Stars, poor you. I hope they sort whatever's confusing them soon. Drift's idea about PALS is a good one. Be good for you to have someone to talk it all through with. I think ward staff are a lottery. I've been in a few times, and have been very lucky as staff have all been lovely so far. Just the odd grumpy one, but nothing too dire.
dee, I was pre-menopausal (dx when 44) and they do give Tamoxifen. Chemo knocked my periods for six, so I think I'm menopausal now . My Onc said they might shift me from Tamoxifen to something else in a couple of years if I'm through it. If it is in nodes, I'd imagine they will recommend chemo. What I was told is that they tend to throw everything at younger women, as the cancer tends to be more aggressive pre-menopause.
l4k, hope you're okay. Waiting's really the hardest part. I was like Topsy, so had my FNB results same day which confirmed the cancer, but core biopsy took a week. My DH tends towards stoicism too. He finds knowledge helpful, so I tend to print things off from the internet to explain the science behind it all. He seems to gain most by me using him as a sounding board for me to talk it all through - helps me massively too to have someone who is as aware of my treatment as I am. We also have a bit of a tradition of drinking a nice bottle of wine or champagne after every big appointment. Was very, very helpful as it gave us time just to sit and talk.
Topsy, fab, fab shoe choice. 
Kurri, am 
of Holkham. I adore that beach.
Post is already a bit epic, so am waving to all others, and especially to SR. Nice to see you here. 
I had my first post op shower this morning. Was lovely.