Hello ladies. I have never posted on here but have lurked on all your threads...
I wondered if based on your experiences anyone could give me some advice. Sorry for all the details! After the birth of my first child with forceps 5 years ago I ended up with a bladder and bowel prolapse. I also have a rectal prolapse. After the birth I had no sensation at all in my pelvic floor for about 8 months and then started physio which did help a bit, the prolapse only appeared around then or maybe that's only when I could feel them as I had nerve damage apparently from the forceps. I also had a huge episiotomy and 2nd degree tear that would not heal and became infected. I was really upset by all this and couldnt have exams or any sort of contact until the physio began as the pain had eased off a bit. Strangely this scar aspect was much improved by my second birth.
As a result of all this I had a pessary in throughout my second pregnancy to hold things up (and to prevent splinting) and I have another in now as I am pregnant again with what will be our last child. I have seen one consultant at 10 months after DC1 and she said to have a CS. My consultant at UCH afterwards said no - natural birth is better as I'll need to have surgery to fix all this in the end and the damage is already done so there is nothing to preserve. I have only had mild continence issues, although I do have bowel problems, but this does does seem to drive their thinking. On paper they consider my first birth a success - it was Cardamom's recent thoughts that made me finally post.
My actual question is has anyone seen a good surgeon who would talk to me in pregnancy just so I know how many surgeries I am looking at and when is the best time to have them. Until now, as I wouldn't commit to completing my family, I have not seen anyone specific. I am happy to go private to get an answer. I am in London.