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Yay for you Pen! Clear margins v good. How are you feeling? Am guessing wiped out. Rest up and allow yourself to feel you're on the homeward straight, as you most definitely are.

Ashokan, sorry about your boyfriend. Does sound like he can't cope but still not an excuse. I lost a couple of v good friends. Still find it weird, but have stopped minding now. Grey's Anatomy's v good idea - I did back to back West Wing. You'll have more energy for other things down the line. As we're updating I was diagnosed nearly 3 years ago now, had mastectomy, chemo, rads and am on Tamoxifen. Have had preventative mastectomy too.

Good to hear fine boy's okay Amber. Hope you're not too wiped out by it all.

Sounds like young thing Topsy's wiped HND out. Am thinking TKMax a step too far for a woman not too long out of surgery

Gig that woman sounds useless. Just ignore her when she finally calls you and see how she likes it.

Cherries were proper fruit ones. £1 for a pound and we got 4 punnets of raspberries for £1 too. Amazingly they're delicious.

Ashokan I can't believe boyf would be such an Atrocious Cunt (to coin one of my fave mn phrases) as to break up with you whilst you have cancer !!!

have fainted clean away at the thought of no wine for a year though

x-posted Lone. Oouch - sod and a half to have that all hanging over you, but let us distract you

Lone that is just awful!! Hang around here if you need and hope bruising is bearable.

Thank you KurriKurri

Oh Gigondas how awful to have been diagnosed when your daughter was such a tiny baby! It must have been so hard to go through all the treatment with two little ones.

I often find the people who make the most fuss about being nice or good or whatever are actually the ones who are least nice! It is such a shame that so many people let their friends down so badly though. I have to say I don't think I'd know what to say really if someone else was diagnosed with cancer but surely anything is better than ignoring them amused by the photos of the homework, is that to show off?!

Lonecatwithkitten that sounds painful, I hope it heals up quickly and that you have some good painkillers! Hopefully you'll get a phonecall but totally get what you mean. It would be so much better to have the same plan either way, I think sometimes the doctors forget how scary all of this is because they deal with it every day.

Don't think there is ever a good time to be dx . Also I think any age with kids can be tricky. Not much can do about it as I am sure we would all rather not be in this club.

Whilst I am thinking about chemo obsession, I got into Howard's way (maybe before your time)- kurri I have some more DVDs .

I'm such a slow typer, cross-posted with lots of people! :) he isn't usually an atrocious cunt, it is completely out of character. Who knows, maybe he will sort it out.

I'm not a fan of wine but I will miss my gin and lemonade!

Thank you all for the catch up posts.

I am quite new here and was dx with papillary thyroid cancer just before Christmas. Surgery 2 weeks ago. Radioactive iodine treatment in a few weeks then a lifetime of scans to check for any return.

I have not had a drink since I got 'the call' from the hospital as I have just not felt like it. I did feel a pang when I drove past our local pub earlier though.

I think all the menfolk go through an Atrocious Cunt stage !
It's all part of the dealing with this lovely disease
My local Macmillan centre offers counselling for partners of people with cancer , so it can't just be our menfolk !

Gracie
Are you out there ?
It's been a while petal , did you not get your tinternet sorted ?

Ooh more Howard's way Gig - lovely - I was getting withdrawal symptoms from lack of Ken

Catch up info from me - I am 53 (but about 3o in my head ), I was dx in 20O8 with breast cancer, - had a mastectomy, followed by node removal op, six months of chemo, radiotherapy, herceptin for a year and am now on tamoxifen. I'm hoping for a breast reconstruction in the near future - apparently they can cut off my massive belly and fashion it into a new booby - who knew?

LoneCat - that sounds very painful - and the means of getting you your results seems a bit of a shambles - they don't make life easy do they?

Anyone else watching Silent Witness? - I can't get into this series - it's not the same without Harry.

I miss Harry kk
I do like a Young Man to perv over ..
hence my current obsession with Lewis and the Lucious Laurence Fox

Can't quite come to terms with Leo having a love life

Pen Brilliant news!- I am so glad. I had clear margins too.

Hi Ash - pleased to meet you.

