Dh having numerous falls

[kitsonkittykat]

Dh wont go to the doctors. He has had numerous falls over the last 4 months, both off his bikes and also just walking on the flat and down stairs. In the last month he has come off his bike twice, and fallen down stairs once, and on the flat 3 times that I know of. He is in his mid 30s.

Right now he has horrible bruising on his ribs and his hand/wrist. Im really worried about him, and he won't go to the doctors. He said he is just tired from working (long hours but not physical work).

What could be causing all these falls and should I be pushing him to go to the GP?

Oh no, I can't believe he never told them.
I'm afraid I'd be having very serious words with him.

Good luck on monday.

personally I'd have gone into a&e with him. I would also be saying if he didn't go and see the gp and let me come with him so I could describe the falls I would phone up the vehicle licensing people, report him as a danger to other road users and have his license removed until he sees the doctor. And I'd padlock the bike, if it's a bicycle not a motorbike, so he wouldn't use that either. Or tell him you'll leave him.

Does he snore? He could have sleep apnoea if he says he is tired although some form of inner ear problem or one of the other suggestions you have been given sounds more likely.

If he didn't admit to the pain of a broken wrist he's unlikely to admit to pain elsewhere.

He doesn't drive - we dont have a car at the moment. He is taking the bus/train to work because of his wrist and ribs, and hasn't ridden his pedal bike since the last fall.

Im not going to leave him or threaten to do so because he is finding it hard to admit he is unwell ! I am, however planning on getting time alone with him for some serious words and going to make sure I am very serious when I speak to the doctor.

Many thanks again

Poor chap, of course he's scared and, understandably, minimising things. Full disclosure to GP on Monday is a good plan but if it happens again over the weekend then I'd advise A&E.

Good luck on Monday, kitson.

Thanks for the sympathy, Bore.

Poor you and him. I hope the GP can help?

if you really care about him you need to get him to the gp one way or another. He's scared, give him something that scares him more. Tell him if he isn't going to look after his health he clearly doesn't care about his family being without him.

I hope the GP visit goes ok and that your able to get the GP to see the whole picture, and that any referals made are sorted soon.
It sounds like he is scared and burying his head about it all.
I hope it's something easily sorted and that puts both of your minds at ease.

It sounds scary for sure but in the hopes that it is easily treatable, best to get to the gp for him (the idiot).

I've been thinking about your situation OP and hoping that your DH went to the doctor and that you went with him. It seemed to me that there was such a range of things that could be causing his falls - some serious and some less so - that it was vital to get medical attention. All the best to you and I hope that your DH is getting treatment if necessary.

Delurking here to say I've been thinking about you and your DH all week, I really hope you have persuaded him to see someone, it could be something easily treatable, but it does sound like it's something rather than nothing so he must get checked out. All the best, have everything crossed for you.

How are things, OP?

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I've been thinking about you too. Hope everything is ok.

Another lurker, I hope you have had some answers.

Have been reading and watching...any news OP?

yes, still wondering if you have any answers OP?

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Poor bloke. He must be really scared.

Kitson, did you get him to hospital/GP ?
I hope you have some answers that aren't too scary.

Hi, its the OP. He refused to go to see the doctor, and all I got was a lecture on patient confidentiality.

He is still having falls and with one broken wrist and another now in a support, and cracked ribs he is pretty miserable. He knows exactly what I think about the situation, is pretty miserable with no bike, and Im hoping he will crack at some point soon and do something.

Sorry to hear that he's not having it looked into.
If he won't listen to you is there someone else he would listen to?
He really does need checking over and a reason identified for his falls, the stress of not knowing may well be harder than the reality.

OP has he always been like this re illness and refusing to see the dr? It seems pretty extreme that he is refusing to seek help as this clearly isn't normal. Being a bit tired doesn't cause you to fall in this way and bruise so badly. Just wondering if the stubbornness is new too? Was the lecture on patient confidentiality from him or the GP? Hoping not the GP - could you get the dr out for a home visit do you think, so DH has no option but to see someone - you could sit with him to explain what's going on then leave the doc and DH to a private chat.

Clearly something is not right and it could be anything on a spectrum ranging from virus to brain tumour (please nothing serious) and DH needs to recognise this and seek help.

Is it possible to get a home visit from a doctor?

Oooh, this is a very extreme reaction from your DH, OP I can understand him being scared, but it'd be better to know what was causing the falls. People don't fall regularly from being tired, do they, which he knows. I fell for no reason a while back and my GP sent me for a scan, which came back all clear, but he really needs to have it investigated.