how the heck do I support DH tomorrow if the consultant tells him he has cancer?

[MrsShrek3]

sigh. just that. DH has Big lump in neck. Various doctors, registrars and pathologists looking very worried and saying he "should have been told more". Appointment with his own consultant tomorrow afternoon. Worried sick, but wtf do I do to help him? He doesn't want me to go with him, he;d rather I keep the children with me.

[McKayz]

Thinking of you both. Hope it's nothing to worry about x

[LadySybildeChocolate]

I hope all is well x

[whattodoo]

Thinking if toying both today.

I hope you both have the chance to 'vent' your emotions later - whether it be relief or anxiety. Just because your DH prefers to keep his emotions in check, don't forget that you are 'allowed' to express yours in whatever way works for you (in private, with a friend if need be).

[whattodoo]

toying you

[Charleymouse]

Good luck MrShrek3
Hope all is well.

[bumpybecky]

thinking of you, fingers crossed xx

[Portofino]

Thinking of you too xx

[CareerChangeMum]

I hope you are OK OP. I guess you will be hearing as I type this. Hoping for good news for you.

[RillaBlythe]

Just read this & thinking about you both.

[MaryAnnSingleton]

hope it is good news for you and dh... if it isn't then you'd be miore than welcome to pop over to the tamoxifen thread for some hand holding from people who have all had a cancer diagnosis (hope I'm not being too out of order in saying that- just offering some support) x

[mayaswell]

Fingers well and truly crossed.

[swooosh]

thinking of you and your DH op, hope it is good news.

[Jenny70]

THinking of you OP, my DH had a cancer scare last year and I didn't go to the appointments I probably should have, but he was convinced it was OK and the struggle to get the kids all looked after etc would have meant telling people that we didn't want to tell.

He was fine, but it does give you the absolute fear of god that something is going to pull apart your life forever.

Fingers crossed, especially if he comes home with more uncertainties, needing more tests, decisions on treatments etc. The diagnosis is such a shock, and then to have to make sensible decisions on top of all that - terrible thing.

But hoping he gets the all clear,

[perplexedpirate]

Just seen this have everything crossed for you and your DH.
When my DNan was diagnosed at 74 we thought it was the end for her. Far from it! They had treatments we didn't even know existed and she had ten more years with us before she passed (of an unrelated illness).
What I'm trying, albeit clumsily to say is, even if it is cancer, the treatments are amazing, so don't panic unduly (easier said than done, I know!).
((((unMN hug))))

[CockyPants]

Just found this thread, mrsshrek. Wishing you and yours all the best today, thinking of you and your DH.x

[Thumbwitch]

Any news yet, lovely? I know it's a bit soon, given that the appt could be running late, could be a long one, he might not be out yet, you might not be home yet etc. but just wondering...

Everything crossed for you that it's something simple and easy to fix. xx

[Fillybuster]

My thoughts are with you today. I really hope things turn out to be ok. If they don't, please remember that we are all here to support you, and you can vent, or cry, or just look for hugs on here later. Good luck xx

[Ormiriathomimus]

Oh lord mrss Fingers crossed for you both x

[Doyouthinktheysaurus]

I hope everything goes ok op.

Fwiw I was told I had cancer on my own, dh was with the dses. I didn't know that was what they were goig to tell me and really didn't seem a npbig deal going alone. Childcare is scarce for us and dh's mum had just died so he was at home anyway

I came home and we just hugged and cried together. It's a long fight battle with cancer, dh has supported me totally very step of the way. I'm sure you will do the same for your dh and really, I think you are right to respect his wishes.

The other thing to say is apart from those fateful words 'you have cancer', I want given much information. I was told I would get an appointment for scans and then with a surgeon and sent on my way

Thinking of you and your dh op.

[GetDressed]

I have been thinking of you and DH all day. I hope the appointment went okay.

[MrsShrek3]

News as expected really, it's a lymphoma. They won't be any more specific than that he has to be at another hospital at 7am tomorrow for a tissue biopsy under GA. I'm going with him, he gets no choice over this one CT scan in a few days. He's googling again

[CharlotteBronteSaurus]

oh fuck. I'm really sorry to hear that it's bad news. How are you both tonight?

[gregssausageroll]

Sending you positive vibes. Stay strong.

[MrsShrek3]

Just read how many messages you lot have put on here. Blimey. Huge thank you's. Certainly don't feel alone now