More Terrible Back Stories

[Matildathecat]

This is the support thread for all sufferers of back pain. Acute, chronic, agony or niggles, we are strictly non competitive. All newcomers very welcome. (Though be warned, the language can be a little 'ripe' ).

Here are our previous threads:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/general_health/1871592-The-Back-Story
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/general_health/1992406-The-Back-Story-Continues

My story long and grim but basically had failed surgery for disc prolapse, then further failed surgery to attempt to salvage the situation. I have nerve root damage and severe scarring around the nerve at L5 which won't get better. I'm 48, can't work, take a lot of drugs and have a blue badge. Currently battling several different agencies for ill health retirement and other benefits.

But I'm ok, having some fun despite the pain and have made some lovely friends on here.

So come and join us for moans, advice, downright rants or just a laugh.

well jel over the hols/mini-breaks matilda - you really deserve some time away after this busy week and evrything you have been going through.
The funny thing is pavlov that although the first was a bit traumatic ( the second just at the beginning really as it had a "good ending") - I am quite fiercely possesive of the memories of both and I feel only joy in thinking about either because it is prob one of the most massive memories in your whole life. I remember alot of detail about each (as you can see, sorry) even though I can have a crap memory for lots of things. I did replay the fist over in my ALOT though and think it helped make it a positive memory by gaining control over it. Life can sometimes be a strange mix of trauma and joy at the same time.
Hope you are all having a good mum's day. Mine is not really going to happen this year- as dd is too little to know and dh n ds are away. I'm just focusing on it as mums day for my mum anyway and it's nice to be staying with her all weekend. DD is having lots of fun with them and getting all their attention

Happy Mothers Day to you all
Hope you all have had a lovely day with the dc. I had a nice trip to open air museum with ancient houses. It was really gorgeous day and felt like I had stepped back in time. Also managed to get lots of photos which I love but usually everyone is so camera shy, or I just forget to take any. Have just had massive Chinese takeaway also now lying on sofa digesting. My back has been a little bit worse these last few days. The weird thing is I felt a bit better in myself and had a bit more energy also i am finding it easier to bend or squat right down and reach things, so got on with quite a few housework jobs I had put off for months, but now my back is feeling a bit uncomfortable.
pavlov congrats on little baby, hope you get lots of snuggles, although this def won't help with the broodiness!

Oh I know thread has moved on but I meant to say yay for frozen cherries cancelled smear. Last time I went for a dental checkup he said he didn't need to see me as I had an emergency filling not long before. I was really happy! I think I bought myself a new mop not very glam, but i am easily pleased and felt i had a great day!

frozen, thanks for the sympathy and head kicking idea. I'd personally go for something a bit more painful...

Anyhow, love the new dress buying. Can you engineer an occasion for wearing it?

live, listen to your back if it is speaking to you.

pavlov, beach envy! hope you had a gorgeous time.

I'm meeting maizie tomorrow with her littly so very excited. We can swap hard core prescription drugs in the manner of Breaking Bad ( my current box set of choice).

Hope everyone, including those not currently posting have had a a happy Mothers a Day.

live, New Mop?? Come shop with me. We can find better things.

read everything, thinking of you all. Went in the sea for a splash, nothing more than waist height, but lovely. Getting the wetsuit on and off has taken it out of me completely, as has walking on the rocks as the storms have destroyed the sandy beach. I don't feel well, think maybe migraine but can't miss work tomorrow as on strike in the afternoon/tuesday so got to show my face in the morning. Sorry not posting, but have read and nodded and absorbed.

xx

Aw hugs pavlov hope it goes off. Maybe a good rest and some drugs this evening and you will be ok for work.

