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Alcoholics or Dependant Drinkers Club

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Rhubarb · 24/04/2006 12:43

For SoftStuff, tyedye and anyone else who wants to join.

The rules are that you HAVE to sign in every night to let us know TRUTHFULLY how much you have drunk. You need to let us know your triggers too. So if you resisted for 12 hours but then cracked and had a beer - what finally snapped?

We'll be here to give you encouragement, support, advice and opinions.

OP posts:
themoon66 · 26/04/2006 09:41

I'm at work (hospital). Went to see my mate in reception just now and said 'hey, guess what, I didnt have a drink last night'! She was VERY impressed coz she is a worse old soak than me. Then someone else piped up that they drink every night too, and want to stop. I'm now thinking of starting my own support group here at work.

butty · 26/04/2006 09:43

Hi all,

Well i turned a night out down last night for the first time in a long time and actually fell asleep before 9.10pm, a bit miffed though as was watching CSIGrin

Tonight is my main week night out and i am kinda thinking of not going as really want to make ago of cutting down.

I am at the moment trying to talk myself into going tee-total, but i cant see it lasting as need my nights out for my own sanity.

However, i am now going to think about only going out 1 night a week and make sure that it is planned to perfection!!!

My idea, is yes, still have some drinks, but make sure that after 2 pints, i stick with shandy!!!!

I know my weight may still suffer, but probably think i should lose some as will not be drinking anyway near the amount i was.

I have now decided to start walking at night with the dog for at least an hour with my friend, which should help with the weight loss, or so i hope!!!!

DP will be happy, as he can have even more free time!!!!

Well done for those of you who didn't drink last night or even if you cut back, well done.

Butty.xxx

kokeshi · 26/04/2006 09:46

Hi all, well done all of you who managed a drink free day yesterday, that really is an achievement. sickandtired...the best way to look at it is you only have to not have a drink for today, don't worry about tomorrow, next week. All any of us have is this day in front of us, so just aim for that. It really does work, I've done it myself.

I was really in trouble with drinking a couple of years ago, just crept up on me over a period of time and I couldn't imagine a life where I'd ever be free of the way I felt. The raw feelings are temporary, I promise you'll feel better. I'm thinking of you all and will be checking in regularly too. It's great to see such a positive, suportive thread! Smile

tyedye · 26/04/2006 09:50

Perhaps we should all take up knitting,Apparently its the new yoga and it keeps your hands busy!well done everyone.

tyedye · 26/04/2006 10:01

Butty,all your plans with your social life and your dog are really sensible,i a going to keep a journal i think,writing alone is a therapeutic activity,i will have to hide it mind you!Good luck tonight!Why not explore singing other than in the pub?

kokeshi · 26/04/2006 10:04

Tyedye, writing is a great way of crystallising your thoughts and feelings, and so is any activity that gives you something to concentrate on (don't know about knitting, our family are bereft of any talent in that field!). Grin

tyedye · 26/04/2006 10:12

Unfortunately my feelings are crystal clear,its setting down what i do about them that i struggle with,Im a mess at the moment.Angry

tyedye · 26/04/2006 10:16

Bump

butty · 26/04/2006 10:40

Hi Tyedye,

There is no where else for me to sing other than the pub.

Before i had kids i used to be paid for singing, but dont have the time nor the commitment anymore to do it.

I also enter a lot of singing ( karaoke!!!) competitions, one of which i recently came second and won a nice bit of money.

I suppose i could go out and not drink like i did when i was preggers with both kids, but there wouldn't really be any fun in that.

If i aim to go out one night a week, and maybe twice a week once a month, it would be a serious turnaround from now!!

I have had nothing but sh** all day, since the minute i woke up, i've had 2 world wars in my living room, both of which i broke down and cried, dd thought it was funny to run away from me again this morning whilst trying to get ds in the car, and then work has been crap!!!

I really do feel like going out tonight, but i don't know????

It depends how much worse the day gets, i suppose i could go out and take the car to see if i can manage a drink free night down the local, but then again, i could go, have a few drinks and come home early!!!

the best solution would not be to go at all, i've been trying to talk myself out of it all morning, and its only 10.40amBlush

Butty.xxx

kokeshi · 26/04/2006 11:52

Tyedye and Butty, I'm sorry both of you sound like you're going through shitty times at the moment. As has been mentioned, just being aware and opening up about how you feel is a huge step forward.

Tyedye, you seem to be acutely aware of everything to do with your drinking, is there anything that you think would help you at the moment?

