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Another PND thread - anyone with a new baby and suffering?

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susanmt · 12/01/2004 16:22

I am. Just wondered if there was anyone else out there. Have gorgeous 6 week old dd and feel crap and like I cant cope. Have been here twice before, but would like to know who else out there is in the same situation?

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pie · 12/01/2004 16:27

Oh susan, I was hoping you would be ok this time round, I'm sorry to hear that things could be better. DD2 is 14 weeks, but I've been on the Lustral since she was 3/4 weeks. I do know how you feel. Sorry I can't offer any sage advice, but my thoughts are with you.

pie · 12/01/2004 16:29

And if you ever need a general shoulder to cry on let me know.

suedonim · 12/01/2004 19:03

Susanmt (and Pie), I've been there in the past and it's not a nice place. But you will emerge at the other end, eventually, and be a stronger person for it. Hugs to you both.

Demented · 12/01/2004 19:51

Susanmt, sorry to hear you are going through this. Hugs {{{{}}}}.

pie · 18/01/2004 17:10

How are you doing Susan?

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susanmt · 19/01/2004 01:23

I had my kidney stent out on Thursday which has reduced the pain, which has made me feel a bit better, but I think I am on a high from that. I'm afraid I'm going to crash again, I hate the feeling that I cant look after my own kids, which is how it is right now.
I know it will go away, I just wish it would happen sooner!

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motherinferior · 19/01/2004 09:05

Oh honey, lots of love. I wish there was something more I could do.

M2T · 19/01/2004 09:08

Susanmt - I remember all too well that feeling of crashing to the ground in a slump. Have you spoken to anyone about it?

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susanmt · 21/01/2004 20:17

Ah well, I've finally hit rock bottom, but its probably for the best in the end I think, as everyone who was fobbing me off is now taking me seriously.
I took a big overdose on Monday and ended up in casualty. I just thought, and couldn't get out of my head, that everyone would be better off without me. Luckily some of the stuff I took made me vomit before the rest got absorbed and I've not done myself any damage cos now I feel really silly. They let me come home cos I promised I'd go back tomorrow and see the shrink, which I think is a really good idea, and we'll see what they come up with as far as treatment goes. I don't think I'm bad enough to end up in the mother & baby unit again, but I really need help, and hope fully I'm going to get it. I'll keep you updated, but I might not be around much, I'm not really feeling very communicative at the moment, but somehow posting this has helped, I feel like I'm accountable to mumsnetters for some reson and I know I'll get support here.

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Chinchilla · 21/01/2004 20:29

Susan - Hope you are OK. Feel free to contact me direct if you want to chat. I have been on your wavelength, so know how you are feeling. Thinking of you. xxx

suedonim · 21/01/2004 20:29

Oh, Susan, sweetheart..... I'm really sorry you've been brought down so low. I hope you get the treatment you need and some R&R time. Best wishes, Sue.

aloha · 21/01/2004 22:00

Susan, oh, I'm so sorry you feel so bad. Please don't do this again. The world would be a much poorer, sadder place without you. My heart goes out to you. Please, please take care of yourself you are more important and valuable than you will ever know.

kizzie · 21/01/2004 22:12

Susan - Im so sorry youre having to go through this again. PND is just so so horrible-its impossible to imagine how awful it is unless youve been there.
But you will get better - youve done it before and you will again.
I hope things go well with the psych and you get the help and advice you need.
Thinking of you
Kizziex

hoxtonchick · 21/01/2004 22:26

I do hope that you are being taken seriously now, susan, & you start to get the treatment you need. Lots of hugs (()).

WideWebWitch · 21/01/2004 22:26

Oh susanmt, I'm so sorry it got this bad. I remember your description of the light where you live and your children loving the water (was it a lake? loch?) and I just want to say that they most certainly won't be better off without you. I'm sorry you are this low. It's so hard to know what to say without sounding platitudinous but I'm glad you're getting some help. You're right, you most certainly will get support here, please do feel accountable to us if it helps. Thinking of you.

elena2 · 21/01/2004 22:27

Susan, I'm so sorry it had to get this bad before people took you seriously. I been there , fortunately I got help from my dh, sister and friend in time, and I feel a lot better most days. Counselling is helping a lot too.

Please, for your children's sake, do everything you can, and accept all the help you can, to help you feel better.

Thinking of you and sending hugs ((())), please e-mail me if you ever need to talk.

Elena xxx

mears · 22/01/2004 00:22

I am so sorry and shocked to read your post susanmt. I hope you get the help you need very soon. Would you like to go to the mother and baby unit? How bad do you need to be? Sounds pretty bad for you at the moment. Please take care, mears
xx

bossykate · 22/01/2004 06:47

so sorry to hear this, susan. i really hope you get the help you need now. your family would not be better off without you. hang in there. hope you feel much better soon.

madgirl · 22/01/2004 08:23

oh poor poor you. your post has brought tears to my eyes this morning. we don't know each other but my heart goes out to you. YOU WILL FEEL BETTER. I felt bad for 8 months (really bad i mean) with ds and it now seems like a bad dream. now pregnant with second child, and i fear it happening again, but cling to the knowledge that the minute i feel bad i'll be back to the doctors like a shot, sorting it out, helping myself to feel better. YOU DESERVE TO. you're a fantastic mum, with a poorly head. heaps of love.

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Marina · 22/01/2004 09:48

Oh Susan. You are right to say you are "accountable" to us because you have so many friends on here wishing you well and feeling so concerned about you. I hope the support on Mumsnet will help you and your family just a little through the hard times at present.

Bozza · 22/01/2004 10:30

Susan just wanted to add my sympathy too. I hope you get the help you need now. Thinking of you.

motherinferior · 22/01/2004 10:36

Love from me too. I've had depression but not PND...god, I'm so sorry.

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prufrock · 22/01/2004 13:49

susanamt I am so sorry to hear you are having to go through all this again. You will come out the other side - you've done it before and can do it again.