Matilda and maizie have a great time meeting up. If you are going to do drug deals you will have to wear those cool mirrored sunglasses.

good luck for tomorrow pavlov I am very impressed you went into uk waters in March! Go girl! Some things we are passionate about are worth th extra aches, hope they dissipate magically by tomorrow, maybe the uk waters have magical back-soothing properties, we can only hope my dear. I went to Wisley and walked round the gardens a bit with dd and my dad. I forgot my crutch but took a morph and we sat down halfway through for cappucino. It was beautiful there and dd loved it!
My sister made stuffed shouder of lamb with apricots and tender stem brocoli followed by pecan pie, it was superlatively delish, dd ate none, ah kids! not bothered as she ate 7 cocktail sauasages at wisley and had her first mini cornetto (choc) today- no judging please, you will see tomorrow matilda she is a funny little fairy she pushed her own buggy most of the way back to the carpark. hope you are aving a good night's sleep tonight. Sorry to hear you hve had bad pains like , hope tomorrow is better, maybe try to lessen the housework- easy to say to someone else i know, it is a killer for backs, love to everyone xx

I have a new show for you all - it's called "the blacklist" and it is available on download sites. James Spader is a high level crim who delivers himself into the jaws of the CIA, but in return for info on all the biggest and baddest - most of whom the CIA dont even know exist, he wants immunity. Oh and he will only talk to one female agent who started that day and he names but knows nothing about him- interested? 17 episodes in the season, first 3 have been great!

M&M Day tomorrow, then? Lovely!
Anyone want to meet up in Herts.?

I actually DID have an occasion to wear my new dress ahem, one of many since diagnosis & ever since. Lol my brother's 40th. Think it was nice. Felt comfy. Got lots of you look lovely' comments. Couldn't help but notice the accompanying double eyebrow- raise as they gave their complement - eyebrow subtitles read: "I thought you'd look like total shit. Isn't 'it' true what I'd heard has happened to you?"
Gotta laugh.
Party was fab. Really haven't had that much fun in a loooong time (must get out more).
Nackered today.
Made pavlova. So dozy that I named it a palava. My family now think/ joke it's actually calked a palava now.
Lay in bed for a bit (as always post-op). Son went to Sunday school and I was still in pyjamas. When he came home at 1pm, I was still decked out in pyjamas. I'd been making Peppa Pug cakes (slowly with an ELC kiddie Kenwood, The Palava, setting the table - but because I'd not had time to shower n dress, my DS' diary for school now reads: mummy stayed in bed all day long. Grandpa and daddy did everything. Hilaaaarious! My dad slept in a chair after having his bit of a palava, DH did help to wash up (and to be fair never gets a rest since op ) but I was most certainly NOT in bed all day. Lol

Live, three cheers for cancelled smears n dentist appointments.
Grrrrrr I have NO energy to take DCs in hand. They're currently having a sleepover in his room (?!). Should b asleep now (6 and 3). DH usually handles these later night shenanigans (when I'm zonked) but has give .... to India for a week again

I'm supposed to take Robaxin tonight. Don't feel safe to as he's not here n I don't know how sleepy I'll b. Getting pressure to now by family as doctors saying to take that or amatriptyline mad I'm not taking anything.
So achy when I woke up this morning.
Does anyone now whether I should take omeprazole with it?

Matilda, I thought that BB was good (back to backed it in hospital) until I watched ... Orange is the New Black. Oh my fucking gd. It's amaaaaaaaaaaaazing. A time else seen it. I'm sire I've raved ranted about it before.

Pavlov. Wow! Know you loooove that surfy stuff. Hope you managed the wetsuit n got your kicks with whatever u could manage ;)

frozen. I don't think you need the Omeprazole in fact pretty sure you just need to swallow it! Sounds like a busy and jolly weekend. Hope you have a clear day tomorrow.xx
pavlov, sea swim sounds devine. Hope the migraine feeling goes away. Trouble is we have aches and pains all over the place.xx

Will finish BB then address news Box Sets. One addiction at a time .

New, not news.

Feeling bad: just sent sweary text rant to DH about him having taken my phone charger to blummin India... Only to find it in Electricity Boy's room. Should've known!
What a lovely 'hope you had a safe journey' arrival message THAT will be. Well received - not. I'm gonna b in soooo much sulk-trouble via The Distant & then The Delayed Sulk.

Feeling slightly happy ish about freezer alarm that alerts when left ajar. Not quite shifted it entirely.

