something doesnt look right (sorry if tmi)

[starandsnowshaker]

down there. i thought id have a check as havent bothered since dd was born. i looked and i cant see where my baby bit (sorry) should be theres just a bit of skin or something solid. im scared that something is wron know i should see the doc but what if its normal and it just cos ive forgoton what it should look like. dont want to make a fool of myself. also havent had sex since dd was born as it was too painfull this might be why.

any1 had the same sort of thing

have you tried putting your finger in?
or, get your dp to have a look and see what he thinks?

Did you have stitches? Is it possible you were stitched too tight and have healed not quite right? This is pretty common, and relatively easy to fixc. If it feels wrong, and sex is painful, I think you should see your GP.

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tried to put finger in and couldnt it just really hurt

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they said they gave me 1 very long running stitch whatever that is also had to be stiched inside

ooh you should go and see the doctor

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i know i need to but what do i say oh by the way mr doctor man i have no hole. i really amn't good at going to the docs at the best of time i always think im wasting their time

Sounds like the stitch was pulled too tight. I know three people who've had a small operation (day surgery) to fix this - it's pretty common. After you've had a baby, it's swollen, so it can be hard to work out what to stitch where, iyswim.

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Just say that you don't think you've healed right after having your baby and could he refer you please?

Or see the practice nurse.

You need to get it sorted though, for your sex life and your health - no way you can have a smear like that.

i have to see the nurse on monday anyway will try and mention it at the same time

Do you have a family planning/well woman clinic that you could go to?

we tried and i stopped it cos it hurt

Be brave - you won't regret saying something, but you will regret not saying something.

oh and he wouldnt have a clue lol

the reason i looked was i thought we could give it a try again cos dd will be at next door neighbours tomorrow night as we are going out

ok have an appointment today to see the docs hope im just being paranoid

After dd1 I had 3rd degree tearing which meant 6 stitches inside and 6 outside but things never really seemed right down there. then I had dd2 and had a 2nd degree tear and when I asked how many stitches I had the mw said 1 long one like yourself (very confusing) now I have flappy bits of tissue not painful but god help I ever have sex with someone other than dh they will think I'm really weird

just been to the docs and they said that im a bit swollen and tender where i was stiched and she could refer me to gyne to be restiched but other than that everything is fine. feel a bit stupid now lol

That doesn't really help you now though does it?
Couldn't she give you something to help with the pain. Sit in front of the tv tonight with a bag of frozen peas on you're bits.

that's crazy! swollen and tender this long after???/

How old is your baby?