Hugs to you both xxx

tyedye · 26/04/2006 11:58

Nothing legalGrinThank you!Im being flippant i know,im in a dark place right now.I am seeing my gp soon,although i already know what he will say.xx

tyedye · 26/04/2006 12:00

Butty,you are obviously a talented singer,you lucky girl!there will be more scope for you somewhere!The next X-Factor?!Wink

butty · 26/04/2006 12:06

Chance would be a fine thing, but wouldn't put myself through the pain and torture, and also wouldn't leave my kids as they both depend on me.

However, the money would be goodGrin

I shall stick to competitions round here, already a local celebrity LOL!!!!!!! Grin

Anyway, really need to make my mind up about tonight, will ponder through the afternoon and see how i feel later on. I need positive vibes, but their maybe an alternative to drinking????

I'll go and get hyped up on redbull, see if my friends like me then................. I'll be on the news, lunatic running round morecambe, tested negative for drugs and alcohol LOLGrin

Butty.xxx

7up · 26/04/2006 12:31

hiya butty, the only thing that stopped me going out over the last few years and boozing it up was the fact that i havent got anyone to look after the kids in the evening. is it your partner looks after them while you go out?if it is, praps tell him to put his foot down and refuse to sit with them then you cant go out.

if you only go out a couple of times a month it would be such an achievement and you'd be so proud of yourself. i know its hard to get away from the party girl image. im an old bore nowGrin. good luck with your willpower for later

butty · 26/04/2006 12:43

Thanks 7up,

Part of the reason i go out is to get away from DP!!!!!

i wouldn't let him put his foot down as he gets his time on his crappy xbox, and the kids are always in bed when i go out.

Chloe wakes a lot in the night, but DP deals with her as i deal with all the crap from the minute i get up in the morning, and he does jack zip until bedtime!!!!!!!

Butty.xxx

sandyballs · 26/04/2006 13:02

hmc - interesting what you say about booze making you unproductive. I feel exactly the same. Once that bottle of wine is open I'm in chilled mode and nothing gets done. A night without the booze, like last night, and things are totally different. Ironing done, paperwork done, house reasonable. It has really given me an incentive to cut it out completely during the week.

sandyballs · 26/04/2006 13:05

I realised that I might have a slight drink problem when DH was out one night and the kids were in bed and I fancied a drink. There was no wine and no mixers, so I considered having a vodka and capri-sun Blush. How sad is that!

themoon66 · 26/04/2006 13:07

Vodka and capri-sun MMmmmmm. I did vodka and diet ginger beer once. Worse bit was I lied about it and said i was only having gingerbeer.

tyedye · 26/04/2006 14:32

At least noone sees to have tried benylin and vodka yet,including me i add hastily!!!Grin

7up · 26/04/2006 15:12

ah i see what you mean then butty, you do need a break then. its great that you like singing but it does with the territory of the pub doesnt it.

dont think my brandy would go very well with capri sunGrini did try it with diet lemonade one night when the coke had gone, it was gross, i drank it tho, sadly.

forget to mention earlier that i had 3 large brandy/cokes last night and felt rough this morning (Note to batty: once you cut down the affects kick in a lot lot lot earlier). so with my mini hangover i scrubbed the house from 7-12am with the help of toddler, had a doze when he slept now feel heaps better for ............when they go to bed tonight and i can have a brandy. sad, boring life

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Rhubarb · 26/04/2006 21:39

Those who have failed and have drunk - don't be so hard on yourselves! One day at a time, remember? So you gave in to temptation, there is always tomorrow and hopefully the disappointment you feel about having a drink will the the inspiration you need not to have one the next day.

Tyedye- you're going through a lot atm aren't you? But staying sober will help you to handle things a lot better. Drink will only get you down and no doubt your kids will need your emotional support at a time like this too, so try to give up for them and promise yourself a celebratory night off when it's all over.

I've had a shit day, which in a way is good because I'm too knackered to have a beer, I won't enjoy it and it'll only keep me awake, plus my guts are not very good. Dh has drunk 3 little bottles of beer. Don't we have supportive husbands! Smile

The weekend is just around the corner....

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Saggarmakersbottomknocker · 26/04/2006 22:14

None for me tonight Smile - the fridge is bare.

brimfull · 26/04/2006 22:53

Well I haven't touched a drop of alcohol since saturday...4daysShock

DS said tonight he doesn't want me to stop altogether because it would be no fun for him.

Bank holiday weekend coming up so that'll be difficult.

blueteddy · 26/04/2006 23:09

I have also now managed a whole 4 nights without alcohol!Shock

kokeshi · 26/04/2006 23:20

Well done all of you who've managed another day...fantastic achievement! xxx