Sleep well, my little backlings.

I have back pain 6 months after birth any advice?

frozen oops at the txt. Hope he is not too cross! I have started watching Orange is the New Black but only made 1 episode so far. Will try tonight for another one, did find it good, although a little close to my own profession, makes me a little sad! I missed the BB thing, don't know if it's too late to get on with it now.

DD's top tooth came out yesterday, or rather, I pulled it out! But, she wants to keep it. DH wrote a letter, but DD has woken me up (i heard her as I sleep with one eye open) at 5am (4am in my head) to say she has not been yet… so as you can guess, I am now awake. DS is asleep in his own bed for a change, and for the first night that I can remember I had been asleep and don't really remember waking up. So I am actually quite annoyed that I am awake! It's strange that I went to sleep at around 9:15pm new time, slept until 5am new time, and I feel exhausted, have night time tears, streaming down my face - had 8 hours sleep. No point going back to sleep now, so drinking coffee.

Headache/migraine feeling has mostly gone, I think I just did too much yesterday, but went to bed with a bit of a fever, or certainly sweating with headache and light was hurting my eyes and feeling sick. Glad it's passed as I can get on with a short working day.

Back and leg pain is surprisingly reasonable this morning, I mean, it's there, but not crying in pain like I feel like doing some morning. Maybe I should get up at 5am every day

Have a good day everyone.

lozzy can you tell us a bit more about your back pain? We obviously can't diagnose but we can give you some guidance on how to manage it and what kind of things to ask for at the GP in terms of meds and treatment, what to look out for in terms of it getting worse, and we will share our cake and shoe stories with you

Where is the back pain? what does it feel like, are you able to move, does it hurt your legs? are you breastfeeding (can affect what meds you can take), do you have help around the house, partner or someone close to you? Other children? what are you taking for it at the moment?

maizie the sea was lovely. This is late for me, normally I would be in early March. I have been in when it's been much colder than this! The sea itself is not a problem as I have a winter wetsuit and boots (a must even when the sun pretends it's ok, March is the coldest month of the year to go in the sea) it's getting changed again in the cold with wind chill factor that's normally the problem, but yesterday was like a summer's day here, it was glorious! The children went in too, they don't have winter wetsuits, and DS only had a shorty on, but children are hardcore! I did literally only stand in it and let it splash over me and the children, and then we clambered across rock pools.

My back has just 'gone'. I am sat on the sofa, with legs up against my chest (comfy as it eases sciatic pain but really bad for posture naughty me) and I turned my body, and it popped, the pain has seared up back, down legs. Fucking idiot that I am.

k last post. For a little while. promise.

I see the connection! yesterday fluey symptoms, headache, felt like I was gonna throw up, out of sorts. today, back has gone. Huge fluey feeling through my back, inside, down legs (and in my lower arms/near wrists on a much lesser scale, not pain, just that nerve pain of flu). I have always said I get this before I get a severe bout of back pain/episode. It is going to take 2-3 hours and I am going to be immobile. I have had a few periods of this since surgery, but more fluey, not so much sickness, but when I had my more severe episodes before surgery, I threw up beforehand, and I recall at least one where I had a migraine type headache, threw up, then swept the floor and back 'went' then, that was probably the worst episode I had.

It's not a coincidence. This pain i feel right now. It's the same. It's exactly the same. I can feel it building as we speak. It's like a sickness spreading, can't explain it. I hope I am wrong, but I don't think I am going to be.

I shall shut up now and go take some meds. Seeing as I am showered and ready for work already.

Pavlov - what profession are you in?
International drug dealer? (Joking! - I know jokes translate badly by text and on comments - pleeeeease know mine are meant well).

Soooo glad you're on O is the New B.

Take your time. New series isn't until June. That was a huge does appointment for me - having had the 'pleasure' of BB back to back for weeks.

Pavlov, looks like you did a FrozenCherry - goodness knows!
Up at Stupid O'Clock - and not even at your own body's request. Grrr
what were the tears about? Were u upset?

I hope you're not too tired come 8 or 9 am and then from 2pm as I often am.