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Please help Embarrassing problem

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TearfulAndAshamed · 27/03/2011 18:47

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TearfulAndAshamed · 27/03/2011 18:54

Hello

I have an embarrassing fanjo problem.I had the start of thrush a week ago i get it very regulary.However,it seemed to clear and then i got my period.When my period started i had a painful,swollen,itchy fanjo.Period was also extremly heavy very unusual for me.I have had 3 different pills in last five months due to loads of problems.I went to gp to check out period as i flooded my bed and i also got the oral capsule for thrush.

A few days later after some severe scratching i developed what look like ulcers on fanjo inside the lips with what looks like a white head.They are spread out and have about six.It absolutely kills to pee i cry.

I also had a bad cough/cold start two weeks ago.Still have the cough and have had bad headaches and a fever yesterday.

Do you think its herpes im so embarrassed i dont know how i will tell dp.Im going to the gum clinic tomorrow.In the mean time does anyone have any hints or tips for the pain.Im taking pain killers and using sudocrem.

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TearfulAndAshamed · 27/03/2011 19:10

Bump
Can anyone help please.

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slartybartfast · 27/03/2011 19:11

plain yoghurt, around fanjo helpful.

suzikettles · 27/03/2011 19:14

Oh you poor thing Sad.

A flatmate at uni had similar symptoms when she had her first attack of herpes. Her bf gave it to her by going down on her when he had a cold sore.

Don't know about pain relief - bicarb in the bath? That can be soothing.

TearfulAndAshamed · 27/03/2011 19:25

My dp and i had sex on the tuesday and i got my first symptom on the wednesday so highly likely he has it too now.Although i could have got it from him in the first place.I havent had many sexual partners and all that i have i have always started using condoms then after an std check have just used the pill.But according to the internet it can lie dormant for years so could have got it from anyone.I had a std check two months ago and all was clear Sad

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slartybartfast · 27/03/2011 19:26

are you sure it isnt a side effecxt of thrush?

TearfulAndAshamed · 27/03/2011 19:28

Im so scared he will dump me.I will wait to see what they say at the gum clinic first.I have been googling like mad trying to convince myself it could be something else.I have never had so much as a cold sore in my life typical that i get an outbreak on my fanjo instead Angry

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TearfulAndAshamed · 27/03/2011 19:30

Slartybartfast I have used the capsule and pessary and it isnt going if it is thrush it itches like mad.I dont have the discharge like i usually get with thrush but i did get the painful,swollen bits which i often get.Has never hurt to wee with thrush either.I have had thrush and BV at least once a month for the past 7 months though not at same time.

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whatshouldicallmyself · 27/03/2011 19:35

I had this, and it turned out to be an infection...get thee to the docs!

TearfulAndAshamed · 27/03/2011 19:56

What just an infection not an sti.Im going to the Gum clinic do you think thats best?

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whatshouldicallmyself · 27/03/2011 20:21

no, just an infection from shaving - it was on the pad where the hair is but my god I was convinced it was herpes, as I'd read it can lie dormant for years. TMI but it had all crusted over and was weeping, and my pants would stick to it and then it would break open again. You have probably scratched and the broken skin has been infected. When you go to the docs, he will swab it and send off for testing. I too was out of my mind as I knew I hadn't slept around in the last 20 years but feared that it was herpes, as I am a cold sore sufferer too. Don't be ashamed just get to the docs asap.

kangers · 27/03/2011 20:29

Herpes not always a STI anyway. Downplay this, get to docs or GU clinic, they will be great and see fanjos all day long. Get treatment and be matter of fact with bf/dp. When my then bf and me shagged all the time I got this type of thing- not saying its same for you, but saying these itchy things are normal. I also got a reaction to sperm that sounds a bit like this. Wash gently, yogurt, any medication offered- maybe vaseline for when peeing? (barrier cream) It will be fine.

TearfulAndAshamed · 27/03/2011 21:31

thank you to everyone for replies.I tried yoghurt but it stung really badly.Im in agony im petrified to go for a wee as it hurts so much.

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enidblyton2 · 28/03/2011 09:56

I have had something similar several times- the rash I get doesn't have white centres, but looks like tiny red goose pimples. I have had no sexual contact with anyone except DP for over 15 years and he has no symptoms. I have never had a cold sore or had anyone go down on me with a cold sore.

Have you tried washing with cool water after weeing? just take a cup or mug to the loo- or even wet loo paper- and get rid of the urine. Ifind it helps a lot.

Other tip is- if you can- go knickerless or avoid tight clothes when you can.

