about the cold weather you'll be wondering what all the fuss was about Grin

marymoocow · 19/05/2014 20:32

Hope so ginge. In the meantime....ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhConfused
Child care/taxi service sorted for the last 3 days of term. I did stop at sorting out everyone's visiting times as well. One day left at work, really odd thinking that this time in 2 days it will all be over.
Hope all went well JennySmile . We may not get to 'talk' again until I'm on the other side with you.

ScarlettOHorror · 19/05/2014 21:55

I have a question... When you come round from the op and get taken back to the ward, would you want anyone there? I'd rather my husband went to work (both self employed and worried about money) and came over in the evening then waited around for me to be all stoned on morphine post op. Or are you hoping to have someone there when you come round?

marymoocow · 19/05/2014 22:05

We've just had that very conversation here tonight. Dh was all for hanging around, but as I pointed out we don't know exactly what time I will be going down, so therefore no idea when I'll be back out of recovery. Equally he is having next week off, extra to holidays, so I've told him to go to workGrin Who knows what he will really do.....

notapizzaeater · 19/05/2014 22:07

I'm being done in the evening, and as it's a abdominal cut he's warned me 2/3/4 hours operation so told DH to stay at home, he needs to look after ds.

Shewhowines · 19/05/2014 22:16

My DH stayed with me till I went down then went to work. I think I went down at 12 and was back in the ward about 6. He visited about 8 that evening but I only have hazy memories of him being there. I was out of it. I didn't sleep at all that night though, as they had to do half hourly blood pressure checks etc, so if you are up in the ward earlier than me you'll perhaps appreciate an evening visitor more. I had a radical abdo hysterectomy.

The kids visited the next night as thay wanted to see that I was ok, but I couldnt really concentrate on them for more than 20 minutes so they went home and DH stayed a bit longer.

I'd send him home once youve gone down and have him visit in the evening. You can always ring him to come earlier if you feel up to it.

PowderMum · 19/05/2014 22:33

My DH left the country due to work, my Mum stayed with me until I went down but didn't bother to come in after I came round as there was little point as I was drifting in and out of sleep. She was able to call the ward and I sent her an email. Both my parents came in the next morning with supplies

ScarlettOHorror · 19/05/2014 23:05

My mother in law wants to come and visit me the day of the op :O she is lovely but has lately been given to much gazing at me tearfully and telling me I'm so young. So no thanks. I'm 40 and having total abdominal due to pre cancerous cells.

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LackaDAISYcal · 20/05/2014 00:25

I was first on the list and was back on the ward about 12ish. DH and DS1 came in at 2pm, and I was completely out of it; head lolling and eyes rolling back in my head and only have a vague memory of any of it.

He came back at 6pm with DD and DS2, and I spent the time either falling asleep or throwing up due to the anesthetic and morphine.

In hindsight, I wasn't really up for visitors!

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LackaDAISYcal · 20/05/2014 00:28

Oh, and DH was sent away pretty quickly. I was fast-tracked to first and he helped them complete the paperwork whilst I got changed so I could hotfoot it down to theatre. He walked with us as far as the way out and left me there! Norm is for visitors to stay until taken to theatre though.

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AnnieIncognito · 20/05/2014 04:25

I have a question for those of you who have already had the op, especially those who had LAVH.

I am now 12 days post op and have been feeling really good. I had minor spotting earlier in the week but was told before surgery to expect this. Tonight, however, I am bleeding. Almost like a period although not nearly as heavy as usual.

DH is freaking out. How much bleeding is too much? Anyone?

gingeme · 20/05/2014 08:02

Morning all.
I have asked DH to be there to wave me off before I go down then depending what time of day this is to come back the next evening maybe with DS's . My parents will probably wait till I get home before they visit. Dad doesnt really do hospitals Smile

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LackaDAISYcal · 20/05/2014 09:53

Annie, there shouldn't be any bleeding as such. I had a bit of light spotting, but needed nothing bigger than a liner. AFAIK though, heavier bleeding could indicate that you've either overdone things or there is an infection. I would call the ward or your GP.

I hope you're OK Flowers

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AnnieIncognito · 20/05/2014 12:05

Thanks Daisy. It has now slowed down and is more like a light period, complete with cramps - how is that even possible? A liner isn't cutting it though. We took the kids to the park yesterday but I was good and day my arse in a lawn chair the entire time. There was a little but of walking involved but nothing strenuous. I did, however, lift DS yesterday as he was trying to climb the stairs and I had to pull him off. He weighs about 33lbs - maybe that was enough to cause the bleeding?

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