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Zombie needs her limbs holding

875 replies

Valpollicella · 05/03/2014 00:05

With Zombie's permission, I'm starting this thread

As many of you know she has had a hideous time through her treatment for cancer.

At the point where she was maybe out of the woods she has been asked to see her surgeon on Friday. Unexpectedly Sad

Can we all squeeze her together so her limbs don't go flailing
and do what we vipers do best?

I cannot bear the thought of her going through all the treatment s again after coming out of it before

Prayers, fingers crossing or whatever welcome right now

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nickelbabe · 02/04/2014 22:27

you're so brave ,Zombie.

PacificDogwood · 02/04/2014 22:28

Yes, Zombie, such is life, but that makes it not any less shit or unfair.

Thinking of you today when I had to break bad news Sad - hope yours won't be.

Love and strength, as ever Thanks

RabbitPies · 02/04/2014 22:32

I'm sorry the news wasn't good Zombie. Life is so bloody unfair. Hugs for you.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 02/04/2014 22:34

Hugs and brains xx

mummylin2495 · 02/04/2014 23:20

I hope the results are not as bad as you think they will be, but if it turns out to be the nasty one, you have the strength and spirit to get through it.Wishing you all the best.

IamtheZombie · 02/04/2014 23:30

Thank you all again and again and again.

I've had a lovely haircut this afternoon. The appointment letters for my pre-op assessment (Friday, 11th April at 4.00pm) and hospital admission (Thursday, 17th April at 7.30am) were waiting when I got home. Also a letter about my request to be admitted to the private ward. It's known as a Amenity Bed and will cost £195 per night but I sleep so poorly and keep such weird hours that it's well worth it to me to have a private room with en suite facilities. Plus, it's a lot closer to the hospital cafe than the general surgical ward. Very important for cups of coffee. It's also closer to the outside door. Very important for going out a few times a day for some "fresh air". Ahem.

Best news of the day was receiving an email from my son. He'd gone quiet for the last couple of weeks but I know he's going through a really rough patch so I didn't press him. He was very open and honest about how rough he's finding things right now and how he (isn't) really coping with it. It's spooky how bloody alike we are. I cried a bit because for the first time he signed the email with love.

So, there's still a lot of joy waiting in my future.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 02/04/2014 23:41

Zombie Flowers

The rooms sounds like money well spent and so glad your son has been in touch.

IamtheZombie · 02/04/2014 23:55

When I had the first mastectomy I ended up on the private ward because there were no beds available on the general surgical ward.

A couple of weeks after H and I married, he had a few nights on the general surgical ward after green laser treatment for an enlarged prostate. I don't think he ever got more than half an hour of uninterrupted sleep the whole time he was there.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 03/04/2014 01:06

I am so sorry to hear all this Z, I suppose the only thing to do is just keep buggering on, at which you are a master.

That private room is excellent, so glad you can do that. All that fresh air will be very beneficial Grin

You're doing so, so well sweetheart. Such good news your son has been in touch today, you deserve every ounce of joy coming to you. In bucket loads I suspect. That little grand-daughter will be blown away when she meets you.

Wish I lived closer. Sending love and strength FlowersBearFlowers

tumbletumble · 03/04/2014 07:28

So pleased to hear about the email from your son Zombie - that's wonderful. Good luck with holding it together for the next couple of weeks till the op.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 03/04/2014 07:30

Zombie, the private bed sounds like a necessity to me. Do you know how long you'll be in for? Make sure your buzzer works.

I do hope the nodes turn out to be nothing. I'm doing a lot of hoping on your behalf. I have pm'd you :)

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 03/04/2014 07:31

And your son signing off "love" is a very big step forward :)

I'm so happy for you.

weebarra · 03/04/2014 07:40

Two great pieces of news today Zombie! Having spent 5 weeks on a postnatal ward with DD 7 months ago - 7th circle of hell!
Also great news about your son getting in touch.

ExitPursuedByABear · 03/04/2014 07:41

Lovely that you have heard from your son.

Hope is a great motivator.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 03/04/2014 07:56

Glad to hear you've had some positive news in the last day or two. Hearing from your son must have given you a boost.

yegodsandlittlefishes · 04/04/2014 07:45

Money well spent on being close to coffee. The actual'fresh air' out there these days catches in everyone's throat and makes even radio presenters cough! [ahem] Flowers Grin

PacificDogwood · 04/04/2014 22:50

Wishing you a good weekend Thanks

IamtheZombie · 04/04/2014 23:27

Thanks all.

I had a lovely 3 hour lunch yesterday with a friend and her adorable 3 month old DD. Baby cuddles are extremely therapeutic.

I was then looking forward to coffee with 2 lovely MNers today but ended up a billy no mates instead. [SOBS] I had already left when they tried to contact me to say they couldn't make it and they couldn't find my mobile number. Being a magnimonious Zombie, I have forgiven them and agreed to rearrange for after my op.

I arrived home to find a lovely no horsey scarf sent to me by the lovely FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse of FYF fame. I also received the forms to complete to see if I am eligible for genetic testing to find out whether I carry a BRCA1 or BRCA2 mutation. They will take some time to complete.

Tomorrow I'm meeting another lovely MNer for lunch.

Sunday I shall rest. Grin

RichTeaAreCrap · 04/04/2014 23:30

(((Zombie))), what a time you are going through. I have just read all of this and your link - what an amazingly strong lady you are. You have coped with so much throughout your life and are still doing. Despite this you are one of the nicest posters MN has ever known x

IamtheZombie · 05/04/2014 16:41

I had another fantastic lunch today. Best of all I made three new friends all of whom are fabulous.

I hope I wasn't carrying too much of an air of eau de cat poo with me. A certain ZombieCatGemma had snuck into the car when I was carrying the shopping in yesterday and was locked in for 20 hours. I can't blame her for needing a poo in all that time and she was kind enough to go on a wine bag so I could easily remove it from the car. The aroma took a bit longer to dissipate...

Grin Grin Grin

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 05/04/2014 20:01

Zombie! I have been away from all computers. I'm so glad the scarf arrived so soon :)

Sounds like you're a very busy zombie at the moment. I hope you like your no-horsey scarf. I wore mine all day today.

I hope it made you smile and will remind you of us lot when times are hard.

ExitPursuedByABear · 05/04/2014 21:29

You locked puss in the car. Shock

strikes Z from friends list

Wink
IamtheZombie · 05/04/2014 21:47

Sigh...

Exit, ZombieCatGemma and ZombieCatTinkerbelle both have the habit of materialising within sneaking into places where they are likely to be shut in. I always check the car when the boot or a door has been left open while I'm unloading. God only knows where she was hiding.

It wasn't my fault, honest guv. Except for not noticing that she was AWOL last night.

Blush Blush

ExitPursuedByABear · 05/04/2014 21:51

Oooh I had a Tinkerbell Made it to 21. One of the loves of my life.

IamtheZombie · 08/04/2014 16:44

My breast care nurse has just rung me.

My lymph node biopsy is positive for cancer. I will therefore have a full node clearance at the time of the mastectomy. I will probably be in hospital at least 3 or 4 days.

It's 99% certain that I will need to have further chemotherapy.

If this follows a similar timeline to 2011, I will probably see my surgeon for my post-op follow up appointment on 2nd May. The appointment with the oncologist will be within the 2 weeks following that. Chemotherapy would then start 3 weeks or so after that.

The good news is that I will probably be able to drive within a week or 10 days after discharge from hospital. I was expecting a lot longer than that so I'm really pleased.

This time at least I will be losing my hair in the summer instead of the winter. I don't wear wigs or scarves so I'll just need my sun hat when I'm out and about.