Thank you everyone for your advice and concern - finally starting to feel a bit better this evening.

argh- can't keep up ! am very cold ridden so not up to much typing..
hooray for pen though -clear margins is great and let's hope for clear nodes too.
Ashokan rotten about boyfriend - am sorry you have so much to deal with.
Lone hope biopsy wound not too ouchy tomorrow- quite understand how you feel about how you'll get the results
To catch up - I'm horribly old and was diagnosed in 2009 with invasive bc,lumpectomy and radiotherapy. Was diagnosed with lung mets in September last year and am on continuous chemotherapy - first scan since diagnosis on Saturday. Righto,bed time...xxx

Am watching a program on E4
I tuned in as it was named for our catch phrase - The New Normal

It's not about cancer , it's about a gay couple having a baby with a surrogate .
Was funny ...

Mas
Think you may need a hot toddy .
Rum , honey , lemon , sugar , splash of hot water !

MAS - keep an eye on your temp. just in case - hope you feel better tomorrow.

topsy - I don't know how I will manage in a couple of weeks when Lewis , and Silent Witness, and Death in Paradise all finish - DD said to me 'You'll never be able to cope without your daily fix of people being murdered'

They are finishing ?
All at the same time ???
Whhhhhhhyyyyyyyy ?????????

More or less topsy, maybe a few more Death in Paradise's to go. Did you know they aren't making any more Lewis (Laurence Fox and kevin Whately want to go off and do other things apparently - selfish gits).

I think there are going to be some more of Endeavour (the one about young Morse that they did a pilot of last year). Laurence Fox had better be in something else soon preferably without his clothes on

Ashokan Most men are cunts obviously especially for those of us who have been around / are mutton dressed as lamb, in cosy woolly crocheted cardigans, naming no names ,

However Cancer is hard to deal with for those who love and care for us. It is really difficult to watch someone you know go through these treatments. It would be silly to say it is worse, but at least we can focus on what we have to do and get on with it whereas when it is someone you love you have to look on helpless, and desperate to make it better / go away. Maybe your boyfriend is struggling a bit with that. I had a support group of similar women in our late thirties / early forties with young children who had Breast Cancer and our husbands were mostly basket cases. It was them on the anti depressants. It must be so much harder when you are younger.

On the other hand 20/21 is always a crucial time for long term relationships, I broke up with my long term boyfriend (who stubbornly refuses to appear on Facebook or Friends Reunited and admit he loved me all along ), and lovely son I never had who had been going out with DD, and eating my dinners, for 5 years broke up with DD the day before her first year exams started, completely breaking her and my heart (I mean I had been feeding him for five years, no one thinks about the mother's feelings ). He really was nice until then but I could happily throttle him for that, since he has turned into a player who apparently thinks he is like the one in "One Day" A great disappointment to me, if you are reading this, son...............

I am really sorry you have all these friends who don't offer you support but I do remember that when my next boyfriend's father died (don't worry you are not going to hear about ALL of them) when we were in our early 20s no one knew how to respond, no Facebook/ email then but we actually saw people cross the road to avoid the moment they didn't know how to handle.

However the real friends don't let that stop them. I felt like a bull in a china shop when my friend was diagnosed, if only I had known then what I know now, but I think between all my "you are so strong" I know OK and pea and lettuce soup we did laugh a lot, but I know that there is no substitute for speaking to people who are there / have been there . So feel free to share all.

Warning: Some may have been involved in this post..................

Yes kk seen the ad for Endeavour , looking forward to that .
If you google image Laurence Fox , the sexiest images are of him smoking !
Shocking but he looks hot

Not that I spend all evening googling images of Laurence Fox .
yes I do

Copthall my sister called me the other day to inform me that her son / my nephew , had just got "married" in a school RE lesson (Ealing CofE school)
It was a full on ceremony (as part of curriculum) with vows and bridesmaids etc .
He's 13 !
First thing I said was "is she good enough ?" ...

So I feel your hatred for exes !

And wine may have been involved in all this evenings posts ...

Not missing Harry too much because I want to be Emila Fox, and solve crimes and bring Taliban and evil mercenaries to knees in Afghanistan, though still sad cannot be Eve in Waking the Dead with whole virtual room in which to solve crimes. Really looking forward to Endeavour coming back, we could have saved Morse eh?

I too would love to be Emilia
She has a great wardrobe dept too !