Let us know- I'd be keen to hear your diagnosis.

nenevomito · 28/03/2011 10:00

If you get thrush regularly then I would go back to the docs as it can be a sign of something else.

If you had some severe scratching, it may be just that you've given yourself a bit of an infection down there and may need antibiotics, rather than having herpes.

Can you get an emergency appt at your docs?

oldraver · 28/03/2011 10:52

I have had an itchy fanjo due to eczema and used to end up scratching like mad in the night and basically damaged the skin on my inner labia. Like you it hurt like hell to pee and I found the only way round it was to pee in the shower with the shower on cool.

The eczema is slowly going and I have been taking a anti-histime (Piriton copy) at night which helps with the itching. I also think I have a reaction to either santitary towels and/or the elastic in knickers and they leave me irritated

chimchar · 28/03/2011 10:57

no advice about the sore fanjo, but wanted to say drink loads of water/squash..it will dilute your wee and make it less sore hopefully.

it sounds really nasty what you have.... try not to worry about the sti thing. its more than likely to be a "normal" infection if youve never had it before and your sti checks are clear.

good luck x

TearfulAndAshamed · 28/03/2011 13:20

Hello everyone thanks for the support yesterday.

I went to the GUM clinic this morning and they are pretty sure its Herpes.I have been given the antivirals and some cream.I was in tears but the staff there were lovely and really helpful.

I have to call back in two weeks for results.I think i knew deep down it was herpes all along i just didnt want it to be.

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enidblyton2 · 28/03/2011 17:05

oh so sorry. any idea at all where it came from? Hope you feel okay soon. you must send DP for check s too.

TearfulAndAshamed · 28/03/2011 18:35

Absolutely no way of knowing.I have had a grand total of 7 sexual partners in my life.Can catch it even whilst using condoms it just needs skin to skin contact and it can lie dormant in the body for weeks, months or even years.
Im so scared of being dumped.I could have caught it from dp but not necessarily and unfortunately it is only diagnosable whilst active and before blisters have burst.

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WorzselMummage · 28/03/2011 18:42

Sweetheart if he dumps you for this he's not worth worrying about anyway!

You could have caught if from him ! ( and tbh probably did )

Lots of people have herpes. It's just a virus, like a cold or chicken pox. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

Hope you're feeling a bit better :)

comewhinewithme · 28/03/2011 18:45

I had this and convinced myself I had a STD. It happened just after my period too and the GP seemed to think I had an allergy to sanitary towels.
I almost always get a couple of these spots during or just after my period.

TearfulAndAshamed · 28/03/2011 18:49

Worzsel thanks you are right i know that.I said to the nurse today if he doesnt show symptoms anyway it would be a miracle as like i said we slept together tuesday night i got symptoms wednesday morning.Im going to tell him when next see him.

Im still in pain.Sorry for tmi but i had to wee in bath earlier as its like peeing razor blades.I hope the pain goes soon.

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TearfulAndAshamed · 28/03/2011 18:53

They were pretty sure at the clinic today that it is herpes.Ive always used the same brand of sanitary towel.The spots/ulcers arent the pain either as apparently once burst they are pretty much painless(so presume at some point they burst).Its the peeing as its the sting of the urine over a now open wound.

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Eurostar · 28/03/2011 18:55

Sounds like herpes. Go to the GUM clinic please, they can give you anti-virals that will speed the end of the outbreak if it is H, or tell you what it might be if it isn't. There is no need to be ashamed. There is also a blood test that is quite sophisticated and can tell you if the antibodies are new or not (i.e. help identify if it is a primary infection) although the NHS doesn't consider it a priority to pay for it so you may need it privately.

STD checks don't test for dormant herpes so you never really have the all clear from it.

If you had sex with DP the day before blisters came up and he isn't the carrier then very likely he might have got it if it is herpes as that is when it is at its most infectious - but likely this is a primary infection and you got it from him anyway.

Although it can lie dormant for years, or maybe you've had it for ages and it's been mistaken for thrush. The most common for primary outbreak is for it to happen in the first 10 days to a few weeks after infection so quite likely that you got it from current D.P.

It's incredibly common, not dangerous and on the rise so please don't be ashamed if it is it.

Here's an explanation about the antibodies that can be found in a blood test:

"The presence of HSV-1 or HSV-2 IgM antibodies indicates an active or recent infection. HSV-1 or HSV-2 IgG antibodies indicate a previous infection. A significant increase in HSV IgG antibodies, measured by comparing acute and convalescent samples, indicates an active or recent infection. Negative HSV antibody results mean that it is unlikely that the person has been exposed to HSV or that the body has not had time to begin producing HSV antibodies".

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