Class of '18 nattering as they head in different directions.

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Hope this works. On phone with dodgy signal.

I think that a smart suit and tie would be fine flatmouse.
Just seen your thread and see what you mean thethird am afraid that there are some people out there who don't realise that it is possible for a person to have additional needs and still go to university.
Applying on-line must have some difficulties but have memories of my first few days at university standing in queues to hand-in paper forms which had it's own frustrations.

Third - ignore. Be proud he's going and he'll cope in whatever ways he copes. I've had similar comments and have learnt to let them go over my head (most times!)

have memories of my first few days at university standing in queues to hand-in paper forms

I met DH in one of those queues in the first week (although we didn't become romantically involved until the fourth year) so they had their silver lining.

Hello all,

Could not agree more - what nonsense.
Ignoring is best!

However can not help wondering if the poster is on the FB group that should not be named and is one of the weeper and whailers.

We are back from our holiday and ds was delighted to find his first ever UK passport here waiting for him! He is a dual citizen and we always simply got him a local passport due to the hassle free application process and the cheaper cost. However with Brexit looming we decided it best for him to have both and so he can skip the immigration queues if there is no deal!

I bought him a first aid kit in the USA. So the Uni shopping has begun. Was a really cheap price compared to ones on sale here.

On closer inspection I realized it was quite hard core and includes all sorts of interesting items which ones here do not have. Such as triple antibiotic cream, a foil blanket and a CPR barrier mask and guide!!!

Hopefully he won’t be needing any of those items but like a good scout he will be prepared for any eventuality!

Talking of first aid, the British Red Cross do a free app where you can look up a medical problem and it tells you how to do simple first aid. Obviously this is not instead of proper medical help but might be useful if they get themselves into a situation where someone is hurt.

I've just had to unfollow the FB group that shall not be named....it was getting too much!

Banquet I am still following it because it makes me feel quite sane!

Yes come on here for sensible advice.

marmiteloversunite that sounds useful, I will suggest it to DD2 (unless that counts as getting too involved!).

Of course many if not most will need some support with admin. DD2 got into university because she is good at maths and sciences not because she is good at working her way through a bureaucratic jungle.

That group has reminded me why I have never bothered with FB.

Hi everyone, wondered where everyone had gone. I now have 12 pages to catch up on. Pour the wine...

Have not left the FB group - find it on very rare occasions useful and also blinking fascinating and horrifying in equal amounts. Makes me feel like a very laid back invested mom - which is prob a rare event :)

Ds just told me (from his halls chat) we will get his room allocation and moving in slot next week.

Trying to persuade him to cone to IKEA during this week but is not very integrated in bath mats and duvets so may end up going alone. It is only 10 minutes from our house so we will prob go one evening mid week to beat the weekend crowds.

Some of ds friends have already left for Uni - those in France and the Netherlands have already started ..... and so the scattering of friends in all directions begins.

Am jet lagged - please excuse the typos.

Third I am outraged on your behalf. Would they say that a person in a wheelchair shouldn't go to university because they wouldn't be able to cope with the stairs?

Third I've seen those comments too and they really leave an unpleasant feeling; unnecessary and not at all true. We all have things we're good at and other things that don't come as easily, and that'll be the same whether we're young and off to uni, or parents of all kinds of ages. Also, admin for new courses, or jobs, or placements, can often be difficult and sometimes bizarrely complicated. (Yes, DS did ask me to look at his online registration forms earlier this week and there were odd questions where we both had to deduce what was needed 😕. I still think he's ready to study though!)

Thank you to all of you for your support, both here and on the thread in question. Having known me (and by association DS1) for the last couple of years, I think your opinions hold more weight than a randomer who knows nothing about him.

I've been reassured that DS1 has been booking his own GP appointments and keeping on top of his prescription requests.

His inhaler was in the bag that was stolen at Reading Festival - I suggested he request a repeat prescription from the home GP so he can collect a replacement before he leaves. He's planning to register with a GP at university but I don't want him to be without an inhaler if there are delays in paperwork or transferring records.

He told me it's fine, because he has a spare inhaler he can take to university. I asked to see this spare inhaler...

...the expiry date was in 2015.

Two steps forward, one step back.

She also hadn''t read the thread properly because it was clear that you were supporting him to do it himself not doing it for him.
I am glad you are not giving it head space. It was a really nasty and personal attack.

I'm rubbish at admin as well third so I probably don't deserve to go to uni either (is a good job I went a while ago before random internet people could inform me I shouldn't). I don't even have a particular reason for being bad with admin, it just doesn't make sense to me. I had 3 attempts at filling in my but of the student loan stuff (because I didn't have an email address linked to my loans account from when I did my degree and then failed security to be able to add one, etc it was awful)

There are some cross and pompous people out there! Take no notice thethird.

DS isn't the best at paperwork but he's getting there - it's all a learning curve for us as well as DC's.

third
Some people are rude. No need.

The Facebook group which thou shalt not be named also has some pompous people on there as dd discovered today
I was in there and removed after what I saw

I do not do FB. Bit too out there for me. But i'm picking up idea that it was suggested that 'DC are supposed to be fully independent' as I have seen on MN too.

My DS had every single bit of admin done by me or in tandem with pre starting uni. Needed that. DS had DSA support set up too. He's done terrific and does nearly everything independently now. On occassion, passes a form by me for 2nd opinion. DC mature at different stages. I just go with my intuition.

My DD needs very diffferent parenting and that has its challenges too!

It's not just the Facebook people saying that DCs should be independent, there is a real smugness about what their children can do and how lacking other people's children are!

Not sure what threads you are refering to marmite.

I saw the condescending fb thread about parents who dare to buy stuff for their child, and was saying the child should be doing it all themselves.

Voilets or is a Facebook group about starting uni. Not actually on mumsnet. Sorry if my post didn't make sense!

That was the thread that annoyed me petals. Think the DD had been working since she was 16 and buying something from each pay packet ready to leave home. It was very much a stealth boast.