She ain't heavy, she's LIGHTER.

[BitterAndTwistedGoreDodger]

Hello, I'm Bitter and I'm a bit porky.

Feel free to join us for healthy eating and chat.

No rules, no clique, just a bunch of posters who are fabulous and talk too much.

Mouse/Miitz - I'll bail you out of prison if it goes wrong honest

Hilariously, dd1 asked him wed night and he said 'oh well I don't think I've got enough holiday but you can take lots of photos for me' I said to dp 'you talk to him and tell him I'll &&&$%$% him if he doesn't come'

So dp spoke to him and said could he check his holiday and make every effort to come please (as opposed to repeating my rip off his head and shit down his neck rant).

Said would come back to us yesterday but obviously didn't. DP texted him today 'not sure yet'. Thing is I don't want him there and it will ruin it him being there for me and my family but I want him to come for her. If he decides not to he can drop dead (preferably with miitz and mouses help)

Bitter - I can imagine it now on jk:

I'd walk 200 miles to see my kid!
I'd have both legs amputated!
I'd be torn apart by wild horses then sewn back together and then walk 200 miles etc etc

saf -you sound generally run down? And there are some nasty but not as bad as mine bugs going round too. I will pat you on the head gently.

I know re exh. Think I'm in the RAGE stage of my cycle as everything is pissing me off at moment. Gives me something better to rant about than dp or the dc

Saf, no problem at all it will save me cooking tomorrow. Will miss seeing you and DS, but don't feel you have let me down, you can't help it if you are ill.

I think I may get in my jammies too.

Nemo didn't have a nap at lunch time and has just crashed out on the lounge floor. He looks like he has been dropped from the ceiling!!

SAF - here, have some Mouse snuggles {[{[(())]}]} sorry you are feeling yuk.

fish and chips for tea - yay!

Lots of versions of the story SAF. I seem to remember one with a cast of thousands in it - queue my mother saying 'who's he?' when 'castov thousands' is mentioned - I have Sam Neill in my head and Liam Neison?

I love films that are not so popular versions but have great actors in.

Right, you lot have children, therefore you will have gone through the teething thing.

I'M teething! One wisdom tooth is partly through (bottom left) and now my right one is making noises that it might appear, same kind of pain as on the left side. I've had it for 2 days, it hurts, I'm grumpy.

What works?

Oh, went the gym, it hurt, but that just means it's working I guess.

Oooh, and I'm off for a weekend away in April, hopefully. Need cheap hotels in Coventry, 3 nights, 8th-11th April 2011. Woohoo, ice hockey playoffs! Assuming I find the right hotel... and trains... and save money for food...

Even if the team don't get there, I'm still gonna go because apparently it's an absolutely fun time!

a day of small frustrations. to which the biscuit barrel appears to be the answer , still it is fat free friday after all!

Lollipop - I have teething on and off too, my wisdom teeth still haven't come through in my 30s! what works - well for children calpol and for adults paracetamol or ibuprofen (but ibuprofen can upset your stomach). I am very sympathetic to teething babies

DD is in bed, DS is playing lego.

How am I supposed to respond when DS says 'I like laying down in the bath, DD plays with my willy' ?

Yep, definite sympathy for teething babies here too!

I'm about to book a hotel for a weekend away with my best mate next month :) We're going to see Faithless at the MEN on the 4th December, hit the clubs in Manchester, then possibly shop and see a hockey game on the Sunday :) Should be fun.

I'm also going to try and get to 1000 words of this 4000 word report I need to write...stupid thing.

Moooorning xx

good morning. yawn. think I am going to be braving the city centre hoards today on a family shopping trip, what fun

Whooooooo to Frocky double.... fancy ya already. I'll ditch Liv Tyler for you (my new Girlie crush , but not over Natalie Dorma )

Liv tyler is gorgeous.

Morning all. Drank waaaay too much lat night.

Morning all, have a loverly wedding double :)

Can I have a bit of sensible advice?

I know I'm a bit hormental at the moment and don't want to overreact.

Sooooo... You all know that things with h have been bumpy to say the least. I still feel like we have a lot of issues at need to be talked through, and a lot of hurts that need to be dealt with. So every few weeks I bring something up and it ends up in talking and comforting, sometimes shouting, but always helps me in some way. I always say at this point that it would mean a lot to me if h started some of these conversations and he always promises that next time he will. But never does.

At the moment it has been quite about three weeks since I finally broached something that was really bothering me. That time, rather than conforting or discussing, he got quite defensive. But finally ended with him saying he would work more on recognising how I was feeling and doing something about it. But he hasn't done anything.

Throw into the mix that when he finally realised how "ill" I was he was brilliant. But I did have to argue to get him to realise just how bad I was in the first place.

So today I am a moody cow. He made a comment about how my illness is still causing me mood swings, and I snapped that maybe the feeling actually came from somewhere real. I asked him when exactly he was going to start bringing up issues like he promised. And he just sighed deeply and said, "Jesus! When are we going to stop having 'issues' and start having a relationship?!"

He's gone for a walk.

Am I a horrible person :(

I just want to feel close to him, and I don't. I did for a while when he was looking after me.

:(

Hey UNO, sorry you are still having problems.

I'm rubbish at advice but it does seem that you need more time.

It sounds to me that H wants things to go back to the same as they were instantly. And not only is that unrealistic, but how things were before weren't making either of you happy.

You are NOT a horrible person, only fabulous posters are on this thread.

I have never seen anyone fight so hard for a relationship, you are doing grand.xx

Thanks bitter. You are proper lovely :o

I do wonder if I should be trying harder to move on, rather than confront and deal with things. But I think I need too.

He cry much just wants it all to be sorted and back to how things were. In a lot of ways things are much better than they ever have been, he is very involved in the house care and things, is more responsible when it comes to the dcs and their needs, stuff like that.

So there is progress.