She ain't heavy.. she's my Lighter sister... tra la la la laaaa!

[Mittz]

Well, I'm just here for the banter and a chance to talk bollox, and we also do weight loss, WATER drinking (I'm the 'ficcial water monitor, and I have a badge), and heart to hearts..

I am the Mittz(not Mitts), I need to lose about 10lb, but get my head straight in the process..

I am sure one of my lovely companions will be along shortly......

afternoon ladies. got the dentists for us all in an hour - wibble.

uno - on the plus side, he did something v. useful for you - looking after kids rather than just talked about himself - balance needs to shift to more stuff like that over time. on the minus side, it does sound v. passive aggressive the fussing over ADs. anyway - hope you have a great time in France.

I saw someone today who sexually harassed me in work on and off for 4 years, and just felt nothing. Weird.

Have had a long afternoon. Can't believe it's only 5.10.

I like design, might take a peek later. I need to sort my paper work out before I get deported from the county. I hate paperwork. I want a nice desk with a fancy lamp and little drawers so I can feel purposeful.

Mousey, he's finally made a GP appointment (hurrah!) for Wednesday. Maybe this is the beginnings of a positive thing.

TC this is true. He is trying to help out. Offering to do lots of things. But I am so sick of the PA bullshit he keeps resorting to. I agree. I think the ADs thing was just more of the same.

Well the line is drawn.

Thanks for all the support. This last week has been a bit odd.

Here's to onwards and upwards!

I'm off to have a bath and beautify myself while he takes the obnoxious DCs out for a walk

Mittz, sorry x-posted. It's good that you didn't feel anything really, unless you are worried by your lack of reaction. It could just mean you've moved on and you're not tied to those feelings anymore. I hope that's what it is, if it's not you might want to go and have a chat with your GP.

No not worried Crunch, glad I suppose and strange to think he wielded that power 20 yrs ago and now I just looked and felt sorry for him. (20 yrs ago!! HOW old am I)

You sound a little more upbeat lovey.. little steps, and take care of you x

Crunchy - tis a start then, no?

Homemade pizza here tonight. I have been so stressed with BT, DS's nurse coming, builders, Tescos and very important money transfers that I have forgotten to eat lunch. I feel sick. My head is up my arse.

I need to get into the docs too and sort my plumbing out once and for all.

Pha.

I used to have the same issue where I lived with DD. Fecking nightmare, stuff in every room that we never used, it just seemed to breed!!! I think we were too polite to refuse hand outs!

I gutted each room, one by one, and then re-decorated. On a shoe string budget mind but God it felt good to get it all out!!

dentists was a bit grim. DS will need 2 fillings - he has weak enamel apparently, so the combination of sweeties after school, and letting him brush his own teeth is baaaaaaaaaaaad. . god I feel a shit mother. since he was 3, we;ve had poor speech, awful sleep, v. late toilet training, poor social skills (as knock on effect of poor speech!), fussy eating, constipation. and now tooth decay. sigh.

TC - aww. Bless you!!! There are wwwwaaaaayyyyyy worse parents out there than you!!!! Please don't beat yourself up about it.

Double - sorry, I'm here.

I need some advice actually. DD is 11 and has just started to go out. She stays pretty local as in around our tiny village.

I've set a few boundaries. I've told her not to ask to stay out later than we agree once she is out too.

Thing is, she's just done that. And is out with a girl who I'm not keen on as her mother dressers her like a street walker. So she asked to come back at '9 ish'

I said '9 exactly' she text back and said '9 ish, ok?'

I said yes because I was too cross to think of a better reply other than NO!!

It's going dark, she needs a shower and I told her that when we agreed 8.30.

I am so weak now that I know that apparently, her friends think I'm mean and harsh and don't like me cos I have rules.

Help. It's week 1 and I'm failing already.

I am distracted by small people who apparently need mothering the benign neglect of feral offspring is being noticed (by them).

Had a bout of wrestling with DS in which his head was nearly decapitated by a fold up chair.. he was more offended by me collapsing with laughter than the actual pain and indignity. (no chairs were harmed in the incident).

It's alright TC.. weirdy man is constantly trying to make a point that DD has a very limited diet and 'expanding it'.
'Oh I've found something else that your DD will eat'
me - smile good for you you pompous wazzock.
In all the socialising she has done, no other parent has made much of an issue of it
We have had so many battles in this house, it is one I chose not to engage in. She eats well in excess of 5 a day most days, just has fairly bland tastes. He has asked me so many times if we are going away I am not sure if he is trying to make a point. However, there is no point.
I am strangely un perturbable about it.
My DC's have been through enough,we do it our way and are a happy little trio mostly and that is the way it will stay.

I don't like food snobs...

Hmm.. with DS we went through this Mouse.

He had several options.

I go up and fetch him (cue embarrassment in front of mates)

He gets the time he is late knocked off his next day out.

He loses another privilage.

I also reitorate (?sp) over and over that to be trusted he needs to be trustworthy.

It took time but we got there and I did send prompt texts for a while. 10 mins.... 5 mins... GET HERE NOW!

Evening ladies

Reflexology is the best way to spend an hour. Someone rubbing your feet for an hour while you lie back in a chair with your eyes closed. The pedicure was lovely too and i now have barbie pink toenails. All in all it was about 1 hour 40mins and £55 totally worth it.

Sorry everyone is feeling a bit down. I will make some cake tomorrow (calorie free of course and share with you all)

Mousey - however minutes she is late by, subtract it off the next curfew. see how much she likes her "nine-ish" then. grin and bear her mates dubious dress sense. as for being mean mum - even if true - that's what being a good parent is all about - setting boundaries, not being their bezzie mate.

Mittz - I swing from being wotthefuckeva about the fussy eating to pissed off ness. Thing is, I've always had more important fish to fry with DS in terms of language development.

Double - that's a promising dress-up box, you could moonlight as fancy dress hire shop

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Mouse - i think what made me come home on time (mostly) was being made aware why i needed to be home at that time. I was never grounded, but was threatened with "If you don't come home on time, you won't go out" simple.

Alice I loved having reflexology when I was pregnant with DD, a friend does it and she felt DD in my foot when she was 'doing' the womb area.

Thanks all. She has just got home and I've told her (again) not to ask for an extension on her time out after we've agreed on what time to come home.

She said ok, but like 'OK!!!!', rolled her eyes and is now cursing me in her head whilst showering.

TC & Mittz - it's tough re the food. DD is the same everywhere but here! Yesterday, my mum said about her being a fussy eater when we were out, as DD didn't much fancy the dead sheep in blackcurrant jus, followed by the imortal line 'she eats everything I put infront of her'

Sorry Alice. I'm so glad you had a lovley time! I bet you feel wonderful!

Hey Fanny

Kids go through phases though don't they. Stressful at the time but once that phase is over it is forgotten.

Fanny - this woman doesn't really specialise in pregnancy but said she would work a bit on those areas for me as i am keen on going into labour sooner rather than later to avoid another cs. It was amazing how she could tell that i was tight in my left shoulder just from rubbing my feet though (i have dislocated it twice)

DD is a fussy eater, it is such hard work.